Ukuqina yikhono lokwakha kabusha ngemva kokuhlukumezeka. Kunezici ezikhuthaza ukuqina. Umelaphi angasiza umuntu aqale inqubo yokuqina. 

Igama elithi resilience livela kwelesiLatini elithi resilientia, igama elisetshenziswa emkhakheni we-metallurgy ukukhombisa amandla ento ukubuyisela isimo sokuqala ngemva kokushaqeka noma ingcindezi eqhubekayo. 

Igama elithi ukuqina liwumqondo womqondo wokusebenza kwengqondo obhekisela kumakhono abantu ngabanye, amaqembu, imindeni okubhekana nezimo ezicindezelayo noma ezilimazayo: ukugula, ukukhubazeka, isenzakalo esibuhlungu … Ukuqina yikhono lokuphuma unqobile osizini obekungase lube buhlungu kakhulu.

Lo mqondo wavuswa ngawo-1940 ngochwepheshe bezengqondo baseMelika futhi wathandwa ngu-Boris Cyrulnik, i-French neuropsychiatrist kanye ne-psychoanalyst. Uchaza ukuqina “njengekhono lokuchuma noma kunjalo, ezindaweni obekufanele ngabe sezonakele”.

Umqondo wokuqina usetshenziswa ezinhlotsheni ezimbili zezimo: kubantu okuthiwa basengozini futhi abakwazi ukuthuthukisa ngaphandle kokulimala kwengqondo futhi abazivumelanisa nomphakathi naphezu kwezimo zokuphila ezingathandeki kakhulu zomndeni nezenhlalakahle kanye nabantu, abadala noma izingane. izingane, ezakha kabusha ngemva kobunzima noma izenzakalo ezibuhlungu. 

UDkt Boris Cyrulnik unikeze incazelo yephrofayili yomuntu oqinile kusukela ngo-1998.

Umuntu oqinile (kungakhathaleki iminyaka yakhe) angaba isihloko esiveza izici ezilandelayo: 

• I-IQ ephezulu,
• ikwazi ukuzimela nokusebenza kahle ebudlelwaneni bayo nemvelo,
• enomuzwa wokuthi ubalulekile kuye,
• ukuba namakhono amahle okusebenzelana nabantu kanye nozwela,
• ukwazi ukulindela nokuhlela,
• nokuba nomuzwa omuhle wamahlaya.

Abantu abanekhono lokukhuthazela basesifundeni esithonywe yi-Boris Cyrulnick sabantu abathole uthando besebancane futhi baba nokusabela okwamukelekayo ezidingweni zabo ezingokwenyama, okwadala kubo uhlobo oluthile lokumelana nobunzima. 

Ukusebenza kokuqina kungahlukaniswa ngezigaba ezimbili:

• Isinyathelo sokuqala: isikhathi sokuhlukumezeka: umuntu (omdala noma ingane) umelana nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo ngokubeka izindlela zokuzivikela ezizomvumela ukuthi azivumelanise neqiniso. 
• Isinyathelo sesibili: isikhathi sokuhlanganiswa kokushaqeka nokulungiswa. Ngemva kokugqashuka kobuhlungu, kuba nokumiswa kabusha kancane kancane kwamabhondi, bese kuba ukwakhiwa kabusha okuvela ebunzimeni. Idlula isidingo sokunikeza incazelo yokulimala kwakhe. Ukuvela kwale nqubo kuthanda ukusimama lapho umuntu esebuyise amandla akhe okuthemba. Angaba yingxenye yephrojekthi yempilo futhi azikhethele yena.

U-Antoine Guédeney, udokotela wengqondo yezingane kanye nelungu leParis Psychoanalysis Institute wabhala encwadini ethi “ asiqiniseki ngokwethu, ngaphandle kokuba nobudlelwane ”. Ngakho-ke, izici ezithintekayo zinendima ebaluleke kakhulu ekuqiniseni amandla. Labo abangathembela othandweni lwabasondelene nabo banamandla okunqoba ukuhlukumezeka. 

Uhambo lokuqina nalo aluvamile ukwenziwa lulodwa. Ngokuvamile kwenziwa kusebenze ngokungenela komunye umuntu: umfundisi wezingane noma abantu abasha, uthisha, umnakekeli. U-Boris Cyrulnick ukhuluma "ngabaqaphi bokuqina". 

Ukwelashwa kungazama ukuletha inqubo eqinile. Inhloso yomsebenzi wokwelapha ukuguqula ukuhlukumezeka kube injini.