Okuqukethwe
Vuma, awuqiniseki ukuthi wenze kanjani. Ingane yakho isencane kakhulu… Wesaba ukuthi ngeke isiqonde isimo, uzizwa unecala futhi uvame ukuvumela kukho konke. Nokho, ingane yakho idinga imingcele nezilinganiso, izincazelo, ububele negunya. Konke ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa ukuphila kwakho komphakathi noma isikhathi sakho samahhala. Isihogo senselelo, isenzo sokulinganisa.
Ukuhlala njalo ubuso nobuso kuhle kwabathandanayo. Kodwa kini nobabili, kungase kube nzima kakhulu. Ukuze uvule ubuhlobo bakho futhi wenze ikhaya lakho liphile, prakthiza inqubomgomo yomnyango ovulekile. Yamukela, uye kubangani, futhi umeme abakhe. Mjwayeze ukubona abantu hhayi ukuhlala uwedwa njalo. Kufanele ugweme ukwakha umbhangqwana osondelene nengane yakho. Ungamnika umama wakho kusesekuseni kakhulu, bese ujwayela ukulala nabantu obathembayo (umndeni noma abangani), futhi uhambe ngezimpelasonto ngaphandle kwakho. Ukuhamba kuhle kini nobabili. Thatha leli thuba uzicabangele wena. Imigubho yakho akufanele iphelele ku-Kirikou, Disneyland kanye nenkampani. Eholidini, hamba neqembu labangane noma ehhotela-club, amafomula akuvumela ukuba nibe nesikhathi esimnandi ndawonye, kodwa futhi ukuhlangana nabantu futhi wenze ubungane bebodwa. Uma enamathele kuwe, mbhalisele iklabhu yezingane lapho ezohlanganyela khona imisebenzi nezingane ezingontanga yakhe. Kuyomthakazelisa kakhulu kunokulalela izingxoxo zabantu abadala. Ngokwakho, ngokuxhumana nabantu abalingana nawe, abakhuluma ngenye into ngaphandle kwezingane, uzinika ilungelo lokuphila impilo yakho njengomuntu wesifazane. Nokho, qaphela ukuba ungayenzi ingane yakho isifuba salezi zikhathi ezichithwa ngaphandle kwayo. Ukukhuluma nengane yakho kubaluleke kakhulu, inqobo nje uma uhlala endaweni kamama wakho, futhi yona isendaweni yayo yomntwana. Zinqabele ekuthululeni isifuba sakho kuye. Kuyamxaka futhi kuyamcindezela. Gcina isifuba sakho kumngane wakho omkhulu.
Beka imingcele, ukuze kuzuze yena
Ubumnene, unakho kokubili. Kodwa igunya, nawe uzolidinga. Inkinga iwukuthi, uvame ukuzizwa unecala futhi, ukuze unxephezele, ungathanda ukudedela i-ballast, uyonakalisa. Akuyona insizakalo yokumnikeza: udinga kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili uhlaka oluqinisekisayo olwakhiwe imithetho ecacile nemikhawulo okungafanele yeqiwe. Ukukwazi ukubhekisa egunyeni lakho kuyahlela yena. Ngisho noma ulingeka ukuba uzikhulule, kufanele uhlale uhlukile. Futhi uma uthi “cha”, ngu “cha”. Ngisho noma ukuthola kuqeda amandla, kubalulekile kuye. Isibonelo: Ingane yakho iqaphele ukuthi kunendawo engenamuntu embhedeni wakho wabantu ababili futhi ingathanda ukungena kuyo. Ukwesaba, ubuhlungu besisu, ukuqwasha: zonke izaba zilungile. Kodwa lena akuyona indawo yayo. Wonke umuntu kufanele abe nendawo yakhe, indawo yakhe yangasese. Ukulala ndawonye kudala ukusondelana okukhulu phakathi kwenu, ukudideka kwezindima ezibambezela ukuzimela kwenu kanye nesifiso senu sokukhula. Futhi-ke, ngisho noma kungewona umbuzo wokwenza ingane yakho ikholelwe ukuthi ufuna indoda kuzo zonke izindleko, kufanele umenze aqonde ukuthi, ngendlela yemvelo yezinto, indawo embhedeni ayilungile. hlala ungenalutho. Lokhu kuzomvimbela ekukubambeni futhi, uma engumfana, angazithatheli indoda yomuzi. Ekugcineni, ngosuku ofuna ukuphinde niphile ngalo njengombhangqwana, iphilisi lizoba lula ukuliphuza.
Vumela ingane yakho ihlukanise ukuphila kwayo
Ukuba nokuphila okumbaxa-mbili akulula kangako enganeni. Ukuze athole indlela yakhe, uyihlela ibe izingxenye: ngakolunye uhlangothi, impilo yakhe nawe, ngakolunye, leyo noyise. Gwema ukumbuza imibuzo lapho efika ekhaya evela ngempelasonto. Kuyingxenye yempilo yakhe okungeyakhe. Kumelwe azizwe ekhululekile ukuphila ubuhlobo bakhe noyise ngaphandle kokuba isithunzi sakho silenga phezu kwabo. Uma efuna ukukutshela ukuthi wenzeni, kungcono kakhulu. Kodwa nguye onqumayo.
Letha amadoda empilweni yakhe
Uma ubengamazi uyise, kumele azi ukuthi ukhona. Khuluma ngendaba yakho, mbonise isithombe, mtshele izinkumbulo futhi umtshele ukuthi yiziphi izimfanelo azizuze njengefa kuye. Ukuba nobaba njengabo bonke abantu kubalulekile kuye, ngakho-ke uma nisanda kwehlukana ungamenzi ubaba wakhe indaba engafanele. Uyagqoka noma uwashe yedwa? Mtshele ukuthi uyise uzoziqhenya ngaye. Kumele ezwe ukuthi nakuba ningasazwani njengabashadikazi, niqhubeke nikhulumisane njengabazali. Ngokufanayo, ungakuphiki obala uthando oluyizalayo. Futhi qaphela ukugcina ubukhona besilisa kulabo abamzungezile. Zijwayeze ukumema njalo ingane yakini, umzala noma owayeyisoka ingane yakho engasondelana nayo. Noma ungamkhulisa kahle kakhulu uwedwa, ukuba seduze kwamadoda kuyamjabulisa. Lokhu kubalulekile kumfana ngoba kumnika izibonelo zabesilisa. Kubaluleke ngokufanayo entombazaneni: uma ikhula izungezwe abesifazane kuphela, ibeka engozini yokubona amadoda njengabantu abangabazi, engafinyeleleki, ehlaba umxhwele futhi, kamuva, abe nobunzima bokuxhumana nabo.
Cela usizo kwabathandekayo bakho
Indodakazi yakho ine-tonsillitis futhi sikulindele ehhovisi: udinga ukwazi ukuthi ubani ongathembela kuye ngokushesha okukhulu. Ukuze ungaceli njalo okufanayo, yiba nezintambo eziningana kumnsalo wakho. Umndeni owandisiwe, abangani, omakhelwane… Qaphela ukuthi kuyini ukutholakala kwabo nokuthi yiziphi izinsizakalo abangakunikeza zona: imisebenzi ephuthumayo, ukugada izingane ngezikhathi ezithile, iseluleko esisebenzayo, indlebe lapho ushaywa kanzima, njll. Izintombi nazo zenzelwe lokho. Abazali bakho bakhona ukuzokweseka, kuhle lokho, kodwa ingane yakho inogogo nomkhulu ozala uyise abangakujabulela ukukusiza. Ngisho uhlukene nendodana yabo, usengaba nobudlelwano obuhle nabo uma bekuhlonipha. Ukuyiphathisa ingane yakho kusho ukukhombisa ukubethemba kwakho futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuyivumela ukuthi ihlale ithintana nengxenye yesihlahla sayo esibalulekile kubo.