NgoFebhuwari, kwanyatheliswa incwadi ka-Anna Starobinets ethi "Look at him". Sishicilela ingxoxo no-Anna, lapho engakhulumi nje kuphela ngokulahlekelwa kwakhe, kodwa futhi ngenkinga ekhona eRussia.
Psychology: Kungani odokotela baseRussia basabela ngale ndlela emibuzweni yokukhishwa kwezisu? Ngabe yonke imitholampilo ayikwenzi lokhu ezweni lakithi? Noma ingabe ukuhushula izisu isikhathi sekwephuzile akukho emthethweni? Siyini isizathu sobudlelwano obungajwayelekile kangaka?
U-Anna Starobinets: E-Russia, imitholampilo ekhethekile kuphela ehlanganyela ekuqedeni ukukhulelwa ngenxa yezizathu zezokwelapha ekupheleni kwesikhathi. Yiqiniso, lokhu kusemthethweni, kodwa kuphela ezindaweni eziqokwe ngokuqinile. Isibonelo, esibhedlela esifanayo sezifo ezithathelwanayo eSokolina Gora, esithandwa kakhulu ukwesabisa abesifazane abakhulelwe emitholampilo yabakhulelwe.
Ukuvalelisa enganeni: indaba ka-Anna Starobinets
Owesifazane obhekene nesidingo sokuqeda ukukhulelwa esikhathini esizayo akanalo ithuba lokukhetha isikhungo sezokwelapha esimfanele. Kunalokho, ukukhetha ngokuvamile akubi ngaphezu kwezindawo ezimbili ezikhethekile.
Ngokuqondene nokusabela kodokotela: kuxhumene neqiniso lokuthi eRussia akukho nakancane imithetho yokuziphatha neyokuziphatha yokusebenza nabesifazane abanjalo. Okusho ukuthi, uma sikhuluma nje, ngokungazi noma yimuphi udokotela - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi owethu noma umJalimane - uzwa isifiso sokuziqhelelanisa nesimo esinjalo. Akekho noyedwa kodokotela ofuna ukuletha umbungu oshonile. Futhi akekho kwabesifazane ongafuni ukuzala ingane efile.
Ukuthi nje abesifazane banesidingo esinjalo. Futhi kodokotela abanenhlanhla yokusebenza ezikhungweni ezingabhekani nokuphazamiseka (okungukuthi, iningi lodokotela), asikho isidingo esinjalo. Lokho abakutshela abesifazane ngokukhululeka kanye nenani elithile lokunengeka, ngaphandle kokuhlunga amagama namaphimbo nhlobo. Ngoba ayikho imithetho yokuziphatha.
Lapha kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi, njengoba kwavela, odokotela abazi ngisho nokuthi emtholampilo wabo kusengenzeka ukuthi kube nokuphazamiseka okunjalo. Ngokwesibonelo, eMoscow Centre. Kulakov, ngatshelwa ukuthi “abahlanganyeli nezinto ezinjalo.” Kuthe izolo ngithintwa abaphathi balesi sikhungo bengitshela ukuthi ngo-2012 basazenza lezi zinto.
Kodwa-ke, ngokungafani neJalimane, lapho kwakhiwa uhlelo lokusiza isiguli esimweni esibucayi futhi isisebenzi ngasinye sinephrothokholi ecacile yezenzo esimweni esinjalo, asinalo uhlelo olunjalo. Ngakho-ke, udokotela we-ultrasound onguchwepheshe be-pathologies yokukhulelwa angase angazi ukuthi umtholampilo wakhe uhlanganyela ekuqedeni lezi zifo zokukhulelwa, futhi abaphathi bakhe bayaqiniseka ukuthi akudingeki bazi ngakho, ngoba insimu yakhe yobungcweti i-ultrasound.
Mhlawumbe kuneziqondiso ezingasho lutho zokuvimbela abesifazane ekuqedeni ukukhulelwa ukuze kwandiswe izinga lokuzalwa?
Hhayi cha. Against. Kulesi simo, owesifazane waseRussia uhlangabezana nengcindezi emangalisayo yengqondo evela kodokotela, empeleni uphoqeleka ukuba akhiphe isisu. Abesifazane abaningi bangitshele ngalokhu, futhi omunye wabo wabelana ngalokhu okuhlangenwe nakho encwadini yami - engxenyeni yayo yesibili, yobuntatheli. Wazama ukugcizelela ilungelo lakhe lokubika ukukhulelwa nge-pathology ebulalayo yombungu, abelethe ingane phambi komyeni wakhe, avalelise futhi amngcwabe. Ngenxa yalokho, wabelethela ekhaya, ebeka ukuphila kwakhe engozini futhi, njengokungathi, ngaphandle komthetho.
Ngisho nasesimweni se-pathologies engabulali, kodwa enzima, imodeli yokuziphatha kodokotela ivame ukufana: "Hamba ngokushesha ukuze uphazamiseke, khona-ke uzozala onempilo"
EJalimane, ngisho nasesimweni esinengane engakwazi ukuphila, ingasaphathwa eyengane ene-Down syndrome, owesifazane uhlale enikezwa ithuba lokuzikhethela ukuthi uzobika yini ukukhulelwa okunjalo noma akuqede. Nasohlangothini lweDown uyacelwa ukuthi avakashele imindeni okukhulela kuyo izingane ezinalesi sifo, babikelwe nokuthi kukhona abafisa ukutholwa yingane enjalo.
Futhi uma kuneziphambeko ezingahambisani nokuphila, owesifazane waseJalimane utshelwa ukuthi ukukhulelwa kwakhe kuzokwenziwa njenganoma yikuphi ukukhulelwa, futhi ngemva kokubeletha, yena nomndeni wakhe bazonikezwa iwadi ehlukile nethuba lokuvalelisa kumntwana. Lapho. Futhi futhi, ngesicelo sakhe, umpristi uyabizwa.
E-Russia, owesifazane akanakho ukukhetha. Akekho ofuna ukukhulelwa kanje. Uyamenywa ukuthi adlule «isinyathelo esisodwa ngesikhathi» ukuze akhiphe isisu. Ngaphandle komndeni nabapristi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngisho nasezimweni ze-pathologies ezingabulali, kodwa ezinzima, imodeli yokuziphatha kodokotela ivame ukufana: "Hamba ngokuphuthumayo ukuphazanyiswa, khona-ke uzozala onempilo."
Kungani unqume ukuya eJalimane?
Bengifuna ukuya kunoma yiliphi izwe lapho ukuqedwa kwesikhathi sekwephuzile kwenziwa ngendlela enobuntu nephucuzekile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kwakubalulekile kimina ukuthi ngibe nabangane noma izihlobo kuleli zwe. Ngakho-ke, ukukhetha kwaba ekugcineni kusukela emazweni amane: France, Hungary, Germany kanye Israyeli.
EFrance naseHungary bangenqaba, ngoba. ngokwemithetho yabo, ukuhushulwa kwezisu sekwephuzile ngeke kwenziwe kubavakashi ngaphandle kwemvume yokuhlala noma ubuzwe. Kwa-Israyeli, babekulungele ukungamukela, kodwa baxwayisa ngokuthi i-redtape ye-bureaucratic yayizohlala okungenani inyanga. Emtholampilo waseBerlin Charité bathe abanayo imingcele kubantu bangaphandle, futhi konke kuzokwenziwa ngokushesha nangobuntu. Ngakho saya khona.
Awucabangi ukuthi kwabanye besifazane kulula kakhulu ukusinda ekulahlekelweni "kwengane" hhayi "ingane"? Futhi ukuthi ukwehlukana, imingcwabo, ukukhuluma ngomntwana ofile, kuhambisana nesimo sengqondo esithile futhi akufanele wonke umuntu lapha. Ucabanga ukuthi lo mkhuba uzogxila ezweni lethu? Futhi ingabe iyabasiza ngempela abesifazane ukuba bazikhulule ekwelapheni ngemva kokuhlangenwe nakho okunjalo?
Manje akusabonakali. Ngemva kokuhlangenwe nakho enganginakho eJalimane. Ekuqaleni, ngasuka ezimweni ezifanayo zenhlalo lapho kuvela khona cishe yonke into ezweni lakithi: ukuthi akufanele ubheke umntwana oshonile, kungenjalo uzovela ephupheni elibi impilo yakhe yonke. Ukuthi ungamngcwabi, ngoba "kungani udinga ithuna lezingane ezincane kangaka."
Kodwa mayelana ne-teminoloji, ake sithi, i-acute angle - «fetus» noma «ingane» - ngakhubeka ngokushesha. Hhayi ngisho nekhona elicijile, kodwa kune-spike ebukhali noma isipikili. Kubuhlungu kakhulu ukuzwa lapho ingane yakho, nakuba ingakazalwa, kodwa ingokoqobo ngempela kuwe, ihamba kuwe, ibizwa ngokuthi i-fetus. Njengokuthi uwuhlobo oluthile lwethanga noma ulamula. Ayiduduzi, ibuhlungu.
Kubuhlungu kakhulu ukuzwa lapho ingane yakho, nakuba ingakazalwa, kodwa ingokoqobo ngempela kuwe, ihamba kuwe, ibizwa ngokuthi i-fetus. Engathi uwuhlobo oluthile lwethanga noma ulamula
Ngokuqondene nabanye - isibonelo, impendulo yombuzo, ukuthi ngiyibuke ngemva kokuzalwa noma cha - isikhundla sami sashintsha kusukela kokususa kuya kokuhlanganisa ngemva kokuzalwa ngokwayo. Futhi ngibonga kakhulu odokotela baseJalimane ngokuthi usuku lonke banginikeza ngobumnene kodwa ngokuphikelela ukuthi "ngimbheke", bangikhumbuza ukuthi ngisenalo ithuba elinjalo. Ayikho ingqondo. Kukhona ukusabela komuntu endaweni yonke. EJalimane, bafundiswa ochwepheshe - izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, odokotela - futhi benza ingxenye yezibalo. Kodwa asizange sizifunde futhi siqhubeke nokuqagela kukagogo wangaphambi kwemvula.
Yebo, kulula kumuntu wesifazane uma evalelise enganeni, ngaleyo ndlela ebonisa inhlonipho nothando ngomuntu owayekhona nongasekho. Komncane kakhulu - kodwa umuntu. Hhayi okwethanga. Yebo, kubi kakhulu kumuntu wesifazane uma efulathela, engaboni, engashongo, eshiya "ngokushesha ukukhohlwa." Uzizwa enecala. Akakutholi ukuthula. Yilapho ethola amaphupho amabi. EJalimane, ngakhuluma kakhulu ngalesi sihloko nochwepheshe abasebenza nabesifazane abalahlekelwe ukukhulelwa noma usana olusanda kuzalwa. Sicela uqaphele ukuthi lokhu kulahlekelwa akuhlukaniswanga ngamathanga kanye namathanga. Indlela iyafana.
Kungasiphi isizathu owesifazane waseRussia anganqatshelwa ukukhipha isisu? Uma lokhu kuhambisana nezinkomba, khona-ke ukusebenza kufakwe kumshwalense noma cha?
Bangenqaba kuphela uma kungekho izinkomba zezokwelapha noma zomphakathi, kodwa isifiso kuphela. Kodwa ngokuvamile abesifazane abangenazo izinkomba ezinjalo ku-trimester yesibili futhi abanaso isifiso sokwenza kanjalo. Kuphakathi kokuthi bafuna umntwana, noma uma bengamfuni, sebevele bakhipha isisu ngaphambi kwamasonto ayi-12. Futhi yebo, inqubo yokuphazamisa imahhala. Kodwa kuphela ezindaweni ezikhethekile. Futhi-ke, ngaphandle kwegumbi lokuvalelisa.
Yini ekuhlabe umxhwele kakhulu ngalawo mazwana athusayo ezinkundleni nasezinkundleni zokuxhumana obhale ngazo (wawaqhathanisa namagundane angaphansi)?
Ngahlatshwa umxhwele ukungabibikho ngokuphelele kwesiko lokuzwelana, isiko lokuzwelana. Okusho ukuthi, empeleni, ayikho "i-ethical protocol" kuwo wonke amazinga. Odokotela noma iziguli abanayo. Alukho nje emphakathini.
Ingabe zikhona izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo eRussia ezisiza abesifazane ababhekene nokulahlekelwa okufanayo? Uke walucela usizo wena?
Ngizamile ukufuna usizo kochwepheshe bezengqondo, futhi ngisho nesehlukile - futhi, ngokubona kwami, isahluko esisencwadini sinikezelwe kulokhu. Ngamafuphi: cha. Angikamtholi uchwepheshe wokulahlekelwa owanele. Impela bakhona endaweni ethile, kodwa iqiniso lokuthi mina, intatheli yangaphambili, okungukuthi, umuntu owazi ukwenza “ucwaningo”, angizange ngithole uchwepheshe onganginikeza le nkonzo, kodwa ngathola labo ababefuna ukungihlinzeka. kimi isevisi ehluke ngokuphelele, ithi ngokuvamile ayikho. Ngokwesistimu.
Ukuze uqhathanise: eJalimane, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ezinjalo namaqembu asekela abesifazane abashonelwe izingane bavele bakhona ezibhedlela zokubeletha. Awudingi ukubheka kubo. Owesifazane uthunyelwa kubo ngokushesha ngemva kokuxilongwa.
Ucabanga ukuthi kungenzeka ukuguqula isiko lethu lokukhulumisana nesiguli nodokotela? Futhi, ngokubona kwakho, uzokwethula kanjani izindinganiso ezintsha zokuziphatha emkhakheni wezokwelapha? Kungenzeka yini ukwenza lokhu?
Yiqiniso, kungenzeka ukwethula izindinganiso zokuziphatha. Futhi kungenzeka ukushintsha isiko lokuxhumana. ENtshonalanga, ngatshelwa, abafundi bezokwelapha benza nabadlali abanesineke amahora amaningana ngesonto. Indaba lapha imayelana nenhloso.
Ukuze uqeqeshe odokotela ngokuziphatha, kuyadingeka ukuthi endaweni yezokwelapha isidingo sokugcina lezi zimiso zokuziphatha nesiguli ngokuzenzakalelayo kubhekwa njengento engokwemvelo futhi elungile. E-Russia, uma okuthile kuqondwa "ngokuziphatha kwezokwelapha", khona-ke, kunalokho, "umthwalo wemfanelo" wodokotela abangayeki okwabo.
Ngamunye wethu uke wezwa ngezindaba zodlame ngesikhathi ebeletha kanye nangesimo sengqondo sekamu lokuhlushwa ngabesifazane ezibhedlela zababeletha kanye nemitholampilo yabakhulelwe. Ukuqala ngokuhlolwa kokuqala ngudokotela wezifo zabesifazane empilweni yami. Kuvelaphi lokhu, ingabe ngempela kufana nenkambu yethu yasejele?
Ikamu - hhayi ikamu, kodwa ngokuqinisekile lifana nenkathi edlule yaseSoviet, lapho umphakathi wawune-puritanical kanye ne-spartan. Konke okuhlobene nokuhlangana nokubeletha okunengqondo okuvela kukho, emithi yombuso kusukela ezikhathini zamaSoviet, bekubhekwa njengomkhakha wezinto ezingcolile, ezingcolile, ezinesono, okungcono kakhulu, eziphoqelelwe.
E-Russia, uma okuthile kuqondwa "ngokuziphatha kwezokwelapha", khona-ke, "umthwalo wemfanelo" wodokotela abanganikezeli ezabo.
Njengoba singamaPuritan, ngenxa yesono sokuhlangana, owesifazane ongcolile unelungelo lokuhlupheka - kusukela ezifweni zocansi ukuya ekuzalweni. Futhi njengoba siyi-Sparta, kufanele sidlule kulezi zinhlupheko ngaphandle kokukhipha izwi. Ngakho-ke amazwi avamile ombelethisi ngesikhathi ebeletha: “Ngangithanda ngaphansi komuntu ompofu—manje ungamemezi.” Ukumemeza nezinyembezi kungezababuthaka. Futhi kunezinguquko ezengeziwe zofuzo.
I-embryo ene-mutation yi-culling, i-fetus eyonakele. Owesifazane oyigqokile usezingeni eliphansi. AbaseSparta abawathandi. Akufanele abe nozwelo, kodwa ukukhuzwa kanzima nokuhushula isisu. Ngoba siqinile, kodwa silungile: ungakhonondi, uhlazeke, sula i-snot yakho, uhole indlela efanele yokuphila - futhi uzozala omunye, onempilo.
Isiphi iseluleko ongasinikeza abesifazane okwadingeka bakhiphe isisu noma abaphuphunyelwa yizisu? Ukusinda kanjani kuso? Ukuze ungazisoli futhi ungangeni ekucindezelekeni okujulile?
Lapha, kunjalo, kunengqondo kakhulu ukukweluleka ukuthi ufune usizo kuchwepheshe wezengqondo. Kodwa, njengoba ngishilo kancane kancane, kunzima kakhulu ukuyithola. Ingasaphathwa eyokuthi lenjabulo iyabiza. Engxenyeni yesibili yencwadi ethi “Mbheke”, ngikhuluma ngqo ngalesi sihloko - indlela yokuphila - noChristine Klapp, MD, udokotela oyinhloko we-Charité-Virchow obstetrics clinic eBerlin, ogxile ekunqanyulweni kokukhulelwa sekwephuzile, futhi akenzi nje kuphela ngosizo lwezifo zabesifazane, kodwa nokwelulekwa ngokwengqondo ezigulini zabo nabalingani bazo. UDkt. Klapp unikeza izeluleko eziningi ezithakazelisayo.
Isibonelo, uyaqiniseka ukuthi indoda idinga ukufakwa "enqubweni yokulila", kodwa kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi ululama ngokushesha ngemva kokulahlekelwa ingane, futhi unenkinga yokukhuthazelela ukulila ubusuku nemini. Kodwa-ke, ungakwazi ukuhlela kalula naye ukuthi uzinikele enganeni elahlekile, ithi, amahora ambalwa ngesonto. Indoda iyakwazi ukukhuluma kulawa mahora amabili kuphela ngalesi sihloko - futhi izokwenza ngokwethembeka nangobuqotho. Ngakho, umbhangqwana ngeke uhlukaniswe.
Indoda kufanele ifakwe "enqubweni yokulila", nokho, kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi ilulama ngokushesha ngemva kokulahlekelwa ingane, futhi iphinde ibe nobunzima bokubekezelela ukulila ubusuku nemini.
Kodwa konke lokhu kungenxa yethu, vele, ucezu lwendlela yokuphila yezenhlalo neyomndeni engaziwa ngokuphelele. Ngendlela yethu, ngeluleka abesifazane ukuba balalele kuqala inhliziyo yabo: uma inhliziyo ingakakulungeli "ukukhohlwa futhi uphile", ngakho-ke akudingekile. Unelungelo lokudabuka, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abanye bacabangani ngakho.
Ngeshwa, asinawo amaqembu okusekela ngokwengqondo ochwepheshe ezibhedlela zokubeletha, noma kunjalo, ngombono wami, kungcono ukwabelana ngolwazi namaqembu angewona ochwepheshe kunokuba singabelani nhlobo. Isibonelo, ku-Facebook (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia) isikhathi esithile manje, ngiyaxolisa nge-tautology, kuneqembu elivaliwe "Inhliziyo ivulekile". Kukhona ukulinganisela okwanele, okubonisa ama-troll nama-boors (okuyivelakancane ezinkundleni zokuxhumana zethu), futhi kukhona abesifazane abaningi abaye babhekana noma balahlekelwa.
Ucabanga ukuthi isinqumo sokugcina ingane siyisinqumo sowesifazane kuphela? Futhi hhayi abalingani ababili? Phela, amantombazane avame ukuqeda ukukhulelwa ngenxa yesicelo somngane wawo, umyeni. Ucabanga ukuthi amadoda anelungelo kulokhu? Kuphathwa kanjani lokhu kwamanye amazwe?
Yiqiniso, indoda ayinalo ilungelo elingokomthetho lokuphoqa owesifazane ukuba akhiphe isisu. Owesifazane angamelana nokucindezela futhi enqabe. Futhi unganqotshwa - futhi uvume. Kuyacaca ukuthi indoda kunoma yiliphi izwe iyakwazi ukufaka ingcindezi ngokwengqondo kowesifazane. Umehluko phakathi kweJalimane enemibandela neRussia mayelana nalokhu yizinto ezimbili.
Okokuqala, umehluko ekukhulisweni kanye namakhodi amasiko. Abantu baseNtshonalanga Yurophu bafundiswa kusukela ebuntwaneni ukuvikela imingcele yabo siqu nokuhlonipha abanye. Baqaphela kakhulu noma yikuphi ukukhohlisa nokucindezela kwengqondo.
Okwesibili, umehluko eziqinisekweni zomphakathi. Uma sikhuluma nje, owesifazane waseNtshonalanga, ngisho noma engasebenzi, kodwa uncike ngokuphelele endodeni yakhe (okuyivelakancane kakhulu), unohlobo "lwendawo yokuphepha" uma kwenzeka esala yedwa nengane. Angaqiniseka ukuthi uzothola izinzuzo zomphakathi, lapho umuntu angaphila khona ngempela, nakuba kungenjalo ngokunethezeka, izimali ezibanjwa eholweni likayise wengane, kanye namanye amabhonasi omuntu osesimweni esibucayi - kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. kusonhlalakahle.
Kukhona into ethi «izandla ezingenalutho». Lapho ulindele umntwana, kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile ulahlekelwa nguye, uzizwa ngomphefumulo wakho nomzimba wakho ubusuku nemini ukuthi izandla zakho azinalutho, ukuthi azinakho okufanele kube khona.
Ngeshwa, owesifazane waseRussia usengozini kakhulu esimweni lapho umlingani engafuni ingane, kodwa uyayenza.
Isinqumo sokugcina, kunjalo, sihlala kowesifazane. Kodwa-ke, endabeni yokukhetha "i-pro-life", kufanele aqaphele ukuthi uthatha umthwalo wemfanelo omkhulu kunowesifazane waseJalimane onemibandela, ukuthi ngeke abe ne-cushion yomphakathi, futhi isondlo, uma sikhona, siyahlekisa. .
Ngokuqondene nesici esingokomthetho: Odokotela baseJalimane bangitshele ukuthi uma kuziwa ekuqedeni ukukhulelwa, ake sithi, ngenxa ye-Down syndrome, banemiyalelo yokuqapha ngokucophelela umbhangqwana. Futhi, uma kukhona izinsolo zokuthi owesifazane unquma ukukhipha isisu ngaphansi kwengcindezi evela kumlingani wakhe, baphendule ngokushesha, bathathe isinyathelo, bameme isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, bachazele owesifazane ukuthi yiziphi izinzuzo zomphakathi yena kanye nengane yakhe engakazalwa abanelungelo lokuyithola. wazalwa. Ngamafuphi, benza konke okusemandleni ukumkhipha kule ngcindezi futhi bamnike ithuba lokuthatha isinqumo esizimele.
Uzizalelephi izingane? ERussia? Futhi ingabe ukuzalwa kwabo kwabasiza ukuba babhekane nokuhlukumezeka?
Indodakazi endala uSasha yayivele ikhona ngesikhathi ngishonelwa ingane. Ngambelethela eRussia, esibhedlela sokubeletha saseLyubertsy, ngo-2004. Wabeletha ngemali, «ngaphansi kwenkontileka. Intombi yami kanye nomlingani wami wangaphambili babekhona ekuzalweni (uSasha Sr., ubaba kaSasha Jr., wayengekho, wabe esehlala eLatvia futhi konke kwakunjengoba besho manje, "kunzima"). ukufinyela sanikezwa iwadi ekhethekile eneshawa kanye nebhola lenjoloba elikhulu.
Konke lokhu kwakukuhle kakhulu futhi kunenkululeko, okuwukuphela kokubingelela okuvela ezikhathini zaseSoviet kwakuyintokazi endala yokuhlanza ephethe ibhakede kanye ne-mop, eyagqekeza kabili kule-idyll yethu, yageza phansi phansi ngaphansi kwethu futhi yazithulela buthule ngaphansi kokuphefumula kwayo. : “Bheka lokho abakuqambile! Abantu abajwayelekile bazala belele.
Angizange ngibe ne-epidural anesthesia ngesikhathi sokubeletha, ngoba, kuthiwa, kubi enhliziyweni (kamuva, udokotela engangimazi wangitshela ukuthi ngaleso sikhathi endlini yaseLyubertsy kukhona okwakungalungile ngokubulala izinzwa - yini ngempela "eyayingalungile" , Angazi). Lapho indodakazi yami izalwa, udokotela wazama ukushutheka isikelo esokeni lami langaphambili futhi wathi, "Ubaba kufanele asike inkaba." Waquleka, kodwa umngane wami wasisindisa lesi simo - wathatha isikelo kuye wasika okuthile lapho yena. Ngemva kwalokho, sanikezwa ikamelo lomkhaya, lapho sobane—kuhlanganisa nosana olusanda kuzalwa—salala khona. Ngokuvamile, umbono wawumuhle.
Ngabeletha indodana yami encane, uLeva, eLatvia, esibhedlela esihle sababelethisayo saseJurmala, ene-epidural, nomyeni wami othandekayo. Lokhu kuzalwa kuchazwe ekugcineni kwencwadi ethi Bheka Kuyena. Futhi-ke, ukuzalwa kwendodana kwangisiza kakhulu.
Kukhona into ethi «izandla ezingenalutho». Lapho ulindele ingane, kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile ulahlekelwa yiyo, uzizwa ngomphefumulo wakho nomzimba wakho ubusuku nemini ukuthi izandla zakho azinalutho, ukuthi azinakho okufanele kube khona - ingane yakho. Indodana yavala lesi sikhala kuye, ngokomzimba kuphela. Kodwa lowo ophambi kwakhe, angisoze ngamkhohlwa. Futhi angifuni ukukhohlwa.