Eminyakeni yamuva, i-oncology iyekile ukuba yisihloko nesihloko esinamahloni: kuningi okushiwo futhi kubhalwe ngomdlavuza. Kungashiwo ukuthi sekuyingxenye yokuphila kwansuku zonke. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi kuncane ukwesaba nezinganekwane ezimzungezile. Encwadini ethi “Rules of Combat. #defeatcancer” intatheli uKaterina Gordeeva waqoqa imininingwane yakamuva ngalesi sifo futhi wachaza izindaba ezimangalisayo zokulwa nesifo somphakathi kanye nabantu abangaziwa. Ngomhla zizi-4 kuNhlolanja, iWorld Cancer Day, sishicilela izingcaphuno ezintathu zale ncwadi.
Kubonakala sengathi lesi yisikhathi sesithathu sizungeza i-Gorbachev Museum yaseGorbachevs, okuyimnyuziyamu yezwe kanye nemnyuziyamu yokuphila kwabo siqu. Kusobala ukuthi ukulungele ukukhuluma ngezenzakalo ezithile ngokungapheli, futhi sima kulezi zitebhisi isikhathi eside; sidlula kwabanye singabheki emuva.
Okunye futhi okuphawulekayo: isinqumo sakhe sokukhuluma ngoRaisa Maksimovna, mayelana nesifo esabulala ukuphila kwakhe, sasijule kakhulu, sinzima futhi sicabangela kangangokuthi sathinta izintambo zangaphakathi, sethula umshini wokukhumbula olele. Futhi ngemva kwehora lokuthula, iziphequluli ze-furrowed kanye nokumemeza okuyingxenye, ukububula okuyingxenye, manje ukhuluma ngaye ngokuningiliziwe, ngaphandle kokumisa isikhashana, engamvumeli ukuba abuze umbuzo, ahlele inkumbulo ngemva kwenkumbulo. Ukhuluma ngobuqotho, ngemininingwane kangangokuthi ngezinye izikhathi ngiqalaza: ingabe uyangitshela ngempela? ..
… “Ubusika wayebuthanda kakhulu, Katya. Lokhu ukuxhumana okungajwayelekile. Angikaze ngiqonde. Wayethanda isithwathwa, izishingishane – ngokumangalisayo ... Futhi manje wayesengitshela ngaso sonke isikhathi, cishe kusukela ngosuku lokuqala e-Munster, “Asibuyele ekhaya, ngifuna ukubona ubusika.” Ngifuna ukuba sekhaya, embhedeni wami, kungcono lapho ... Futhi lapho engibizela ngokuphuthuma ekamelweni lakhe, wabe eseqala ekhuluma ngakho futhi, asibuyele ekhaya.
Waqhubeka, wasungula futhi, wathuthukiswa, wakhumbula ... Futhi wayesaba ukuma ngisho nomzuzu owodwa
Ngiyacabanga, oh cha, Raisa, akuyona indlela ingxoxo ezohamba ngayo, ngeke ngikuvumele ukuthi uxhunywe, akukhona lokho konke lokhu. Kodwa kuthiwani? Ngingamkhipha kanjani kulesi simo? Uhlale nje uthule? Angiyena lolo hlobo lomuntu. Futhi ngangingafuni ngandlela thize ukukhombisa ukudideka kwami, ukwesaba phambi kwakhe. Futhi kungazelelwe kwafika umcabango ngokuzenzakalelayo: ake ngikwenze uhleke.
Futhi weza: okokuqala, ngendlela eningiliziwe, watshela yonke indaba yokwazana kwabo, njengokungathi omunye umuntu wayeyibona, eqaphela kalula zonke izinto ezingenangqondo zokuziphatha kwabathandi. Ukuthi umuntu walandela bani, wayebaluleke kangakanani, kodwa emuhle, ethandana futhi enganakiwe, wayedida kangakanani ukumtshela ngemizwa yakhe okokuqala ngqa, ukuthi ukuvuma kwehluleke kanjani.
Futhi lokho okusebenzayo kwambiza ukuthi akuphinde futhi, kusukela ekuqaleni. Futhi ukuthi wakhetha ngokucophelela kanjani uthayi nejakhethi yakhe. Futhi kanjani-ke kwadingeka ngigqoke ezinye, kokubili uthayi nejakhethi. Futhi cishe ngengozi bashada. Futhi konke lokho kwaholelaphi...
Ngakho amahora ambalwa elandelana ewodini eliyinyumba leSibhedlela saseNyuvesi saseMünster, uMikhail Gorbachev walandisa uRaisa Gorbacheva ukuphila kwabo konke okude ndawonye njengenganekwane ehlekisayo. Wayehleka. Wabe eqhubeka, ephinda esungula, ethuthukisa, ekhumbula ... Futhi wayesaba ukuma ngisho nomzuzu owodwa.
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Inkulumompikiswano mayelana nokuthi kukhona yini ukuxhumana okuqondile phakathi kwesimo somqondo womuntu kanye namathuba okuthi athole umdlavuza sekunesikhathi eside iqhubeka njengoba odokotela bematasa befuna izindlela zokuwelapha.
Emuva ngo-1759, udokotela ohlinzayo oyiNgisi wabhala ukuthi, ngokokubona kwakhe, umdlavuza uhambisana “nezinhlekelele zokuphila, eziletha usizi nezinkinga ezinkulu.”
Ngo-1846, elinye iNgisi, isazi esidumile somdlavuza ngesikhathi saso, uWalter Haile Walsh, siphawula ngombiko woMnyango Wezempilo WaseBrithani, owathi: “... imbangela yalesisifo,” enezela yena ngokwakhe: “Ngiye ngabona izimo lapho ukuhlobana phakathi kokuhlangenwe nakho okujulile nokugula kwakubonakala kusobala kangangokuthi nganquma ukuthi ukuyibekela inselele kwakuyobonakala kuwukulwa nengqondo ehluzekile.
Ekuqaleni kwawo-1980, ososayensi baselabhorethri kaDkt. Umongo wokuhlolwa kwakuwukuthi amagundane okuhlola ajovwa ngamaseli omdlavuza inani elikwazi ukubulala igundane ngalinye lesibili.
Umzwelo oqhubekayo wokungabi namandla, ukucindezeleka - lokhu kuyindawo yokuzalanisa lesi sifo
Izilwane zabe sezihlukaniswa ngamaqembu amathathu. Iqembu lokuqala (lokulawula) lamagundane ngemva kokwethulwa kwamangqamuzana omdlavuza lashiywa lodwa futhi alizange liphinde lithintwe. Iqembu lesibili lamagundane labhekana nokushaqeka kagesi okungahleliwe okubuthakathaka, abangakwazi ukukulawula. Izilwane zeqembu lesithathu zabhekana nokushaqeka okufanayo kukagesi, kodwa zaqeqeshwa ukugwema ukushaqeka okwalandela (ukwenza lokhu, kwakudingeka zicindezele ngokushesha i-pedal ekhethekile).
Imiphumela yokuhlolwa kwelebhu yaseSeligman, eyanyatheliswa esihlokweni esithi “Ukwenqatshwa Kwethumba Kumagundane Ngemva Kokushaqeka Okungenakugwemeka” (Isayensi 216, 1982), kwenza umbono omkhulu emhlabeni wesayensi: amagundane athola ukushaqeka kukagesi, kodwa ayengenayo indlela. ukuze bakugweme, bacindezelekile, baphelelwa isifiso sokudla, bayeka ukukhwelana, basabela ngokuvilapha ekuhlaselweni kwehhoko labo. U-77% wamagundane avela kuleli qembu ashona ekupheleni kokuhlolwa.
Ngokuqondene neqembu lokuqala (amagundane ashiywe yedwa), ngakho-ke, njengoba kulindelekile lapho kwethulwa amangqamuzana omdlavuza, ingxenye yezilwane (54%) yafa ekupheleni kokuhlolwa. Kodwa-ke, ososayensi bashaywa ngamagundane avela eqenjini lesithathu, labo ababefundiswa ukulawula ukushaqeka kukagesi: 63% wamagundane avela kuleli qembu aqeda umdlavuza.
Lithini? Ngokusho kwabacwaningi, akusona ingcindezi ngokwayo - ukushaqeka kukagesi - okubangela ukuba isimila sikhule. Umzwelo oqhubekayo wokungabi namandla, ukucindezeleka - lokhu kuyindawo yokuzalanisa lesi sifo.
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Ku-psychology, kukhona into enjalo - ukusola isisulu, ukusola isisulu. Empilweni evamile, sivame ukuhlangana nalokhu: “ukudlwengulwa – kuyiphutha lakho”, “abantu abakhubazekile bazalelwa izidakwa nezidakamizwa kuphela”, “izinkinga zakho ziyisijeziso sezono.”
Ngenhlanhla, ukwakhiwa kombuzo okunjalo sekuvele kungamukeleki emphakathini wethu. Ngaphandle. Futhi ngaphakathi nakho konke okuzungezile, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke isiguli ngokwaso, zama ngokucophelela ukuthola isizathu esimxhumanisa nalesi sifo. Lapho zingekho izincazelo zangaphandle.
Kuyavunywa ukuthi imbangela eyinhloko yomdlavuza i-psychosomatics. Ngamanye amazwi, usizi oluqala uhlelo lokuzibhubhisa komzimba. Ngezinye izikhathi ngesiguli esashiswa umsebenzi ngaphambi kokugula, basho ngokudabukisayo: “Akukho okumangalisayo, wazinikela kubantu, ngakho washa.” Okusho ukuthi, futhi, kuvela - iphutha lakhe. Kwakudingekile ukuhlupheka kancane, ukusiza, ukusebenza, ukuphila, ekugcineni - khona-ke lesi sifo sasingeke sifike.
Zonke lezi zimangalo zingamanga ngokuphelele. Futhi umgomo wabo okuwukuphela kwawo uwukuletha okungenani uhlobo oluthile lwesisekelo esinengqondo kulokho okwenzeka ngempela cishe ngendlela engaqondakali futhi engalindelekile. Ukufuna amaphutha, ukwephulwa, iphuzu eliyinhloko lokungabuyi, njengomthetho, kuhlanyisa zonke iziguli kanye nezihlobo zabo ekuqaleni kwesifo, kususe amandla ayigugu anjalo, okudingekayo ukuze kwenziwe ukuxilongwa nokuthuthukisa isu lokulwa. isifo.
Funda okwengeziwe encwadini Katerina Gordeeva "Imithetho Combat. #defeatcancer” (ACT, Corpus, 2020).
UKaterina Gordeeva intatheli, umdidiyeli wefilimu, umbhali. Kanye noChulpan Khamatova, wabhala incwadi ethi "Isikhathi Sokuphula Iqhwa" (Ihlelwe ngu-Elena Shubina, 2018). Incwadi yakhe entsha ethi, Rules of Combat. I-#defeatcancer (ACT, Corpus, 2020) iwuhlelo olubukezwe kahle futhi lwanwetshwa lwencwadi yakhe ethi Defeat Cancer (Zakharov, 2013).