Le ndlela inesithunzi esixubile. Abaningi babheka i-Neuro Linguistic Programming njengethuluzi lokukhohlisa. Ingabe kunjalo?
I-Psychology: Iyini i-NLP?
U-Nadezhda Vladislavova, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, umqeqeshi we-NLP: Impendulo isesihlokweni. Masiyihlukanise: «i-neuro» isho ukuthi senza ngobuchopho bethu, lapho, ngenxa yethonya lethu, ama-neurons ahlelwa kabusha. «Izilimi» — umthelela uvela ngosizo lobuchwepheshe obukhethekile, sikhetha amagama akhethekile futhi sakhe imishwana ngokuhambisana nemigomo ebekiwe.
«Ukuhlela» — ubuchopho siqukethe izinhlelo. Zilawula ukuziphatha kwethu, kodwa ngokuvamile azibonakali. Uma ukuziphatha kungasasifanele, singashintsha izinhlelo, silungise ezikhona, noma sifake ezintsha.
Ingabe kunzima ukwenza?
Kuya ngokuthi usungule kanjani ukuxhumana phakathi kokwazi nokuquleka. Ake ngikuchaze lokhu ngesingathekiso. Ake ucabange ukuthi ukwazi kungumgibeli kanti oqulekile yihhashi. Ihhashi linamandla kakhulu, lithwala umgibeli. Futhi umgibeli ubeka isiqondiso kanye nesivinini sokunyakaza.
Uma bevumelana, bazofika kalula endaweni abamisiwe. Kodwa ngenxa yalokhu, ihhashi kumelwe liqonde umgibeli, futhi umgibeli kumelwe akwazi ukunikeza ihhashi izimpawu eziqondakalayo. Uma lokhu kungenzeki, ihhashi liyama ligxile endaweni noma ligijimele kungaziwa muntu ukuthi likuphi, noma lingase lidubule futhi lilahle umgibeli.
Indlela yokufunda "ulimi lwamahhashi"?
Cishe njengoba sisanda kwenza, sikhuluma ngehhashi nomgibeli. Isichazamazwi sokuqulekile siyizithombe: ezibonwayo, ezizwakalayo, ezithinta inhliziyo… Kukhona nohlelo lolimi: izindlela ezihlukene zokubiza nokuxhuma lezi zithombe. Kudinga ukuzijwayeza. Kepha labo abafunde ukuxhumana nabangazi lutho babonakala ngokushesha, baphumelele kakhulu emsebenzini wabo ...
Akukhona neze ku-psychology?
Akunjalo, nakuba izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo eziningi zisebenzisa amasu e-NLP ngempumelelo. Cishe cishe wonke umuntu ufuna izinguquko ezinhle ekuphileni kwabo. Omunye ufuna ukwenza impumelelo emsebenzini wakhe, omunye - ukuthuthukisa impilo yakhe yomuntu siqu. Owesithathu uphelelisa umzimba wakhe. Okwesine ukuqeda umlutha. Eyesihlanu ilungiselela umkhankaso wokhetho. njll.
Kodwa nakhu okuthakazelisayo: kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siqala kuphi, khona-ke kukhona impumelelo kuzo zonke izindawo. Uma sixhuma amandla okudala okuqulekile ekuxazululeni izinkinga, amathuba amaningi ayavuleka.
Kuzwakala kamnandi lokho! Kungani i-NLP inesithunzi esinempikiswano engaka?
Kunezizathu ezimbili. Okokuqala ukuthi lapho ithiyori iyanda, indlela ibukeka ngokwesayensi. Futhi i-NLP iwumkhuba nokuzijwayeza okwengeziwe. Okungukuthi, siyazi ukuthi isebenza kanjani, senze isiqiniseko sokuthi isebenza ngale ndlela hhayi ngenye indlela, kodwa ngani?
Umqambi wendlela, uRichard Bandler, wenqaba ngisho nokwakha imibono. Futhi wayevame ukuhlanjalazwa ngenxa yokungabi namsebenzi, futhi waphendula: “Angikungabazi ukuthi kungokwesayensi noma cha. Ake sithi ngenza sengathi ngenza i-psychotherapy. Kodwa uma iklayenti lami likwazi ukwenza sengathi seliluleme bese lizigcina likulesi simo, kuhle kakhulu, lokho kuyangifanela!”
Futhi isizathu sesibili?
Isizathu sesibili ukuthi i-NLP iyithuluzi elisebenzayo. Futhi ukusebenza kahle ngokwako kuyethusa, ngoba ukuthi izosetshenziswa kanjani kuncike ekutheni ikuzo izandla zikabani. Ingabe i-NLP ingagezwa ingqondo? Angakwazi! Kodwa futhi ungazivikela ekugezeni ngayo. Kungenzeka yini ukuyenga umuntu uhambe? Angakwazi. Kodwa akuthakazelisi yini ukufunda ukudlala ngothando ngendlela ejabulisa wonke umuntu futhi engacasuli muntu?
Futhi ungakha ubudlelwano obuvumelanayo obunika amandla kokubili. Sihlale sinokuzikhethela: phakathi nezingxoxo, ukuphoqa othile ukuthi enze okuthile okungenanzuzo kuye, noma ukuxhuma ukungazi kwabo bonke abalingani futhi uthole isisombululo esiyoba yinzuzo kuwo wonke umuntu. Futhi kule ndawo, abanye bathi: lokhu akwenzeki.
Kodwa lokhu kumane kuyinkolelo yakho elinganiselwe. Ingashintshwa, i-NLP isebenza nalokhu futhi.