Okuqukethwe
Kwenzekani kithi uma sishintsha umsebenzi? Futhi uma sisuka kumfundi sibe uchwepheshe ofunwayo, ube ngumama noma uthathe umhlalaphansi? Kuyini ukuguqulwa kwendima efihliwe, enganakile futhi kungani kuyingozi? Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sikhuluma ngenkinga yokuhlehla indima.
Kukho konke ukuphila, sishintsha izindima zethu izikhathi eziningana. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi asinaso ngisho nesikhathi sokuqaphela ukuthi sesidlulele “kwizinga elisha”, okusho ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokushintsha ukuziphatha kwethu, siqale ukwenza ngendlela ehlukile. Lapho indima yethu ishintsha, izimfuneko zezimfanelo zethu, izenzo kanye namasu okuphila nakho kuyashintsha. Izindlela zakudala zokuthola impumelelo, ukuthola amabhonasi empilweni, ziyeke ukusebenza.
Ukuguqulwa kwendima efihliwe
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ngaphezu kwezinguquko zendima ezicacile, kukhona nezifihliwe. Isibonelo, ebhizinisini, lokhu kungase kube uguquko ukusuka endimeni kasomabhizinisi ukuya esikhundleni somphathi ophethe inkampani. Lezi zindima zinzima kakhulu - ziyingozi ngoba asiboni njalo ukushintsha kwazo ngesikhathi. Uchungechunge lwamaphutha kuphela olusiza ukuqonda ukuthi isikhathi sesifikile sokushintsha isu lokuziphatha.
"Inkinga ebuyisela emuva indima ezimpilweni zethu ibuhlungu njengenkinga ekhona," kuphawula uMarina Melia encwadini yakhe entsha, Indlela kaMarina Melia. Ungawaqinisa kanjani amandla akho” uprofesa wezengqondo, umqeqeshi uMarina Melia, — “Noma yiziphi izinguquko, ngisho nezinhle kakhulu, ezijabulisayo, ezifiselekayo, zihlala zicindezela. Esikhathini esinzima sokuguquka kusuka kwendima eyodwa kuya kwesinye, umuntu oye waphumelela njalo kukho konke, ophumelelayo futhi ozethembayo, uvame ukunikeza umbono womfana ongenakuzisiza owavela kuqala emkhunjini.
Ungashintsha kanjani indima?
Enkingeni ebuyisela emuva indima, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukubona ukuthi sibhekene nezinselele ezintsha. Ukuxazulula lezi zinkinga, cishe sizokwenza izinto ezingavamile kithi futhi senze ezinye izici zobuntu bethu zibe ngokoqobo - hhayi lezo ebesithembele kuzo ngaphambili.
Ake sibhekisise ukuguqulwa kwezindima ezimpilweni zethu, sinqume ubunzima esingase sibhekane nabo, futhi sikhethe amasu angcono kakhulu okuziphatha. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo-umeluleki u-Ilya Shabshin uzosisiza ngalokhu.
1. Iqhaza elisha: umfundi
Ubunzima Bendima: Ukuguqulwa kwendima yokuqala ebalulekile okungaholela enkingeni kwenzeka ngokushesha ngemva kokuthweswa iziqu. Abaningi balaba abathweswe iziqu baba abafundi futhi ngokushesha babhekane nezifundo ezinzima kunasesikoleni, ngamaphepha ethemu kanye neseshini yokuqala. Eqenjini elisha, ukuncintisana nokuzabalaza "kwamaphuzu" kubonakala, okungamukeleki kuzo zonke izinhlobo zobuntu. Ngalesi sikhathi, ukungabaza kungase kuthuthuke, ukuzethemba kungase kwehle. Ubungane nofunda nabo ngokuvamile buphela, kuba nomuzwa wesizungu.
Izincomo zesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo: Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, kubalulekile ukunqoba ukucindezeleka ngokuzivumelanisa nezimo ezintsha: emthwalweni wokufunda, indawo engajwayelekile, izidingo ezintsha. Ungazihoxisi kuwe, kodwa yakha ubudlelwano nabanye abafundi, yenza abangane abasha. Thuthukisa ukuzithiba, funda ukuqeda nokudlulisela izabelo zokufunda ngesikhathi. Futhi, yiqiniso, funda amakhono azoba usizo kamuva ekuphileni okuzimele.
2. Indima entsha: uchwepheshe
Ubunkimbinkimbi bendima: Kufika isigaba empilweni lapho izindlela zakudala zokuthola impumelelo, amamaki aphezulu zingase zingasebenzi. Lapho sithweswa iziqu futhi sithola umsebenzi okokuqala, sibhekana nezinga elihlukile lomthwalo wemfanelo, imiphumela emibi kakhulu yezenzo zethu. Manje kubalulekile kithi ukwakha ubudlelwano bezinhlobo ezahlukene: nabaphathi, abangaphansi, ozakwethu, ozakwethu, amaklayenti. Siqala ukuthola imali futhi sifunde ukwaba isabelomali, senza amaphutha okuqala. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, abaningi bethu bacabanga ngokudala umndeni, okudinga futhi amandla, izinsiza ezengeziwe.
Izincomo ze-Psychologist: Zama ukushintsha izilungiselelo, imithetho yesikhathi sokufunda ngezintsha, ezichwepheshile. Funda ukugcina ubudlelwano bebhizinisi, ukuxazulula izingxabano, ukuvikela isikhundla sakho. Futhi khumbula ukuthi akekho kithi ongagonyiwe emaphutheni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokwenza amaphutha, sisondela emgomweni wethu - ukuthuthukiswa ngempumelelo kwendima entsha. Funda ukumelana nokucindezeleka okuhambisana nokugxekwa, ukulayisha ngokweqile. Thuthukisa amakhono akho, zuza ulwazi namakhono uwedwa, ngosizo lozakwenu abanolwazi olunzulu noma ngokuhambela izifundo. Hlukanisa isikhathi sakho phakathi komsebenzi nezinye izici zempilo yakho.
3. Indima entsha: umama noma ubaba
Ubunkimbinkimbi bendima: Abazali abazalwa. Into yokuqala ozobhekana nayo endimeni entsha kamama noma ubaba isidingo sokunakekela ingane ngaphandle kokuba nolwazi olwanele namakhono. Cishe, ngeke ulale ngokwanele, ngeke ube nesikhathi esanele namandla okuhlanganisa izindima ezihlukene: umzali nomshado. Kuzoba nezindleko ezintsha.
Izincomo ze-Psychologist: Mhlawumbe into engcono kakhulu eningayenzela omunye nomunye iwukuhlanganyela imithwalo yemfanelo nokunakekela ingane ndawonye. Lokhu kuzosiza "ukungashiyi" ngokuphelele ekunakekeleni izingane, ukuthola isikhathi sakho kanye nendawo yokukhipha imizwa emihle. Kancane kancane, uzofunda ukuthola ulwazi oluthembekile, isipiliyoni ekukhulumeni nengane sizovela. Zizwe ukhululekile ukucela usizo ezihlotsheni, abangani, ochwepheshe — ungathathi yonke imithwalo yemfanelo ehlobene nokunakekela umntwana.
4. Iqhaza elisha: ohola impesheni
Ubunkimbinkimbi bendima: Ngalesi sikhathi, indlela evamile yokuphila kwethu ibhujiswa, isimiso sansuku zonke siyashintsha. Kungase kube nomuzwa wokuntuleka kokufunwa nokungabi nalusizo. Isiyingi sokuxhumana siyancipha. Yengeza kulokhu izinkinga zezimali ezinciphisa izinga lokuphila, futhi uzoqonda ukuthi kungani le ndima entsha ivame ukuholela abantu esimweni sokucindezeleka nokungabi nathemba.
Izincomo zesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo: Zama ukuthola izithakazelo ezintsha kanye namagugu. Gcina umsebenzi womzimba, qapha umsoco kanye nempilo. Nweba umbuthano wakho wokuxhumana nabantu, uhlangane nalabo onezintshisekelo ezifanayo nabo. Lwela ukuxhumana nezingane, abazukulu, nezinye izihlobo. Cabanga ngokuthi yiziphi izinto ezintsha zokuzilibazisa ezingakulethela ndawonye wena nophathina wakho. Mhlawumbe uphuphe ukuhamba ngezinyawo noma ukuthola inja usemncane, futhi manje sekuvele isikhathi salokhu.