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Ithiphu lokuqala: Khuluma, khuluma njalo
Lapho umbhangqwana ushintshana kakhulu, uzonqoba kangcono lolu hambo olunzima lokusiza ukuzala (ukuzala ngosizo lwezokwelapha), kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunengane noma cha. Kumele usho okuzwayo emzimbeni wakho nasekhanda lakho, noma ngabe kubuhlungu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iphakamisa ukungqubuzana, ingaxazululwa kangcono kuphela. Indoda inezwi layo: ukukhombisa umngane wayo ukuthi useceleni kwayo, ukuthi bayihola ndawonye le mpi nokuthi ukhona ukuze ameseke. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abesifazane kumelwe basize abalingani babo baveze imizwa yabo. Ngokumbuza noma ngokuqala ngokumtshela indlela abazizwa ngayo. Lokhu kulalela, lokhu kuxoxisana kanye nalesi sifiso esifanayo esihlanganisa ngaso sonke isikhathi singahlanganisa kuphela ozakwethu ababili.
Ithiphu lesibili: Qhubeka uphila ngendlela evamile
Iqiniso lokuqala elingenakugwenywa: asilawuli inzalo njengoba silawula ukuvimbela inzalo. Ngokufanelekile, yonke imibhangqwana kufanele iqaphele, ngisho nangaphambi kokunquma ukuba nomntwana, ukuthi cishe kuyodingeka ilinde unyaka noma emibili ngaphambi kokukhulelwa. Yiqiniso, kuyohlale kukhona abesifazane okuthi, ngemva nje kokuphela kwephakethe labo lamaphilisi, bakhulelwe. Kodwa akuvamile, akuvamile. Ngokusho kweNational Institute of Demographic Studies (INED), kuthatha isilinganiso sezinyanga eziyisikhombisa ukuba umbhangqwana ukhulelwe umntwana. Emjikelezweni ngamunye wokuya esikhathini, amathuba okukhulelwa abalelwa ku-25% kanti lesi sibalo sehla sisuka eminyakeni engama-35. Ukukhulelwa ngakho-ke akusheshi. Ngalesi sikhathi, kubalulekile ukuqhubeka nokuphila ngendlela evamile, ukuphuma, ukuze ube nezinye izikhungo ezithakazelisayo. Futhi ikakhulukazi ukungagxili ngalo mntwana.
Ithiphu lesithathu: vuma ukubona uchwepheshe wokungazali
Uma kungekho kukhulelwa okuye kwamenyezelwa ezinyangeni ezingu-18 kamuva (noma unyaka owodwa kwabesifazane abangaphezu kweminyaka engama-35), umbhangqwana kumelwe uthathe isinyathelo esinzima ngokuvamile: ukulila ingane ekhulelwe ngokwemvelo nokucela usizo. Akulula, ngoba ekungazini kwethu, umntwana uhlala eyisithelo sokuhlangana kwenyama, sokuthandana nomuntu oyedwa. Kodwa lapho, umbhangqwana kufanele wamukele ukuthi udokotela uyangena ekusithekeni kwawo, abuze imibuzo, abeluleke. Isizotha kanye ne-ego ngezinye izikhathi kuyahlukunyezwa. Lokhu kuthintana nodokotela kokuqala, okubizwa ngokuthi ukuhlolwa kokungazali, kuyadingeka ngaphambi kokuqala isifundo sokusiza ukuzala.
Kodwa umdlalo kuwufanele umzamo. Ngokombiko wakamuva we-Biomedicine Agency, izingane ezingaphezu kuka-23 zazalwa ngenxa ye-medical assisted procreation (ART) ngo-000.. Futhi abazali abaningi bajabule futhi bagcwaliseke ngokufika kwengane yabo.
Ukungatholi abantwana kwabesilisa: ukungajwayelekile kwesidoda
Ithiphu lesine: hlalani nithandana naphezu kwakho konke
Emibhangqwaneni eminingi, isifundo se-PMA sihlala siwuvivinyo, ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. I-ultrasounds ephindaphindiwe, ukukhathala, izithiyo zokwelashwa kanye nezinguquko emzimbeni wesifazane azibekeli phambili ukuhlangana kabusha emcamelweni. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi umbhangqwana ukwazi ukugcina ubulili obudlalayo, obungaphelelwa yisikhathi futhi bukude nokukhathazeka kwabo. Ngakho-ke, unganqikazi ukuphindaphinda izidlo ezikhanyiswe ngamakhandlela, izindawo zokuphumula zothando, ukubhucungwa, njll. Konke okukusondeza eduze, kuvusa izinzwa zakho futhi kucije isifiso sakho.
Iseluleko sesihlanu: khulula umuzwa wecala
Endabeni yokusiza ukukhiqiza kabusha (manje okutholakala kusukela ngoJulayi 2021 kubantu abathandana nobulili obuhlukile kodwa futhi nakubashadikazi besifazane nabesifazane abangashadile), umbhangqwana uzohlolwa inqwaba yokuhlolwa ukuzama ukuhlonza imbangela yalokhu kungazali. Kufanele silwe nomqondo wokuthi lesi sizathu "iphutha" engqondweni yomunye noma omunye. Ukusuka lapho kuya ekucabangeni ukuthi umuntu ungaphansi kowesilisa noma owesifazane omncane ngenxa yokuthi akakwazi ukukhulelwa umntwana, kunesinyathelo esisodwa kuphela… Uma kungekho sizathu esihlonziwe (kumaphesenti angu-10 ezimo), kwesinye isikhathi kuba kubi nakakhulu njengoba owesifazane evame ukuthatha. ubunyumba eyedwa, eqiniseka ukuthi kusekhanda lakhe. Ukuzala okukhinyabezekile kungaholela ekuxabaneni kwabashadile futhi, kwezinye izimo, kuholela esehlukaniso. Yingakho kufanele sizame ngangokunokwenzeka ukuqinisana. Kwesinye isikhathi, amazwi kadokotela wezengqondo noma ohlola ingqondo angaba usizo oluyigugu ekudambiseni ukungezwani kanye nokuhlaziya ukuvinjelwa ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo ukuze kube nokuzala.