Okuqukethwe
Isihloko sami siqondiswe kulabo asebevele benezingane emndenini, noma ukubonakala kwabo kulindeleke. Ungalokothi! Izwa, ungalokothi ukhulise izingane zakho ngokusekelwe ekukhohliseni, ungadlali ngemizwa yazo! Uma ufuna izingane zakho zikhule ziphilile ngokwengqondo, zanele, ngokuzethemba okuvamile futhi zingacasulwa nguwe impilo yazo yonke, thola indlela enempilo yokufundisa nokuthuthukisa ubuntu.
Ukuphatha ukucasuka
Uma ingane yakho ingafuni ukwenza imisebenzi yayo endlini, noma, njengoba idlale ngamagajethi, ingajahi ukwenza umsebenzi wesikole, awudingi ukumtshela ukuthi akakuthandi, ukuthi uzofa ngenxa yokusebenza ngokweqile. , kodwa ngeke aphawule. Futhi ngokuqinisekile ungasho ukuthi ngesimo sengqondo esinjalo empilweni uzokhula aphume kuye: “isigelekeqe, isela, isihlanya noma umbulali”. Ngala mazwi, ulele ngokungazi Uhlelo olungalungile lwempilo. "Okungcono kakhulu," umuntu ohluliwe one-inferiority complex uzokhula. Ukuze uvimbele lokhu kungenzeki, zama ukwethula umvuzo ongokomfanekiso womsebenzi ngamunye oqedwe ngesikhathi. Ake sithi umvuzo wemali, noma uhlelo lwamaphoyinti. Ngakho, ngomsebenzi ongafeziwe, kunesimiso sokujezisa, ukususa amaphuzu, noma isikhathi esithile ngaphandle kwamagajethi. Ngokwami, umbono wami ukuthi akufanelekile ukuvimba ingane ukuthi ihambe futhi ikhulume nabangane, ngoba ukuhamba kuwumoya ohlanzekile omuhle empilweni, futhi ukukhuluma nabangane ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo yengane yakho kanye namakhono akhe okuxhumana.
Ukwesaba abazali
Ukuze sikwenze kucace kakhudlwana, masizikhumbule njengabancane noma sisebasha. Yebo, thina, izingane ezakhula ngeminyaka yama-90s, sasingenawo amakhompyutha, kodwa kwakukhona ama-consoles, afana SEGA or DENDYlapho besidlala khona, sikhohlwe yikho konke. Noma, ngenkathi befunda incwadi ethakazelisayo, bakhohlwa ukugeza izitsha noma ukushanela phansi. Bese uzwa isicabha sangaphambili sikhala futhi umama wakho uyafika ekhaya. Ukubuya kwakhe kuvusa miphi imizwelo kuwe? Ukwesaba? Ukwesaba? Ilinde ihlazo elingenakugwemeka? Uma impendulo yakho ithi: "Futhi kunjalo", bese ngiyakuhalalisela, sine-psychological trauma yengane.
Emindenini lapho ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu bakhiwe ngendlela efanele, ingane ayiphonswa emjulukweni obandayo futhi yesaba ukuthi abazali babuyile futhi imisebenzi yasekhaya ayizange ifezeke. Futhi okudabukisa kakhulu ukuthi wena, cishe, futhi ulawula imizwa yezingane zakho. Cha, anibona abazali ababi, nivele ninombono othile wokuziphatha ezimweni ezinjalo. Futhi isinyathelo sokuqala sokwakha ubuhlobo obuhle nezingane ukuqonda ukuthi uphula ingqondo yengane ngamazwi nangezenzo zakho. Ngokushesha nje lapho uqonda lokhu futhi uvuma ngobuqotho kuwe ukuthi ulahlekelwe ukuqondana nezingane, funda ukuxoxisana nazo. Izibonelo zendlela esezichazwe ngayo kulesi sihloko. Siphinde sakhe ubuhlobo obufanele nezingane, kuze kube yilapho konke kuphumelele, kodwa sizama kakhulu. Futhi uzophumelela.
Uzikhulisa kanjani izingane zakho futhi wenze ezimeni ezahlukene? Yabelana ngolwazi lwakho kumazwana.
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