Bekungeke yini kube kuhle uma ubungase uqale usuku ngalunye uwedwa, ubheke ulwandle ngenkomishi yekhofi, uzindle buthule engadini yakho, noma mhlawumbe ufunde umagazini, uzipholele embhedeni nenkomishi yetiye? Uma ungumama, amahora akho asekuseni cishe awaqali kanjena. Esikhundleni sokuzola - isiphithiphithi, esikhundleni sokuthula - ukukhathala, esikhundleni sokujwayela - ukuxhamazela. Futhi nakuba kungelula, ungaletha ukuqwashisa osukwini lwakho futhi usebenzise ubuciko bokuba khona.
Zibekele umgomo wokuba nengqondo namuhla nakulo lonke leli sonto. Qaphela (ngaphandle kokwahlulela) ukuthi umzimba wakho uzizwa kanjani lapho uvuka. Ingabe ikhathele noma ibuhlungu? Ingabe kuzwakala kumnandi? Thatha umoya ojulile ngaphakathi nangaphandle ngaphambi kokuba izinyawo zakho zithinte phansi. Zikhumbuze ukuthi usuku olusha seluzoqala. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhungatheke kangakanani futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlu lwakho lwezinto okufanele uzenze lude kangakanani, ungathatha imizuzu embalwa ukubuka impilo yakho futhi uqaphele nje okwenzekayo.
Naka isimo sokuqala sasekuseni ebusweni bengane yakho. Qaphela ukufudumala kokuphuza kokuqala kwekhofi noma itiye. Naka umuzwa womzimba wengane yakho nesisindo ezingalweni zakho. Yizwa amanzi afudumele nensipho esikhumbeni sakho njengoba ugeza izandla zakho.
Uma ungena kumodi kamama phakathi nosuku, bukela ingane yakho nge-lens yelukuluku. Ingabe ufuna ukusondelana nawe noma ukudlala yedwa? Ingabe uzama okuthile okusha noma ulindele ukusekelwa kwakho? Ingabe isimo sobuso bakhe siyashintsha lapho egxile kokuthile ngempela? Ingabe amehlo akhe ayafiphala njengoba ephenya amakhasi lapho nifunda izincwadi ndawonye? Ingabe izwi lakhe liyashintsha lapho ejabule ngempela ngokuthile?
Njengomama, sidinga lawa makhono okuqonda ukuze sikwazi ukuqondisa kabusha ukunaka kwethu lapho sidingeka khona kakhulu. Ezikhathini ezinzima, yima futhi uzibuze, “Ingabe ngikhona? Ingabe ngibhekene nalesi sikhathi? Yiqiniso, ezinye zalezi zikhathi zizofaka izintaba zezitsha ezingcolile kanye nemisebenzi engaqediwe emsebenzini, kodwa uma uhlangabezana ngokugcwele nokuphila kwakho, uzokubona ezingeni elisha lokujula nokuqwashisa.
Ukuzindla Kwabazali
Ukunaka kwakho kungase kuzule futhi ungase ukhohlwe lo mkhuba, kodwa yingakho ubizwa umkhuba. Nganoma isiphi isikhathi sosuku, ungabuyela okwamanje futhi ube nethuba elisha lokuchitha izikhathi ezibalulekile zokuphila kwakho nezingane zakho. Thatha imizuzu engu-15 ngosuku ukuze ume kancane futhi ujabulele lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho, ubona isimangaliso esiyimpilo yakho.
Thola indawo yokuhlala noma ukulala lapho ungakhululeka khona. Yehlisa umoya umzuzwana bese uqala ngokudonsa umoya kathathu noma kane. Vala amehlo akho uma uthanda. Zivumele uthokozele ukuthula. Kwazise ukuthi kuhle kangakanani ukuba wedwa. Manje bhekana nezinkumbulo. Buyela emuva kumzuzu owaqala ngawo ukubona ubuso bengane yakho. Ake uzizwe lesi simangaliso futhi. Khumbula ukuthi uzitshele kanjani: "Ingabe lokhu kuyiqiniso?". Cabanga emuva ngesikhathi uqala ukuzwa ingane yakho ithi “Mama”. Lezi zikhathi zizohlala nawe kuze kube phakade.
Njengoba uzindla, zindla ngezimangaliso nomlingo wempilo yakho bese uphefumula nje. Ngokuphefumula ngakunye, phefumula ubuhle bezinkumbulo ezimnandi bese ubamba umoya wakho isikhashana, uzijabulise. Ngokukhipha umoya ngakunye, mamatheka kancane futhi uvumele lezi zikhathi eziyigugu ukuthi zikuthobe. Phinda, donsa umoya kancane futhi awukhiphe.
Buya kulokhu kuzindla noma nini lapho uzwa sengathi ulahlekelwa umlingo wokuba ngumama. Thola futhi izinkumbulo ezigcwele injabulo futhi uvule amehlo akho ezikhathini zansuku zonke ezimangalisayo ezikuzungezile. Umlingo uhlala ulapha futhi manje.