Siphila endaweni enokuncintisana: uma ufuna ukuzuza okuthile, zimemezele, khombisa ukuthi ungcono kunabanye. Uyafuna ukucatshangelwa? Imele amalungelo akho. Isizotha namuhla asihlonishwa. Abanye baze babone kuwuphawu lobuthakathaka. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Gerald Schonewulf uqinisekile ukuthi siyiphushele ngokungenasidingo le khwalithi emigqeni engemuva.
Izazi zefilosofi nezimbongi zasendulo zazikwazi kahle ukubaluleka kwesizotha. USocrates wahlola zonke izazi ezidumile zesikhathi sakhe futhi waphetha ngokuthi wayehlakaniphe kunabo bonke, ngoba “uyazi ukuthi akazi lutho.” Ngomuntu ohlakaniphile odumile, uSocrates wathi: "Ucabanga ukuthi uyazi lokho angakwazi ngempela, kuyilapho mina ngikuqonda kahle ukungazi kwami."
“Sengihambe kakhulu futhi ngabona okuningi, kodwa kuze kube manje angikaze ngihlangane nomuntu ongazilahla ngokufanelekile,” kusho uConfucius. "Kodwa into esemqoka: qiniseka kuwe / Khona-ke, njengoba ubusuku bulandela imini, / Ngeke ukhaphele abanye," kubhala uShakespeare eHamlet (ehunyushwe nguML Lozinsky). Lezi zingcaphuno zigcizelela ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani enhlalakahleni yethu yengqondo ukuze sikwazi ukuzihlola ngokwethuna (futhi lokhu akunakwenzeka ngaphandle kwesizotha).
Lokhu kusekelwa ucwaningo lwakamuva luka-Toni Antonucci kanye nozakwabo abathathu eNyuvesi yaseMichigan. Abacwaningi bathole ukuthi isizotha sibaluleke kakhulu ekwakheni ubuhlobo obuphumelelayo.
Ukuthobeka kusiza ukuthola ukuvumelana okudingekayo ukuze kuxazululwe izinkinga eziphakamayo.
Ucwaningo lwaluhilela imibhangqwana engu-284 yaseDetroit, yacelwa ukuba iphendule imibuzo enjengokuthi: "Uthobekile kangakanani?", "Uthobekile kangakanani umlingani wakho?", "Ingabe ucabanga ukuthi ungamthethelela umlingani wakho uma ekwenza ubuhlungu noma ukucasula wena?" Izimpendulo zisize abacwaningi ukuthi bafunde kabanzi mayelana nobudlelwano phakathi kwesizotha nokuthethelela.
“Sithole ukuthi labo abathatha umlingani wabo njengomuntu onesizotha bazimisele ngokumxolela ngokona. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma umlingani ezikhukhumeza futhi engawavumi amaphutha akhe, wathethelelwa ngokunqikaza, ”kubhala ababhali bocwaningo.
Ngeshwa, isizotha asaziwa ngokwanele emphakathini wanamuhla. Asivamile ukukhuluma ngokuzethemba nokubekezelela imibono yabanye abantu. Kunalokho, silokhu siphindaphinda ukubaluleka kokuzethemba kanye nokulwela amalungelo akho.
Emsebenzini wami nabashadikazi, ngiye ngaqaphela ukuthi imvamisa isithiyo esikhulu ekwelapheni ukungafuni kwabo bobabili abalingani ukuvuma ukuthi banephutha. Lapho umuntu ezikhukhumeza kakhulu, cishe uyoqiniseka ukuthi nguye yedwa olungile, futhi bonke abanye banephutha. Umuntu onjalo ngokuvamile akakakulungeli ukuthethelela umlingani wakhe, ngoba akasoze avuma amaphutha akhe futhi ngenxa yalokho akabekezeleli abantu abangabazi.
Abantu abazikhukhumezayo nabaqhoshayo bavame ukukholelwa ukuthi yinkolo yabo, iqembu lezombusazwe noma isizwe esingaphezu kwazo zonke ezinye. Isidingo sabo esiphikelelayo sokuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi kukho konke kube okulungile nakanjani kuholela ezingxabanweni - kokubili phakathi kwabantu kanye namasiko. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuthobeka akuzibangeli izingxabano, kodwa, kunalokho, kukhuthaza ukubambisana nokusizana. Njengoba ukuzikhukhumeza kubangela ukuzikhukhumeza okuphindaphindiwe, ngakho ukuthobeka ngokuvamile kubangela ukuthobeka okuphindaphindiwe, kuholela engxoxweni eyakhayo, ukuqondana nokuthula.
Ukufingqa: isizotha esinempilo (okungafanele kudidaniswe nokuzehlisa ngemizwa) sikusiza ukuthi uzibheke ngendlela engokoqobo wena nabanye. Ukuze sihlole kahle umhlaba osizungezile kanye neqhaza lethu kuwo, kuyadingeka ukubona iqiniso ngokwanele. Ukuthobeka kuyasiza ekutholeni ukuvumelana okudingekayo ukuze kuxazululwe izinkinga eziphakamayo. Ngakho-ke, isizotha esinempilo siyisihluthulelo sokuzethemba okunempilo.
Umlando usikhombisa ukuthi ukuzikhukhumeza nokuzikhukhumeza kwavimbela amasiko amaningi kanye nezizwe ukuba ziguquke lapho kudingeka ushintsho ukuze baphile. Kokubili iGreece neRoma lasendulo aqala ukuncipha njengoba ayeqhubeka eqhosha futhi eqhosha, ekhohlwa ukubaluleka kokuba nesizotha. “Ukuziqhenya kwandulela ukubhujiswa, ukuzidla kwandulela ukuwa,” kusho iBhayibheli. Ingabe thina (kokubili abantu ngabanye kanye nomphakathi wonkana) singaphinde siqaphele ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuthobeka?
Umthombo: blogs.psychcentral.com