Okuqukethwe
Ingxoxo engapheli
Ingane yakho ibilokhu ithanda ukukhuluma, ngisho nencane. Kodwa kusukela eneminyaka emine, le mfanelo iyaziqinisekisa futhi uhlala enokuthile angakusho noma akubuze. Endleleni egodukayo, ubuyekeza usuku lwakhe lwesikole, ukhuluma ngezimoto, inja yakwamakhelwane, izicathulo zezintombi zakhe, ibhayisikili lakhe, ikati odongeni, ebubula ngodadewabo ohluliwe. iphazili yakhe… Ekhaya nasesikoleni, i-chip yakho ayipheli! Uze udinwe yizinkulumo ezingaka, ugcine ungamlalelanga, nodadewabo akakwazi nokukhuluma. Ngokukadokotela wengqondo, uStephan Valentin *: “Lo mntwana ngokuqinisekile udinga ukutshela okwenzeka kuye phakathi nosuku, futhi kubalulekile ukumlalela. Kodwa kubalulekile ukumbonisa ukuthi akufanele alawule ukunaka kwabazali bakhe. Kumayelana nokufundisa ingane yakho imithetho yokuxhumana nempilo yomphakathi: ukuhlonipha isikhathi sokukhuluma sawo wonke umuntu. “
Qonda isidingo sakho
Ukuze uqonde izizathu zalokhu, kufanele unake lokho okushiwo umntwana nokuthi ukwenza kanjani. Ingxoxo empeleni ingafihla ukukhathazeka. “Uma ekhuluma uyatatazela? Awukhululekile ? Usebenzisa liphi iphimbo? Imiphi imizwa ehambisana nezinkulumo zakhe? Lezi zinkomba zibalulekile ukubona ukuthi kumane kuyisifiso esinamandla sokuziveza, ukuthanda ukuphila, noma ukukhathazeka okucashile, ”kuphawula isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Futhi uma sibona ukukhathazeka ngamazwi akhe, sizama ukuqonda lokho okumkhathazayo futhi siyamqinisekisa.
Isifiso sokunakwa?
Ukuxoxa kungase kube ngenxa yesifiso sokunakwa. “Ukuziphatha okuphazamisa abanye kungaba yisu lokudonsela ukunaka kuwena. Ngisho nalapho ingane ithethiswa, ukwazile ukuthakasela umuntu omdala kuye, ”kugcizelela uStephan Valentin. Sibe sesizama ukumnika isikhathi esengeziwe ngamunye ngamunye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yisiphi isizathu sokuxoxa, kungalimaza ingane. Akagxili kakhulu ekilasini, abafundi afunda nabo bazifaka engozini yokumbeka eceleni, uthisha amjezise … Ngakho-ke isidingo sokumsiza ahlele izinkulumo zakhe ngokubeka imingcele eqinisekisayo. Uyobe esekwazi lapho evunyelwa ukuba akhulume nokuthi angahlanganyela kanjani engxoxweni.
Ukuhambisa ukuhamba kwakhe kwamazwi
Kukithi ukumfundisa ukukhuluma ngaphandle kokuphazamisa abanye, ukulalela. Ngalokho, singamnikeza imidlalo yebhodi emkhuthaza ukuthi acabangele wonke umuntu, futhi alinde ithuba lakhe. Imidlalo yezemidlalo noma yaseshashalazini ethuthukisiwe nayo izomsiza ukuba azikhandle futhi aveze imizwa yakhe. Qaphela ukuthi ungakushukumisi kakhulu. “Isithukuthezi singaba kuhle ngoba ingane izozithola izolile phambi kwayo. Uzojabula kancane, okungaba nomthelela kulesi sifiso esingapheli sokukhuluma,” kuphakamisa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.
Ekugcineni, simisa isikhathi esikhethekile lapho umntwana engakhuluma nathi nalapho sizotholakala khona ukuze simlalele. Ingxoxo izobe ingenakho ukushuba.
Umbhali: UDorothée Blancheton
* UStephan Valentin ungumbhali imisebenzi eminingi, kuhlanganise "Sizohlala sikhona ngenxa yakho", Pfefferkorn ed.
Incwadi yokumsiza...
“Ngikhuluma kakhulu”, ekhala. Lulu, ed. Bayard Youth.
ULulu uhlezi enento azoyikhuluma, kangangoba akabalaleli abanye! Kodwa ngolunye usuku, uyabona ukuthi akusekho muntu omlalelayo… nansi inoveli “yabantu abadala” (kusukela eminyakeni eyi-6) ezofundwa ndawonye kusihlwa!