Ukuchaza ukholo olubi, izikole ezimbili ziyangqubuzana:

• Ngokuphikisana nokuthembeka (ukuqiniseka ngobuqiniso balokho umuntu akushoyo), ukukholwa okubi kungaba isenzo se ukwazi ukuthi umuntu usho into engalungile, e Ubuciko bokuhlala ulungile, I-Schopenhauer ichaza amaqhinga angu-38 okuphumelela ekuboniseni "ukuthi umuntu ulungile lapho azi ukuthi unephutha".
• Kumbhali uJean-Paul Sartre, ukukholwa okubi akunangqondo. ” Asiqambi amanga ngesingakwazi, asiqambi amanga uma sisakaza iphutha ukuthi thina ngokwethu sikhohlisiwe, asiqambi amanga lapho sonile. “. Ngandlela thize, ukholo olubi kungaba ukuntula nje ukuqonda ...

Zombili izincazelo zinamaphutha. Ukholo olubi ngezinye izikhathi akuwona amanga: kwenzeka lokho konke lokho okushiwo ukuthi kuyiqiniso eliqinile, okubalulekile igebe phakathi kwalokho okushiwoyo nokucatshangwayo, ukuze khohlisa omunye. Futhi inhloso yomuntu wokholo olubi ivame ukufihlwa. Ku Laba bantu abahlale beqinisile: Noma ukuthi bangavinjwa kanjani izingibe zokukholwa okubi, uHervé Magnin ukhuluma ” isenzakalo sobudlelwane esihlanganisa ukukhohlisa ngamabomu abanye ngezinhloso zabo ukuze bazibone kangcono “. Wengeza ngokuthi, ngokholo olubi, “ kunezaba elibi nenhloso yokulumba ".

Ukukholwa okubi kuvame ukuthatha isimo senhlalo kakhulu, esimakwa ngokuthi isizotha esiqhubekayo noma ngisho nehaba.

Ngemuva kokholo olubi kuhlala kukhona a ugqozi lokuqaphela.

Umuntu owenza ngokukholwa okubi wenza konke ukuze angadluleli kumuntu onokholo olubi. Ngakho-ke ukhathazeke ngokweqile ngesithunzi sakhe, ngisho nangemva kokufeza umgomo wakhe.

Kuthatha inhloso eyinhloko futhi iphrojekthi ukungathembeki.

Kuyaziwa ukuthi izingosi zokuqomisana ziyizindawo ezisolisayo. Wonke umuntu angakwazi ukubeka phambili lokho akufunayo (ngaphandle kokuthi kubhekwe ukuthi uqamba amanga ngempela), umgomo uwukukhuluma kakhulu ngabo, ukuveza ubunikazi babo bokulandisa ngemenyu. Maye, akekho onezindlela eziqondile zokuqinisekisa ubuqiniso balokho okushiwo lapho. Ngakho-ke, bonke abasebenzisi basolwa ngokukholwa okubi. 

Embuzweni ” Ingabe ukholo olubi lwabanye ludala ingcindezi kuwe? »

Ama-40% athi ukukholwa okubi kwabanye kudala "ukucindezela okuningi", kwabangu-10% kwabaphendulile, kubakhathaza “kakhulu”.

U-30% uthi ukukholwa okungalungile kuyabacasula, u-25% uthi kuyabacasula kanti u-20% wabaphendulile ubenza babe nodlame.

Uma kubhekwa lezi zibalo, ukholo olubi lubonakala luyinkinga eveza ukungezwani okuningi. Nokho ukholo olubi lunjalo njalo okwabanye : U-70% wabaphenduli kunhlolovo bathi abalokothi benze noma abavamile ukwenza ngokukholwa okubi. 

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