Okuqukethwe
Inkolo empilweni yomndeni
“Ubaba uyikholwa mina angikholwa ukuthi uNkulunkulu ukhona. Ingane yethu izobhapathizwa kodwa iyozikhethela ukukholelwa noma ukungakholwa, lapho isikhule ngokwanele ukuba iziqonde ngokwayo futhi iqoqe yonke imininingwane efuna ukwakha umbono. Akekho ozomphoqa ukuthi amukele lokhu noma leyonkolelo. Kuyinto yomuntu siqu,” kuchaza umama ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Ngokuvamile, abazali benkolo exubile bachaza ukuthi ingane yabo iyokwazi ukukhetha inkolo yayo kamuva. Akucaci kangako, ngokusho kuka-Isabelle Levy, onguchwepheshe ezindabeni zokuhlukahluka kwezenkolo kulo mbhangqwana. Okwakhe : " Lapho umntwana ezalwa, umbhangqwana kumelwe uzibuze ukuthi uzoyikhulisa kanjani enkolweni noma cha. Yiziphi izinto zokukhulekela ezizokhonjiswa ekhaya, yimiphi imikhosi esizoyilandela? Ngokuvamile ukukhetha kwegama lokuqala yikho okunqumayo. Njengombuzo wokubhapathizwa ekuzalweni kwengane. Omunye umama ukubheka njengokungcono kakhulu ukulinda: “Ngikuthola kuwubuwula ukubabhapathiza mntanami. Asizange sibabuze lutho. Ngiyikholwa kodwa angiyona ingxenye yenkolo ethile. Ngizomtshela izindaba ezibalulekile zebhayibheli kanye nemigqa esemqoka yezinkolo ezinkulu, ngesiko lakhe, hhayi ikakhulukazi ukuthi akholelwe kuzo ”. Ngakho ukhuluma kanjani nezingane zakho ngenkolo? Ebakholwayo noma cha, imibhangqwana yenkolo exubile, abazali bavame ukuzibuza ngendima yenkolo enganeni yabo.
Izinkolo zokukholelwa kuNkulunkulu oyedwa kanye nezinkolo eziningi
Ezinkolweni zokukholelwa kuNkulunkulu oyedwa (uNkulunkulu oyedwa), umuntu uba umKristu ngokubhapathizwa. Omunye ungumJuda ngokuzalwa ngombandela wokuthi umama ungumJuda. UyiSulumane uma uzalwa ubaba ongumSulumane. "Uma umama engumSulumane futhi ubaba ungumJuda, ingane ayilutho nhlobo ngokombono wenkolo" kucacisa u-Isabelle Lévy. Enkolweni yamaPolytheistic (onkulunkulu abaningana) njengobuHindu, izici zezenhlalo nezenkolo zobukhona zixhumene. Umphakathi wakhiwe ngama-castes, uhlelo lwe-hierarchical of social and religion stratification, oluhambisana nezinkolelo nezinqubo zokukhulekela zomuntu ngamunye. Ukuzalwa kwengane ngayinye kanye nezigaba ezahlukene zokuphila kwayo (umfundi, inhloko yomndeni, umhlalaphansi, njll.) kunquma indlela yokuphila kwayo. Imizi eminingi inendawo yokukhulekela: amalungu omkhaya ayinikeza ukudla, izimbali, impepho, amakhandlela. Onkulunkulu nonkulunkulukazi abadume kakhulu, njengoKrishna, uShiva noDurga, bayahlonishwa, kodwa futhi onkulunkulu abaziwa ngemisebenzi yabo ethile (ngokwesibonelo, unkulunkulukazi weNgxibongobongo) noma abasebenzisa isenzo sabo, isivikelo sabo kuphela endaweni elinganiselwe. Ingane ikhula enhliziyweni yenkolo. Emindenini exubile, kuyinkimbinkimbi kunalokho okubukeka.
Ukukhula phakathi kwezinkolo ezimbili
Ukuzalanisa ngokwenkolo ngokuvamile kubhekwa njengokunotha kwamasiko. Ukuba nobaba nomama benkolo ehlukene kungaba isiqinisekiso sokuvuleleka. Ngezinye izikhathi kungase kube yinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Umama uyasichazela: “Mina ngingumJuda futhi ubaba ungumKristu. Sazitshela ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa ukuthi uma kungumfana, wayezosokwa FUTHI abhapathizwe. Ekukhuleni kwethu, besikhuluma naye kakhulu ngalezi zinkolo ezimbili, bekukuye ukuthi azikhethele ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ”. Ngokuka-Isabelle Levy “lapho abazali bezinkolo ezimbili ezihlukene, kungaba kuhle ukuba enye iphambukele kwenye. Inkolo eyodwa kufanele ifundiswe enganeni ukuze ibe nezinkomba eziqinile ngaphandle kokungqubuzana. Uma kungenjalo kungani ubhapathiza ingane uma ngemva kokuba kungekho ukulandelana kwezenkolo ngesikhathi sobuntwana ekhathekizimu noma esikoleni seKoranic? “. Kuchwepheshe, emibhangqwaneni yenkolo exubile, ingane akufanele ishiywe nesisindo sokukhetha phakathi kukayise wenkolo ethile nomama wenye. “Umbhangqwana othile wawuhlukanise isiqandisi sibe izingxenye eziningana ukuze uhlukanise ukudla kwe-halal kukamama, owayengumSulumane, nokukababa, owayengumKatolika. Lapho ingane ifuna isoseji, yayimba nomaphi efrijini, kodwa ibe nezinkulumo ezivela kunoma yimuphi umzali ukuze idle isoseji “elilungile,” kodwa iliphi? »Kuchaza u-Isabelle Levy. Akakuboni kuyinto enhle ukuvumela ingane ikholelwe ukuthi izokhetha kamuva. Ngokuphambene nalokho, “Enkathini yokuthomba, ingane ingashintshashintsha ngokushesha ngoba ithola inkolo kungazelelwe. Lokhu kungaba njalo uma kungekho ukwesekwa nokufunda okuqhubekayo ebuntwaneni okudingekayo ukuze kuhlanganiswe kahle futhi kuqondwe inkolo, ”kwengeza u-Isabelle Levy.
Iqhaza lenkolo enganeni
U-Isabelle Levy ucabanga ukuthi emindenini engakholelwa kuNkulunkulu, kungase kube khona ukuntuleka kwengane. Uma abazali bekhetha ukukhulisa ingane yabo ngaphandle kwenkolo, iyobhekana nayo esikoleni, nabangane bayo, abayoba nokulalela okunjalo. ” Ingane empeleni ayikhululekile ukukhetha inkolo ekubeni ingayazi ukuthi iyini. “Ngempela, kuye inkolo inendima” yokuziphatha, okuyisenzo. Silandela imithetho, ukwenqatshelwa, impilo yansuku zonke yakhelwe enkolweni ”. Yilokho okwenzeka kuSophie, umama onomyeni ongowenkolo efanayo: “Ngikhulisela amadodana ami enkolweni yobuJuda. Sidlulisela inkolo yobuJuda ezinganeni zethu, kanye nomyeni wami. Ngitshela izingane zami ngomlando womndeni wethu kanye nabantu bamaJuda. NgoLwesihlanu kusihlwa, ngezinye izikhathi sizama ukwenza i-kiddush (umthandazo we-shabbat) lapho sidla isidlo sakusihlwa endlini kadadewethu. Futhi ngifuna abafana bami benze i-bar mitzah (isidlo). Sinenqwaba yezincwadi. Ngisanda kuchazela indodana yami nokuthi kungani “ipipi” layo lihlukile kwelabangane bayo. Bengingafuni ukuthi kube ngabanye abathi ngelinye ilanga bawuveze lo mehluko. Ngafunda okuningi ngenkolo ngisemncane emakamu ehlobo amaJuda abazali bami abangithumele kuwo. Ngihlose ukwenza okufanayo nezingane zami ”.
Ukudluliswa kwenkolo ngogogo nomkhulu
Ogogo nomkhulu banendima ebalulekile ekudluliseleni amasiko nenkolo kubazukulu babo emkhayeni. U-Isabelle Levy usichazela ukuthi wayenobufakazi obubuhlungu bukagogo nomkhulu ababedabukile ngokungakwazi ukudlulisela imikhuba yabo kubafana abancane bendodakazi yabo, eshade nomyeni ongumSulumane. “Ugogo wayengumKatolika, ngokwesibonelo, wayengakwazi ukondla izingane i-quiche Lorraine, ngenxa kabhekeni. Ukubayisa esontweni ngamaSonto, njengoba ayejwayele ukwenza, kwakungavunyelwe, yonke into yayinzima. “I-filiation ayenzeki, kuhlaziya umbhali. Ukufunda ngenkolo kudlula impilo yansuku zonke phakathi kogogo nomkhulu, abasekhweni, abazali nezingane, ngesikhathi sokudla kanye nokuhlanganyela izitsha ezithile zendabuko, amaholide ezweni lendabuko ukuze kuhlangane nomndeni, ukugujwa kwamaholide enkolo. Ngokuvamile, abasekhweni lomunye wabazali ababashukumisela ukuba bakhethele izingane inkolo. Uma izinkolo ezimbili zihlangana, kuyoba nzima kakhulu. Izingane ezisacathula zingase zizwe ukuqina. Ku-Isabelle Levy, “izingane ziwuveza ngokucacile umehluko ongokwenkolo wabazali. Imithandazo, ukudla, amadili, ukusoka, isidlo, njll… yonke into izoba izaba zokudala ukungqubuzana kombhangqwana wenkolo oxubile ”.