Kungani isizungu sibuhlungu kwabanye abantu kanye nendawo yokunethezeka kwabanye? Ngicabanga ukuthi abaningi sebezwile izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa, kwabajwayelene nabo noma abangani, le nkulumo elandelayo: "Ngingcono ngingedwa." Nakuba abanye bedangele futhi bengayitholi indawo, bayahlupheka futhi bahlupheke. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Ake sizame ukukuqonda.
Isizungu kanye nokuba wedwa
Okokuqala, udinga ukuhlukanisa izici ezi-2 ezibalulekile. Lobo mzwangedwa nokuba wedwa kuyizinto ezi-2 ezahlukene. Noma yimuphi umuntu obhekene nesizungu uyahlupheka. Lona umuzwa onzima kakhulu kumuntu. Nalowo othi kungcono abe yedwa, empeleni akawuzwa lomuzwa, uvele athande ukuthatha umhlalaphansi, athule, eyedwa. Kunabantu abahlala bodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo bazizwe bekhululekile. Laba ngabantu abazimele, abanomqondo ozinzile kanye nokuzethemba okuvamile. Kodwa kukhona abathi bayaphila kodwa empeleni bayahlupheka. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka?
Umuntu ekuqaleni, kusukela ekuzalweni, udinga ukunakwa, uthando, inhlonipho, ukunakekelwa. Lezi ezinye zezidingo zokuba yingxenye. Futhi kukho konke ukuphila, lezi zidingo kufanele zigcwaliswe ukuze uzizwe ukhululekile. Khumbula isimo kusukela ebuntwaneni, abazali bathenga okuthile okumnandi, imizwa yokwaneliseka, uthando, ukunakekelwa, isidingo ngokushesha vela. Futhi uma bengathengi, abazange banake, ukucasuka, ukudumazeka, hhayi ububele, isizungu.
Kulabo abafuna ukuqonda ukuthi kungani kungase kube kubi kakhulu wedwa, zama ukubheka ngokujulile ebuntwaneni bakho, khumbula izikhathi, ezikhanyayo zizohlala zisesikhumbuzweni sakho, nakuba zingalungile. Ezinye, izikhathi ezincane empilweni yengane zanele ukulimaza i-psyche engavikelekile. Izingxabano zabazali, ukulahlekelwa abathandekayo, njll Njengomthetho, okungatholwanga ebuntwaneni kuhlala impilo yonke. Kukhona abantu abahlupheka kakhulu futhi, ngaphezu kwesizungu, babhekana nokulahlwa, ukungabi namsebenzi, ukulangazelela, ubuhlungu bengqondo, njll. Ngokuvamile abantu bazama ukwelapha la manxeba ngotshwala, amaphilisi kanye namanye amalungiselelo asiza ukubalekela lesi simo esibuhlungu, kwelinye iqiniso, okungenani isikhashana. Kodwa lokhu ngokusobala akuyona inketho.
Okufanele ngikwenze?
Okufanele ukwenze ukugwema lesi simo esibuhlungu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungase kuzwakale ku-trite kangakanani, kodwa kuyadingeka ukwenza abangane abasha. Ukuxhumana, imihlangano. Kudingekile ukuba kube nabantu abanjalo eduze lapho umuntu angahlanganyela imizwa yakhe nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe. Gcwalisa izidingo zakho ngendlela enempilo, enempilo. Zama ukuqonda kahle ukuthi ushoda ngani. Ucabangani? Imicabango yethu iyizifiso zethu, lokho esifuna ukukuthola ekuphileni. Ungabeki izaba ekhanda lakho, kodwa kuthathe nje ukwenze. Umsebenzi omusha, abangani abasha, noma ukuphinde uxhumane nabantu obaziyo bakudala. Shiya imibono yakho ngokuthi ubhekana kanjani nesizungu. Ngiyabonga.