Phila kangcono nokufuna ukuphelela

Phila kangcono nokufuna ukuphelela

Phila kangcono nokufuna ukuphelela

Ingabe konke okwenzayo kufanele kwenziwe ngokuphelele? Ingabe uzibekela imigomo evame ukuba phezulu, noma ongeke uyifinyelele? Lezi zimo zengqondo ngokungangabazeki zibonisa ukuthambekela kokufuna ukuphelela. Kungenzeka ukuphila ngendlela enempilo ngalesi sici sobuntu. Kuthathwa ngokweqile, noma kunjalo, kungaba yimpilo futhi kulimaze kakhulu inhlalakahle ngisho nalabo abaseduze nabanye abantu.

 “Izimpawu zihlukile komunye nomunye,” kuchaza uFrédéric Langlois, uprofesa woMnyango Wezengqondo eNyuvesi yaseQuebec eTrois-Rivières (UQTR).

Lezi zici zingabonakala ezindaweni ezahlukene, njengasemsebenzini, ebudlelwaneni nabanye, noma emisebenzini yansuku zonke. "I-Perfectionism iba okungenampilo lapho umuntu engakwazi ukujwayela indlela yokusebenza azibekela yona ngokwesikhathi sakhe noma izigaba ezithile zokuphila kwakhe", kuchaza umcwaningi.

Ukufuna ukuphelela kuba okungenampilo uma1 :

  • ubeka ingcindezi eyengeziwe kuwe ukuze ufinyelele ukuphelela;
  • asiyizwa injabulo ngenxa yokunganeliseki kwethu njalo;
  • umuntu uba nzima kakhulu kuye;
  • siphetha ngokuthi konke akulungile lapho nje kungaphelele;
  • sisalela emuva ekufuneni ukwenza kahle kakhulu;
  • sigwema ukwenza izinto noma ukuhlehlisa ngenxa yokwesaba ukwehluleka;
  • sihlale sikungabaza ukusebenza kwakhe;
  • sivusa ukusabela okusizungezile, ngenxa yokufuna ukuphelela.

Kusukela ngo-2005 kuya ku-2007, uFrédéric Langlois kanye nethimba lakhe bathumele uhlu lwemibuzo ezigulini eziya emtholampilo wokukhathazeka nokuphazamiseka kwemizwelo. Ngokwemiphumela yocwaningo lwabo1, abahlanganyeli ababonise izimpawu zokuphelela ngokweqile babesengozini enkulu yokuthuthukisa ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo njengokucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka okujwayelekile noma ukucindezelwa.

“Umuntu ongafuni ukuphelela emoyeni uzwa ukungeneliseki okungapheli kanye nengcindezi engapheli azifaka kuyo. Uma ngaphezu kwalokho lo muntu kufanele abhekane nezinga eliphezulu lokucindezeleka, lokho kuthatha wonke amandla akhe. Kuba sengozini kakhulu futhi imiphumela ingaba yingozi kakhulu, ”kugcizelela uFrédéric Langlois.

Izixazululo?

Umuntu ongafuni ukuphelela angagqashula kanjani emjikelezweni ononya wokuphelela ngokweqile? Uma izinjongo zayo ziphakeme, ziyancipha ukufinyeleleka kwazo. Lesi simo siya ngokuya sincipha futhi umuntu uzonxephezela ngokufuna okwengeziwe kuye. Kepha kungenzeka ukubuyisa ukuzethemba kwakho.

"Umgomo ukushintsha imikhuba emincane ngasikhathi," kusho uFrédéric Langlois. Ngokuvamile abantu abathanda ukuphelela bayayikhohlwa injongo yalokho abakwenzayo. Umqondo uwukuthokozela okwenzayo, uxegise eyakho imithetho ukuze uyenze ibe ngokoqobo futhi ushiye ngemuva impumelelo. “

Ngaphezu kwakho konke, unganqikazi ukubonisana. Usizo lwezengqondo lungasiza ekuguquleni imibono futhi lubeke imigomo efinyelelekayo.

Amasu wokuphila kangcono nokufuna ukuphelela1

  • Okokuqala qaphela ukuthi lo mkhuba ungadala ukuhlupheka.
  • Setha imigomo emincane kakhulu yokushintsha futhi ukhuphule kancane inani lenselelo okufanele kuhlangatshezwane nayo.
  • Qaphela ukuthi kunohlu lwamathuba phakathi “kokuhluleka” kanye “nokuphelele” nokuthi izimo azihlali zifuna izinga elifanayo lokuphelela.
  • Qaphela ukuthi bambalwa abantu ababona ukuphelela komsebenzi wethu noma abakwaziyo konke okudingile (akekho osicela ukuba senze okufanayo).
  • Ukufunda ngokungapheleli ngokuqaphela ukuthi ayikho imiphumela emibi (kukhona nezinzuzo eziningi ezintweni ezenziwe kahle, ngaphandle kokuphelela).
  • Yazi ukuthi ungalufuna kanjani usizo lwezengqondo, uma kunesidingo.

U-Emmanuelle Bergeron - PasseportSanté.net

Isibuyekezo: Agasti 2014

1. Ephephandabeni Engqondweni yakho, iphephabhuku lesikhungo leNyuvesi yaseQuebec eTrois-Rivières.

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