Ubufakazi babazali: “Ingane yami yaba isisulu sokuxhashazwa esikoleni”

Ubufakazi bukaSabrina, umama ka-Eliott, oneminyaka engu-9: “Ingane yami yayixhashazwa esikoleni. “

“Ngicabanga ukuthi izingane zethu zihlushwa abafana ababili ekilasini nsuku zonke. Futhi ngokusho kwendodana yami, u-Eliot uyimbuzi yabo. Kwesinye isikhathi kuze kudingeke ukuthi ahlale ezivalele endlini yangasese ngesikhathi sekhefu noma ashaywe! ” Lapho umama womngane ka-Eliot engishayela ucingo engitshela ukuthi indodana yami eneminyaka engu-9 ubudala iyahlukunyezwa, angizange ngikholwe. Bengingaphuthelwa kanjani mina nomama wakhe ngaphezu kwalokho uthisha? Ngiyanakisisa futhi ngihlale ngikulungele ukulalela izingane zami ezixoxa ngezindaba zazo, injabulo yazo, usizi lwazo. “Akusilo iqiniso, mama. Singabangane, siyazijabulisa futhi ngezinye izikhathi siyaxabana, yilokho kuphela. ” U-Eliot walulaza, uma engaluthuli lolu daba.

Isisulu sokuxhashazwa esikoleni

Ngaleso sikhathi, sasihlukana noyise, futhi indodana yami yayinezizathu eziningi zokucasuka. Ngakho, lapho esebenzisa izaba zekhanda elibuhlungu noma isisu ukuze agweme isikole, ngazitshela ukuthi wayebhekene nesikhathi esinzima… Ngolunye usuku, umama womunye umfanyana owayehlukunyezwa wenza isikhathi sokubonana nomqondisi wesikole. Isixazululo sakhe kule nkinga kwaba ukubiza izingane azitshele ukuthi zixazulule izinkinga zazo zenkundla yokudlala. Uthisha omkhulu ubenenkinga yokuyibona kahle. Indodana yami yayilokhu ibuyela emuva phezu kwezinkulumo zayo, isola izingane kuyilapho ibeka izaba ngazo; ebavikela ekugcineni. Asizange sikulinganise ukuthi laba bafana ababili babe no-Eliot.

Ngobunye ubusuku, ngathola ukuthi omunye walabo ababengicuphile wayejahe indodana yami egcekeni, iphethe umsiki wamabhokisi, esongela ukuyinquma uqhoqhoqho. Kwakumele kufike kulento yokuthi ngivuke ngiyokhalaza. U-Eliot kwadingeka ashintshe isikole. Ngihlangane nomphathi ovele wangitshela ukuthi isicelo sokuhoxiswa sizoba nzima. Ngangizibona lezi zingane ezimbili njalo ekuseni kodwa, njengoba ngangifundiswe ubuxhwanguxhwangu, angizange ngikhulume nazo ukuze ngingenzi izinto zibe zimbi nakakhulu. Ngaqonda ukuthi kwakuyizingane ezimbili nje ezimpofu ezisebunzimeni bezenhlalo nezemfundo. Njengothisha, ngiyazi ukuthi lawa amaphrofayili ezingane esifuna ukuwasiza, kodwa kungazelelwe akekho owayeyibonile imiphumela engase ibe khona endodaneni yami. Ngabe sengithinta umhloli we-Academy, owangiqinisekisa ukuthi wayezothola indawo esikhungweni esisha. Ngakusasa washintsha isikole. Kwalandela ukukhala nokucasuka okukhulu. U-Eliot wezwa ukungabi nabulungisa. "Babi, kungani mina okumele ngihambe?" Wabe esesaba ukuphinde ahlukunyezwe. Esaba ukuba yedwa. Kuye, laba bafana ababili babengabangane ngaphambi kokuba aqonde ukuthi lokhu kulinganisa kwamandla kwakungebona ubungane. Kwakudingekile ukumchazela ukuthi labo abahlukumeza abanye, abafuna ukubusa nokubalulaza, ababona abangane, ngoba umngane uletha inhlalakahle.

Amaqabane abahlukumezi 

Namuhla u-Eliot ujabulile ngokuya esikoleni. Upholile futhi ukhululekile. Ngizizwa nginecala elikhulu, ngoba ngiyaqaphela kamuva ukuthi wayethukuthele ngendlela engavamile ngalesi sikhathi. Ngakhumbula nokuthi wayefika ekhaya ngezinye izikhathi enemihuzuko emzimbeni. Uthe umngani wakhe wamdudula engakwenzanga ngamabomu. Bengingakwazi kanjani ukubona, ngingaqondi ngaphambili? Siyazi ukuthi ikhona futhi sigajwa imikhankaso yokuhlukumeza. Njenganoma yimuphi umama, ngambuza ukuthi siyamhlupha yini esikoleni, kodwa indodana yami ayizange ikhulume. Esikoleni samabanga aphansi, bancane kakhulu ukuthi bangahlukanisa izinto, futhi kubo, kunzima ukuhlukanisa umehluko phakathi kweqembu elithi “uyisoka lami, ngidlala nawe kakhulu” namaqembu amancane afaka ingcindezi kwezinye izingane odlameni. indlela. “

Ingxoxo kaDorothée Saada

Ubufakazi bukaCaroline, unina kaMélina, oneminyaka engu-6 ubudala, no-Emy, izinyanga ezingu-7: “Angizange ngiphumelele ukuvikela indodakazi yami! “

“Indodakazi yami endala ineminyaka engu-6 ubudala, isanda kubuyela ebangeni lokuqala futhi ijabule kakhulu, ikakhulukazi njengoba, kusukela ngonyaka odlule, ibigibela ibhasi eya esikoleni. Kusukela enkulisa, ubelokhu enomlingisi oqinile. Kangangokuthi engxenyeni encane, saba nokunye okwashiwo uthisha. Waphusha, washaya amaqabane akhe. Ngenhlanhla, leli vesi elibi ladlula ngokushesha. Sasilungisa yonke into engxoxweni naye, kodwa ngemva nje kokuqala konyaka wesikole, uMélina waqala ukuvala izindlebe zakhe njalo lapho sikhuluma naye ngento angayithandi. U-Ditto lapho simtshela ukuthi “cha”, kuyilapho, kuze kube yileso sikhathi, sasihlale sikwazi ukumenza alalele lapho ebonisana ngomoya ophansi. Lapho, angizange ngimazi. Bengicabanga ukuthi kungenxa yazo zonke izinxushunxushu zalo nyaka, ukuzalwa kukadadewabo omncane, kodwa cha… Ngobunye ubusuku, wathi kimi: “Uyazi mama, kunabafana abanami. ukucasuka ebhasini. ” Ngawa emafini. Ngathola ukuthi abafana abane ebhasini, kuhlanganise nengane eneminyaka engu-10 ubudala, babekhuluma kuye izinto ezinjengokuthi: “Ubukeka njengehule”, “ikhanda likabhanana”, njll. Ngicabanga ukuthi ngalolo suku kumelwe ukuba badlulele kakhulu yingakho egcine esengitshela ngayo.

Ngokusobala, kwase kuqhubeke amasonto amabili noma amathathu. Yena onobuntu obuqinile, bengingacabangi ukuthi angahlukunyezwa. Ngakhungatheka. Ngangihlulekile ukuvikela indodakazi yami futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ngangidabukile ukuthi kwakuthathe isikhathi eside kangaka ukungitshela ngakho. Ngangicasulwa ukuthi akekho owayenake lutho, njengomphephi noma umshayeli webhasi, okungenzeka ukuthi wayezizwile lezi zinhlamba. Ukuqinisekisa le ndaba, ngishayele umngane indodakazi yakhe nayo egibela ibhasi. Omncane uqinisekise ukuthukwa nokuhlukunyezwa.

Indodakazi yami yayithukwa futhi ihlukunyezwa

Sazibambela mathupha, futhi ngoMsombuluko olandelayo, saya esitobhini sebhasi lapho kwakugibele khona ingane ngayinye futhi satshela abazali konke. Abazali abambalwa bavele bavika kancane lapho bebona umyeni wami efika futhi baqala ngokuthi abazi. Izingane zabo zikuqinisekisile obekwenzeka ebhasini zathethiswa. Siphinde sakhuluma nomshayeli nabaphelezeli. Kusukela lapho, yonke into isibuyele kwesijwayelekile. Indodakazi yami isishintshile ukuziphatha kwayo. Akasavala izindlebe uma engafuni kuzwa lutho. Ngethemba ukuthi lesi sigameko simnike ithemba kithi. Nokuthi mhla kwenzeka okunye futhi, uyoba nesibindi sokuphinde asitshele. Uma sibona ukuhlukunyezwa okubi kakhulu ezinye izingane ezingabhekana nazo, ngezinye izikhathi iminyaka, ngaphandle kokukhuluma ngakho, sizitshela ukuthi sasinenhlanhla ngempela. “

Ingxoxo ka-Estelle Cintas

Ubufakazi bukaNathalie, unina kaMaelya, oneminyaka engu-7 ubudala: “Izingane zingaba kanjani nezihluku ezingaka? “

Ngamaholide alandela unyaka wokugcina wenkulisa, indodakazi yethu eneminyaka emihlanu nengxenye yaqala ukudla kancane. Ngolunye usuku wathi kithi: “Akumelwe ngidle kakhulu, ngaphandle kwalokho ngizokhuluphala.” Saziswa, sambuza ukuthi kungani esho kanjalo. Njengoba sazi ukuthi ngikhuluphele, sazitshela ukuthi mhlawumbe kuvela lapho… Ngaleso sikhathi, akazange anezele lutho. Wabe esesitshela ukuthi intombazane esikoleni yayilokhu imtshela ukuthi ikhuluphele. Njengoba sasiphakathi namaholide ehlobo, kwakungekho esasingakwenza. Kodwa ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ngemva kokubuyela ebangeni lokuqala, lapho ngixoxa nomama othile, indodakazi yakhe yabheka eyami yababaza: “Awu bah, kulungile, akakhuluphala!” Ngathi ngimcela incazelo, wangiqinisekisa ukuthi amanye amantombazane ekilasini ayelokhu ethi ukhuluphele. Ngangithukuthele. Iphutha engalenza kwaba ukukhuluma ngokuqondile nomama futhi ngimchazele ukuthi indodakazi yakhe yayikhulume amazwi alimazayo. Lona wakamuva, esikhundleni sokuyibekela eceleni indodakazi yakhe ukuze akhulume ngayo futhi abone ukuthi kwenzekeni, wayibuza phambi kwami ​​imenza angakhululeki. Ngokusobala, omncane waphika konke. Wangena umama wangicasula. Ngemva kwalokho, lona omncane kanye nezinye izingane ekilasini baqhubeka. Nsuku zonke, kwakuhlukile: bavimbe indodakazi yami ekhoneni legceke, beba izingubo zakhe, banyathele ezinyaweni zakhe, njll. Kwakuyisikhathi esiyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kuMaelya. Kangangoba wayengasafuni nokuya esikoleni wakhala efika nje ekhaya. Ngazithola ngisehhovisi labaphathi izikhathi eziningana.

Ukwesekwa yinhlangano elwa nokuhlukunyezwa esikoleni

Isikhathi ngasinye ngangitshelwa: “Lezi izindaba zezingane.” Unina wale ntombazanyana waze wangisola ngokuganga, nakuba ngingakaze ngiyibone indodakazi yakhe! Njengoba isikole sasinqume ukungenzi lutho, ngabiza usoseshini obhekene nokuhlukunyezwa kwezingane esikoleni kwathintwa umuntu ovela esikhungweni semfundo ephakeme. Sibe sesihlangana nabaphathi nonkosikazi sabatshela ukuthi uma kungenzeki lutho sizofaka isikhalo kubaphathi. Ngenxa yale ngxoxo, isimo saba ngcono kancane. Ngicabanga ukuthi sekube nokuqaphelwa kothisha ngakho-ke kunciphe ukuhlaselwa. Kodwa uma kubhekwa izilinganiso eyayisithathile, sasinqume ukushintsha isikole… Kwakukuhle, ngoba kwadingeka sithuthele endlini entsha. Savele sabhalisa indodakazi yethu kusenesikhathi. Kusukela lapho, ngiye ngabona ushintsho olukhulu enganeni yami. UMaelya usebenza kangcono, ujabule, akasakhali. Wenza abangane abasha futhi ngathola intombazanyana ejabule futhi engenandaba engangiyazi. “

Ingxoxo ka-Estelle Cintas