Usana olusanda kuzalwa: ukuphatha kanjani ukufika emndenini?

Usana olusanda kuzalwa: ukuphatha kanjani ukufika emndenini?

Usana olusanda kuzalwa: ukuphatha kanjani ukufika emndenini?

Ukwamukela umntwana osanda kuzalwa emndenini onabantwana

Umona womdala: isinyathelo esicishe sibalulekile

Ukufika kwengane yesibili kuphinde kushintsha uhlelo lomndeni, ngoba ingane yokuqala, bese iyingqayizivele, izibona isiba umfowethu noma udadewabo omkhulu. Lapho efika, umama akagcini nje ngokunaka kancane ingane endala, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo uvame ukuba nemingcele futhi eqinile kuye.1. Noma ingahlelekile2, iqiniso lokuthi ukunaka kwabazali akusagxili kuphela enganeni yokuqala kodwa kumntwana osanda kuzalwa kungabangela ukukhungatheka nentukuthelo kumdala aze acabange ukuthi akasathandwa abazali bakhe. Angakwazi-ke ukuba nesimo sengqondo esinolaka enganeni, noma ukuziphatha okungakavuthwa ukuze adonse ukunaka. Sekukonke, ingane ikhombisa uthando oluncane ngonina futhi ingase ingalaleli. Angase abe nokuziphatha okuhlehlayo, njengokungahlanzeki noma ukuqala ukuphinda acele ibhodlela, kodwa lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi ezimweni lapho ingane ithole lezi zindlela zokuziphatha ngaphambi nje kokufika komntwana (emasontweni ambalwa kuya ezinyangeni ezithile). Konke lokhu kuwukubonakaliswa komona wengane. Lokhu ukuziphatha okuvamile, okuvame ukubonwa, ikakhulukazi ezinganeni ezincane ezingaphansi kweminyaka engu-5 ubudala.3.

Indlela yokuvimbela nokuthulisa umhawu womdala?

Ukuze uvimbele ukusabela komhawu wengane yokuqala, kubalulekile ukumemezela ukuzalwa kwesikhathi esizayo kuye, uzama ukuba nombono omuhle nokuqinisekisa ngangokunokwenzeka ngalolu shintsho. Kumayelana nokwazisa imithwalo yabo yemfanelo emisha, kanye nemisebenzi abangahlanganyela kuyo lapho umntwana ekhula. Kubalulekile ukuqonda indlela asabela ngayo ngenxa yomona, okusho ukungathukutheli, ukuze angazizwa ejeziswa nakakhulu. Nokho, ukuqina kuyadingeka ngokushesha nje lapho ebonisa ulaka olukhulu enganeni, noma ukuthi iphikelela ekuziphatheni kwayo okuhlehlayo. Umntwana kufanele azizwe eqinisekisiwe, okusho ukuthi kufanele achazwe ukuthi, naphezu kwakho konke, usathandwa, futhi afakazele kuye ngokuhlela izikhathi zokusebenzisana okukhethekile naye. Ekugcineni, kufanele ubekezele: izinyanga eziyisi-6 kuya kweziyisi-8 ziyadingeka ukuze ingane igcine yamukele ukufika komntwana.

Imithombo

B.Volling, Family Transitions Ngemva Kokuzalwa Kwengane: Ukubuyekezwa Okubalulekile Kwezinguquko Zokulungiswa Kwezibulo, Ubudlelwano Bomama Nengane, Inkunzi Yengqondo, 2013 Ibid., Amazwi Okuphetha Neziqondiso Zesikhathi Esizayo, Inkunzi Yengqondo, 2013 Ibid., Psychol Bull., Psychol Bull. , 2013

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