Amaphedi, amakhondomu, ushukela kanye nokunye okufana nokolweni… Kungani abantu bethenga ngobuningi futhi kungani manje kuyisikhathi esingcono kakhulu sokulalela izifiso zakho futhi uqale ukuphila njengamanje.
Inkampani yocwaningo i-DSM Group ishicilele umbiko wokuthi abathengi baseRussia bathenga amakhondomu ngobuningi. Isidingo sabo ngoMashi sikhuphuke ngo-20% uma siqhathaniswa nesidingo sangoFebhuwari. Amakhondomu alandelwa yimikhiqizo yenhlanzeko yabesifazane kanye namanabukeni ezingane. Ezinsizakalweni ze-inthanethi ezinezikhangiso ezifana ne-Avito, kwakukhona abathengisi bama-gaskets anamanani aphindwe kashumi.
“Abantu bathengela ikusasa ukuze bazizwe bephephile”
Yilokhu isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Irina Vinnik esikucabangayo: “Abanaso isidingo esikhulu kangaka samakhilogremu ayishumi ka-buckwheat, njengoba benomuzwa wokuthi yonke into ihlelekile. Ngisho noma izenzakalo zangaphandle ziphikisana nalesi simo sengqondo, abantu bazokwazi ukulondoloza indlela yabo yokuphila isikhathi eside. Akukho okulimazayo kule ndlela yokuzisekela: ngezikhathi zesiyaluyalu, noma yiziphi izindlela zokugcina ingqondo isesimweni esikahle ziyasebenza.”
Ukuthengwa kovalo kwezinto abantu abebengakwazi ukuzikhokhela phambilini sekuyinsakavukela umchilo wesidwaba. Ngo-2005, abacwaningi base-Oxford benza ucwaningo ngomthelela wokubaluleka kokufa emikhubeni yabathengi. Ukubuka kubonise ukuthi abantu baqondisa kakhulu izinsiza zabo zokulawula ezilinganiselwe ezindaweni eziyimithombo ebalulekile yokuzethemba futhi encane ezindaweni ezingekho. Ukwesaba ukufa kwandisa isifiso sokudla izinto ezibonakalayo, kungaba isikhwama esinegama noma isicoci se-robot vacuum.
Ukuziphatha kwabantu kuthonywa ukwesaba ukufa kanye nomuzwa wokuphela kwesikhathi.
Lokhu kuyasebenza nasezindaweni eziningi zokudilizwa kanye nezahlukaniso. Ukwanda kwenani lokuchithwa kwemishado ngenxa yesimo esingazinzile emhlabeni ngoba imibhangqwana eminingi isibonile isidingo sokusebenzisa amathuba lapha futhi manje. Phela akekho owaziyo ukuthi kuzokwenzekani kusasa.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Irina Vinnik siphawula ukuthi izibalo zesehlukaniso ezifanayo zingabonwa ekuqaleni kwalolu bhubhane: “Abantu baye bazivalela emakhaya futhi babhekene neqiniso lokuthi ukuhlala eduze nomngane womshado amahora angu-24 ngosuku akunakubekezelelwa. Uma umphakathi uphila kahle, ukuphelela kwempilo nesikhathi kukhunjulwa kuphela ngezikhathi zokulahlekelwa. Ukushona kothandekayo, ingozi yemoto, ukugula okungathi sína. Okwenzekayo manje kungenye yezizathu zokuzikhumbuza: uma ubuhlobo buyekile ukujabulisa noma inkinga ifike kubo isikhathi eside, sekuyisikhathi sokushintsha okuthile.
I-life syndrome ehlehlisiwe, lapho sihlala silinda isikhathi esifanele, imali engenayo noma izinga lamandla ukuze sanelise izifiso zethu, sithathelwa indawo isidingo sokuhlala lapha namanje.
Konke kuqala ngokuthi siziqonda ngokucacile izidingo zethu futhi sizanelisa ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.
Kunomthetho wamahora angama-72 ekuqeqesheni: uma umuntu enombono, kufanele aqale ukuwufeza engakapheli amahora angama-72. Uma kungenjalo, ngeke ize isetshenziswe. Ungaqala kancane: bhala phansi imibono yakho, uchaze uhlelo lokusebenza, uzenzele imibuzo. Ku-Gestalt, lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi umjikelezo wokuxhumana:
ukuqala kokuxhumana: ukuqashelwa kwesidingo ngemizwa, ukuhlangana nesidingo;
cinga ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukwanelisa isidingo;
ukuhlangabezana nesidingo kanye nenhloso yokwaneliseka kwayo;
saturation, phuma kothintana naye.
I-psychotherapist iphawula ukuthi izinzuzo zale ndlela yizinga eliphezulu lokuphila elinomuzwa omncane wokukhathala. Lesi sikhundla asisho i-hedonism engalawulwa.
Iphuzu liwukubona izifiso zakho namandla akho ngaphandle kokulinda noma yisiphi isikhathi esifanele noma isethi yezimo.
Ushintsho luyingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila. Umuntu manje ulinde ukuphela kwesimo esingazinzile ngaphandle kwefasitela, kanti abanye, ngokuphambene nalokho, basebenzise ukuze ekugcineni banakekele impilo yabo, bathole umsebenzi omusha, bafunde olunye ulimi ...
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