Kuthiwani uma, ezimpilweni zethu, sigcina ngokuyeka ukubona ingilazi engenalutho kuphela? Ukubona ukuphila ku-pink, kungase kube lula kakhulu kunalokho ucabanga! Bonisa ukubonga ngokuphila, ukhumbula ukuthi siphila ezikhathini ezingcono kunangaphambili, sifunda kokuhlangenwe nakho okunzima ukuzenza amafa. Kuthiwani uma, kusukela namuhla, sishiya imininingwane engasho lutho ngemuva kwethu, bonke labo abasengozini yokucekela phansi izimpilo zethu ngaphandle kwesizathu, futhi siqala ukuqiniseka, ukwazisa, kalula nje, injabulo yokuba khona?

«Injabulo phela iwumsebenzi wokuqala namuhla, kubhala u-Albert Camus. Ubufakazi buwukuthi sivame ukucasha ukuze sikusebenzise. Ngenjabulo namuhla kufana nobugebengu bomthetho ovamile: ungalokothi uvume.Futhi uma ekugcineni besazi ukuthi singayithola kanjani injabulo lapho ikhona, futhi siyivume kithi ngokwethu? Ngoba masingakhohlwa: njengoba uCamus ephinde wathi: “Kufanele uqine futhi ujabule ukusiza abantu abasenkingeni"...

Ukubamba izinjabulo ezilula, isibonelo, ukujabulela isikhashana esabelana nengane yakho. Zizwe uphila ngokugcwele phakathi nohambo, uwedwa noma nomndeni, sibheke zonke izinzuzo zako ezinzwa zethu, ukuphaphamele ngokugcwele iphunga nemibala, ukukhala okupholile kwezinyoni kanye nokuzwa komoya noma ilanga esikhumbeni ... ukufunda incwadi ebhalwe kahle. Ukuze ajabule ngomzuzwana awuchithe nabangane bakhe. Bamba iqhaza ekuzilolongeni okunemisipha emihle… Jabulela ngokugcwele ukulalela ucezu lomculo. Zonke lezi zinjabulo ezincane zansuku zonke, lapho sifunda ukuzazisa ngenani lazo langempela, lapho sikwazi ukuphatha isikhathi futhi sisiphile, senza impilo yethu yansuku zonke isidlo esihlwabusayo esizonambitheka!

Ukuba nombono omuhle kusho ukubonga ngalokho onakho. Ukubona izici ezinhle zempilo yethu, ngamafuphi, ukuqaphela ingcebo yethu, ukubona ngandlela thile ingilazi isigcwele kunokuba ingilazi isigamu ingenalutho… "Ukufunda ukujabula ibhizinisi lansuku zonke!“, kusho uTal Ben-Shahar, owafundisa i-positive psychology eHarvard.

Uyaphikelela: “Uchitha umzuzu noma emibili ngosuku uzitshela 'ngiyabonga ukuthi ngiyaphila'kunemiphumela engasoleki“. Lapho bebuyekeza izizathu zabo zokubonga, abantu abagcini nje ngokujabula, kodwa futhi bazimisele ngokwengeziwe, banomdlandla futhi banethemba. UTal Ben-Shahar uyacacisa: “Futhi baphana kakhulu futhi bayashesha ukusekela abanye.Singakwazi ngisho, ngaphakathi kwabashadikazi, sikhumbuzane njalo lokho okusikhuthaza ukuqashelwa ebudlelwaneni bethu njengombhangqwana.

Ngakho-ke, lapho nje ukubonga kuba umkhuba, asisadingi umcimbi othile ukuze sigubhe… U-Oprah Winfrey, umdidiyeli wethelevishini waseMelika, uthe: “Uma ugxila kokuthile, leyo nto iyakhula; uma sigxila ezintweni ezinhle empilweni, kuzoba nokuningi ngokwengeziwe okuhle. Kusukela ngomzuzu engikwazi ngawo ukuzwa ukubonga kungakhathalekile ukuthi kwenzakalani empilweni yami, izinto ezinhle zangehlela.«

«Umuntu akakwazi ukufinyelela injabulo yangempela ngaphandle kwengxenye ethile yokungakhululeki ngokomzwelo nezigaba ezibuhlungu", Futhi ucabangela uTal Ben-Shahar. Iphindwaphindwa ezingomeni eziningi, umushwana odumile wesazi sefilosofi uFrédéric Nietzche, endabeni yakhe. Ukuhlwa Kwezithombe okushicilelwe ngo-1888, kulesisithombe kunembile impela: “Okungakubulili kukwenza ube namandla.Injabulo isho ukunqoba uvivinyo nezithiyo.

Ekugcineni, kuTal Ben Shahar, "izigaba ezinzima zandisa amandla okwazisa ubumnandi; ngempela, bayasivimbela ekucabangeni lokhu njengemfanelo, futhi basikhumbuza ukuthi kufanele sibonge ngezinjabulo ezincane njengenjabulo enkulu.“. Manje, eqinisweni, njengoba uMarcel Proust abhala ngokufanelekile, "ungakwazi ukwelapha ubuhlungu kuphela uma ubuzwa ngokugcwele“. Masibone izinhlangothi ezinhle zokwehluleka kwethu, ukuhlupheka kwethu kwangaphambili, kanye nezinhlungu zethu, masiqaphele ukuthi zisiletheleni… Masifunde ukupholisa, ngokwenza amanxeba ethu abe amandla!

Yebo, ngokuqinisekile: ngakho-ke, uprofesa wezengqondo eHarvard kanye nomlobi wezindaba ophumelelayo, uSteven Pinker, okulinganiselwa ngo-2017, ukuthi kwakufanelekile "phila kangcono namuhla kunanoma yisiphi isikhathi ngaphambili ”. Uthe: “Kunenguqulo yomlando wakamuva osemfashinini kakhulu, ehlanganisa ukuchaza ukuthi ukucabanga nesimanje kwasinika izimpi zezwe ezimbili, iShoah, ubushiqela, nokuthi wona la mabutho ayabhubhisa. imvelo futhi iholele isintu ekubhujisweni kwayo".

Umbhali wendaba ukhethe ukuthatha okuphambene ncamashi nalokhu kulandisa kwabamnyama, ethi umhlaba ungcono namuhla kunangaphambili, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sithatha yiphi indlela. Ngakho-ke, namuhla, mancane amathuba okuba ufe empini noma udlame. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungowesifazane noma uyingane, ukudlwengulwa, kanye nokuhlukunyezwa, akuvamile.

Futhi uSteven Pinker ube esebala uhlu olude lwezimpikiswano ukuze asekele umbono wakhe: “Isikhathi sokuphila sesikhuphukile, izifo ziphathwa kangcono kakhulu. Ingane esanda kuzalwa inethuba elingcono kakhulu lokuqeda unyaka wayo wokuqala.“Futhi lesi sazi sokusebenza kwengqondo siyaqinisekisa, ukuthi ngaphezu kwalokho, namuhla futhi sifunde kangcono, ukuthi sinolwazi olwengeziwe, ikakhulukazi i-Internet. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abesifazane nabo banamathuba amaningi okufunda futhi abasaphili ngaphansi kwesithupha samadoda, noma kunoma yikuphi okuncane kakhulu. Siphinde sibe nethuba lokuhamba, futhi ukunethezeka kwethu ngokwezinto ezibonakalayo akukaze kube phezulu kangako.

USteven Pinker ekugcineni ukholelwa ukuthi, "ngamafuphi, uhlelo Lokukhanyisela lube yiqiniso“. Sinakho konke ukuze sijabule. Isazi sezomnotho uJacques Attali naye uyakuqinisekisa: uma senza konke ukugwema izinkinga ezilandelayo, siqala ngengcuphe yenkinga yesimo sezulu, umhlaba ungasakaza ngenjabulo! Sidinga nje, mhlawumbe, ukukhetha i-rose, ukukhetha usuku, ukubamba izikhathi zomusa nenjabulo esinikezwa yimpilo yansuku zonke. I-Carpe diem… Masijabulele isikhathi samanje, masijabulele injabulo lapho sikhona!