"Imishado yenziwa ezulwini": kusho ukuthini?

Uma sithi inkulumo ethi "Imishado yenziwa ezulwini", sisho ukuhlangana kwabantu ababili okuyinhlekelele: amandla aphakeme ahlanganisa owesilisa nowesifazane, abusisa umshado wabo futhi uzobathanda esikhathini esizayo.

Ngakho-ke bayohlala ndawonye futhi bejabule, babelethe futhi bakhulise izingane eziningi ezijabulisayo, bahlangane nokuguga phakathi kwabazukulu babo abathandekayo nabazukulu babo. Ngifuna futhi ukwengeza ukuthi bazofa ngempela ngosuku olufanayo. Ngokuvamile, isithombe esinjalo esimangalisayo sokuphila komndeni okujabulisayo siyavela. Phela, sonke sifuna injabulo, futhi unomphela - kusukela ekuqaleni kuze kube sekupheleni.

Futhi uma kukhona noma yibuphi ubunzima, khona-ke kukhona okungahambanga kahle? Noma bekuyiphutha kwasekuqaleni? Noma ubani onombono ongokoqobo angathanda ukwazi - ingabe lo ngumlingani wami ngempela ekuphileni?

Ulwazi olunjalo lunganikeza umsebenzi wokuphila konke wobudlelwane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani. Kodwa ungazola, wazi ukuthi nobabili nisendleleni efanele. Uyazi, ngezinye izikhathi ngiba nomona ngo-Adamu no-Eva: babengenabo ubuhlungu bokuzikhethela. Babengekho abanye "abafake izicelo", futhi ukukhwelana nezingane zakho, abazukulu kanye nesizukulwane akuzona izilwane, phela!

Noma mhlawumbe ukuntuleka kokunye kuyinto enhle? Futhi uma nibabili kuphela, ingabe nizothandana ngokushesha noma kamuva? Lokhu, ngokwesibonelo, kuboniswa kanjani ku-movie Abagibeli (2016)? Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, ku-movie ethi "Lobster" (2015), abanye abalingiswa bancamela ukuphenduka izilwane noma baze bafe, ukuze bangabhangqwa nabangathandwayo! Ngakho-ke yonke into lapha nayo ayicacile.

Ingabe lesi sisho sizwakala nini namuhla?

Kuningi okulotshiwe ngomshado eVangelini, kodwa ngithanda ukugqamisa lokhu okulandelayo: “… lokho uNkulunkulu akuhlanganisileyo makungahlukaniswa muntu.” ( Mathewu 19:6 ), ngokombono wami, okungase kuqondwe njengentando kaNkulunkulu ngokuphathelene nemishado.

Namuhla lesi sihloko siphinyiswa kaningi ezimweni ezimbili. Noma lokhu kwenziwa abantu abanokholo oluqinile ukuze bethuke futhi babonisane nabashade nabo (izikhathi eziningi abashadile) abacabanga ngesehlukaniso. Noma edingeka ukuze azikhulule ekuzikhetheleni kwakhe: bathi, uthunywe kimi evela phezulu, manje siyahlupheka, sithwele isiphambano sethu.

Ngokombono wami, lokhu kunengqondo kokuphambene: njengoba isakramente lomshado lenzeka ethempelini, khona-ke lo mshado uvela kuNkulunkulu. Futhi lapha abaningi bangangiphikisa, benikeza izibonelo eziningi zokuthi ngezinye izikhathi ngokungacabangi, ngokusemthethweni noma ngokungananazi ngokuzenzisa, ukuze kuboniswe, umshado weminye imibhangqwana ethempelini wenzeka.

Ngizophendula lokhu: kunembeza wombhangqwana, ngoba abapristi abanawo amandla akhethekile okuhlola izinga lokuqwashisa kanye nesibopho salabo abafuna ukushada.

Futhi uma kukhona, khona-ke iningi lalabo abafisa lingabhekwa njengabangafaneleki futhi abangakulungele, futhi ngenxa yalokho ngeke bavunyelwe ukudala umndeni ngokwemithetho yesonto.

Ubani osho lokho?

NgokwemiBhalo Engcwele, abantu bokuqala badalwa futhi bahlanganiswa uNkulunkulu ngokwakhe. Kusukela lapha, cishe, ukulindela kuvela ukuthi yonke eminye imibhangqwana nayo yakhiwe ngaphandle kolwazi Lwakhe, ukubamba iqhaza kanye nemvume.

Ngokusho kocwaningo lwesazi-mlando uKonstantin Dushenko¹, ukukhulunywa kokuqala kwalokhu kungatholakala eMidrash - incazelo yamaJuda yeBhayibheli kusukela ekhulwini lesi-XNUMX, engxenyeni yayo yokuqala - incwadi kaGenesise («Genesise Rabbah»).

Lesi sisho sivela endimeni echaza ukuhlangana kuka-Isaka nomkakhe uRebeka: «Izithandani ziyafanelana eZulwini», noma kwenye inguqulo: «Awukho umshado wendoda ngaphandle kwentando yeZulu.

La mazwi ngandlela thize angatholakala emiBhalweni Engcwele. Ngokwesibonelo, esahlukweni 19 seNcwadi yeZaga zikaSolomoni: “Indlu nefa kuyifa elivela kubazali, kodwa umfazi ohlakaniphileyo uvela kuJehova.”

Futhi ngokuqhubekayo eBhayibhelini umuntu angathola ngokuphindaphindiwe izikhombo emishadweni yezinzalamizi zeTestamente Elidala namaqhawe “ayevela eNkosini.”

Amagama mayelana nemvelaphi yasezulwini yezinyunyana nawo azwakala ezindebeni zamaqhawe ezincwadi zokubhala maphakathi nekhulu lesi-XNUMX futhi ngemuva kwalokho athola ukuqhubeka neziphetho ezahlukahlukene, ikakhulukazi ezihlekisayo nezinokungabaza, ngokwesibonelo:

• “… kodwa abanandaba nokuthi bayaphumelela”;
• "... kodwa lokhu akusebenzi emishadweni ephoqelelwe";
• "... kodwa izulu alikwazi ukwenza ukungabi nabulungisa okubi kangaka";
• "... kodwa zenziwa emhlabeni" noma "... kodwa zenziwa endaweni okuhlala kuyo."

Zonke lezi zenzakalo zifana nomunye nomunye: zikhuluma ngokudumazeka empumelelweni yomshado, eqinisweni lokuthi injabulo ngokuqinisekile iyosilindela kuwo. Futhi konke ngoba abantu kusukela kudala bafuna futhi bafuna iziqinisekiso ukuthi isimangaliso sothando sobabili sizokwenzeka. Futhi abaqondi noma abafuni ukuqonda ukuthi lolu thando lwakhiwe kumbhangqwana, owenziwe ngabahlanganyeli bawo ngokwabo ...

Namuhla, ukungabaza abantu abasabela ngakho emshwaneni othi "Imishado yenziwa ezulwini" kungenxa yezibalo zesehlukaniso: ngaphezu kwe-50% yezinyunyana ekugcineni zihlukana. Kodwa ngisho nangaphambili, lapho imishado eminingi ingenelwa ngokucindezelwa noma ngokunganakile, ngenhlanhla, yayimbalwa imikhaya ejabulayo njengoba injalo namuhla. Isehlukaniso sasingavunyelwe.

Okwesibili, abantu abayiqondi kahle injongo yomshado. Phela, lokhu akuyona i-idyll ehlangene enganaki, kodwa umsebenzi othile, ekuqaleni ongaziwa kithi, okumele umbhangqwana ugcwalise ngokuvumelana necebo likaSomandla. Njengoba bethi: izindlela zeNkosi aziphenyeki. Nokho, kamuva lezi zincazelo ziba sobala kulabo abafuna ukuzichaza.

Inhloso yomshado: kuyini?

Nazi izinketho eziyinhloko:

1) Umgomo obaluleke kakhulu, ngokubona kwami, yilapho abalingani benikezwa omunye komunye impilo noma isikhashana ukuze ziqaphele futhi ushintshe ube ngcono. Siba othisha bomunye nomunye, noma, uma uthanda, sibe ngabalingani.

Kuyadabukisa ukuthi ngokuvamile le ndlela ehlangene ihlala iminyaka embalwa kuphela. Bese-ke oyedwa noma bobabili abalingani bafinyelela izinga elisha lokuthuthuka nokusebenza futhi, sebeshintshile, abakwazi ukuhlala ngokuthula ndawonye. Futhi ezimweni ezinjalo, kungcono ukuqaphela lokhu ngokushesha futhi uhlakaze ngokuthula.

2) Ukuzala nokukhulisa umuntu oyingqayizivele noma izingane ezihlangene zibone okuthile okubalulekile. Ngakho ama-Israyeli asendulo ayefuna ukuzala uMesiya.

Noma, njengoba kuboniswe ku-Life Itself (2018), abazali kudingeka "bahlupheke" ukuze izingane zabo zihlangane futhi zithandane. Kimi, umbono waleli tape yilo: uthando lweqiniso olufanayo aluvamile kangangokuthi lungabhekwa njengesimangaliso, futhi ngenxa yalokhu, izizukulwane ezidlule zingaba nzima.

3) Ukuze lomshado uguqule umlando. Ngakho-ke, isibonelo, umshado weNkosazana uMargarita waseValois noHenry de Bourbon, iNkosi yesikhathi esizayo uHenry IV, waphela ngobusuku bukaBartholomew ngo-1572.

Umuntu angabeka umndeni wethu wokugcina wasebukhosini njengesibonelo. Abantu babengamthandi ngempela iNdlovukazi u-Alexandra, futhi ikakhulukazi abantu bacasulwa isimo sakhe sengqondo ku-Rasputin, nakuba bephoqelelwe, nakuba ngenxa yokugula kwendodana yakhe. Umshado kaNicholas II no-Alexandra Feodorovna ungabhekwa njengovelele ngempela!

Futhi ngamandla othando oluhlangene lwabantu ababili abakhulu, u-Empress owachaza encwadini yakhe yezenzakalo ngo-1917 (kamuva, amanothi akhe anyatheliswa, ngiphinde ngiwafunde futhi ngiwancoma kuwo wonke umuntu), kamuva eyanyatheliswa ngaphansi kwesihloko esithi: " Nikeza uthando” (ngiphinde ngifunde ngezikhathi ezithile futhi ngincoma kuwo wonke umuntu).

Futhi ngokokubaluleka komlando wezwe kanye nebandla (umndeni wonke wagcotshwa ngo-2000 futhi wenziwa waba ngcwele njengabangcwele). Umshado kaPeter noFevronia, abangcwele bethu baseRussia, wathwala umsebenzi ofanayo. Basishiyela isibonelo sempilo yomshado ekahle, uthando lobuKristu nokuzinikela.

Umshado ufana nesimangaliso

Ngiyayibona indima kaNkulunkulu ekudaleni imindeni lapho kuhlangana khona abantu ababili abafanelekayo. Ezikhathini zeTestamente Elidala, ngezinye izikhathi uNkulunkulu wayekwenza lokhu ngokuqondile - wamemezela kumngane womshado okufanele amthathe njengomkakhe.

Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, sifuna ukwazi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi ubani isithandwa sethu futhi iyini injongo yethu, njengoba sithole impendulo efanele evela phezulu. Namuhla, izindaba ezinjalo ziyenzeka futhi, ukuthi nje uNkulunkulu "wenza" ngokucacile kancane.

Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi asingabazi ukuthi abanye abantu bagcina kule ndawo futhi ngalesi sikhathi kuphela ngentando yesimangaliso, ukuthi amandla aphezulu kuphela angafeza lokhu. Kwenzeka kanjani lokhu? Ake ngenze isibonelo ngempilo yomngane.

U-Elena usanda kuthuthela eMoscow esuka ezifundazweni nezingane ezimbili, waqasha indawo yokuhlala futhi wabhalisa endaweni yokuphola, eqinile futhi ekhokhelwayo, ngemva kokufunda ukubuyekezwa ku-intanethi. Angizange ngihlele ubuhlobo obujulile eminyakeni embalwa elandelayo: ngakho-ke, mhlawumbe thola umuntu othile wokuzilibazisa ngokuhlanganyela.

U-Alexey unguMuscovite, ohlukanisile eminyakeni embalwa edlule. Ufisa ukuthola intombi ngemva kwemizamo ephindaphindiwe yokuhlangana ungaxhunyiwe ku-inthanethi, wanquma ukubhalisa endaweni efanayo yokuphola ngemva kokufunda isibuyekezo esifanayo nokukhokha unyaka kusengaphambili.

Ngendlela, naye wayengalindele ukuthi maduze uzohlangana nombhangqwana lapha: wayecabanga ukuthi uzodlala ngothando ngezincwadi futhi emihlanganweni yesikhathi esisodwa engavamile "ukuthola amandla e-libidinal wesifazane" (uyisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, uyaqonda).

U-Alexey wabhalisa enkonzweni kusihlwa, futhi wayejabule kakhulu ngale nqubo kangangokuthi washayela esiteshini sakhe esitimeleni futhi ngobunzima, phakathi kwamabili phakathi kwamabili, wafika endlini. Ngemva kwamahora ambalwa, kwenye ingxenye yedolobha, kwenzeka okulandelayo.

U-Elena, ngaleso sikhathi owayengaphumelelanga ukuxhumana nabafake izicelo amasonto ambalwa, ngokuzumayo uvuka ngo-5 ekuseni, okungakaze kwenzeke kuye ngaphambili. Futhi, engacabangi ngempela, esebenza ngokufisa, ushintsha idatha yephrofayela yakhe kanye nemingcele yokusesha.

Kusihlwa ngalolo suku, u-Elena ubhalela u-Alexei okokuqala (naye akakaze akwenze lokhu ngaphambili), uphendula cishe ngokushesha, baqala ukubhalelana, babizana ngokushesha futhi bakhulume isikhathi esingaphezu kwehora, beqaphelana ...

Nsuku zonke kusukela lapho, u-Elena no-Alexei bebelokhu bexoxa amahora amaningi, befiselana ekuseni nokulala okuhle, behlangana ngoLwesithathu nangeMigqibelo. Bobabili baqala ngqá lokhu ... Ngemva kwezinyanga eziyisi-9 bayahlangana, futhi ngemva konyaka owodwa impela, ngosuku lokugubha usuku lokujwayelana kwabo, badlala umshado.

Ngayo yonke imithetho ye-physics, i-sociology kanye nezinye isayensi, kwakungafanele bahlangane futhi baqale ukuhlala ndawonye, ​​kodwa kwenzeka! Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi bobabili babhaliswa kusayithi lokuqomisana okokuqala, wachitha cishe inyanga kuyo, futhi wachitha usuku kuphela. U-Aleksey, ngendlela, wazama ukubuyisela imali ekhokhelwe unyaka, kodwa kwanhlanga zimuka nomoya.

Futhi akekho ongangifakazela ukuthi bahlangana ngenhlanhla, ngaphandle kosizo lwezulu! By the way, cishe unyaka ngaphambi kokuba bahlangane, njengoba kwenzeka, kwaba khona enye into eyenzekayo - bazulazula ngosuku olufanayo emahholo ombukiso ofanayo (wandizela ngokukhethekile eMoscow), kodwa ke ayengahloselwe ukuhlangana. .

Ngokushesha uthando lwabo lwadlula, kwakhishwa izibuko ezinemibala egqamile, babonana ngobukhazikhazi bawo, nawo wonke amaphutha akhona. Isikhathi sokudumala sesifikile… Futhi umsebenzi omude wokwamukelana, ukudala uthando usuqalile. Kwadingeka futhi kuyodingeka badlule futhi benze okuningi ngenxa yenjabulo yabo.

Ngingathanda ukuhlanganisa ukuhlakanipha kwabantu: thembela kuNkulunkulu, kodwa ungalenzi iphutha. Uma ufuna ukuphila ngenjabulo kuze kube phakade, kuzodingeka usebenze kanzima kuwe nasebudlelwaneni. Kokubili ngaphambi komshado kanye nenqubo yokuhlalisana, kokubili ngokuzimela (iya kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo) kanye ndawonye (hambela izikhathi zokwelashwa kwengqondo yomndeni).

Yiqiniso, kungenzeka ngaphandle kwethu, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, kodwa nathi kushesha kakhulu futhi kusebenza kahle. Phela, umshado ojabulisayo udinga ukuvuthwa, ukuqwashisa, ukuzwela, ikhono lokubonisa nokuxoxisana, ukuthuthukiswa emazingeni ahlukene obuntu babo bobabili abalingani: ngokomzimba, ngokwengqondo, ngokomzwelo, kwezenhlalo-namasiko nangokomoya.

Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - ikhono lokuthanda! Futhi lokhu kungafundwa ngokuthandazela isipho sothando kuNkulunkulu.

¹ http://www.dushenko.ru/quotation_date/121235/