Okuqukethwe
Ukubona uphawu lomuntu othi “Ngithanda” phambi kokungena kwethu, siyajabula: saziswa! Kodwa kubonakala sengathi ngisho nesibonakaliso esinjalo sokunaka singabangela ukucindezeleka kwentsha, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuholela ekucindezelekeni.
Namuhla, impilo yokuxhumana nabantu esebenzayo cishe ayinakucatshangwa ngaphandle kwamanethiwekhi omphakathi. Izingane zethu zigxile empilweni ebonakalayo. Bakhathazeke ngakho konke okwenzeka nabangani, futhi bona ngokwabo cishe yonke iminithi balungele ukwabelana ngezindaba zabo, imicabango kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho nabanye. Yingakho izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zinesithakazelo embuzweni: yiziphi izindleko zokuphila "okuxhunywe kakhulu"? Kuvele ukuthi ngisho nokuthanda ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kungaphazamisa inhlalakahle yentsha. Futhi ngomphumela ongalindelekile: ukuthandwa okuningi, ingcindezi eyengeziwe. Lokhu kufakazelwa ucwaningo lwe-psychotherapist Sonia Lupien (Sonia Lupien), uprofesa wezifo zengqondo e-Medical Faculty of University of Montreal (Canada). Wayefuna ukuthola ukuthi yiziphi izici ezibangela ukuqala kokucindezeleka entsheni. Phakathi kwalezi zici, ithimba lakhe likhethe "umphumela we-Facebook." Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zabona intsha engu-88 kusukela eminyakeni engu-12 kuya kwengu-17 ubudala eyayingakaze ibe nokucindezeleka. Kuvele ukuthi lapho osemusha ebona ukuthi othile ukuthandile lokho akubhale enkundleni yezokuxhumana, izinga lakhe le-cortisol, i-hormone yokucindezeleka, leqa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lapho yena ngokwakhe ethanda othile, izinga le-hormone lehla.
Funda kabanzi:
- Ucansi kanye ne-inthanethi: indlela yokuvikela intsha
Khona-ke intsha yacelwa ukuba ikhulume ngokuthi iyisebenzisa kaningi kangakanani ingosi yokuxhumana nabantu, bangaki “abangane” enabo, igcina kanjani ikhasi layo, indlela exhumana ngayo nabanye. Abacwaningi baphinde bahlole ababambiqhaza i-cortisol esikhathini esingamasonto amathathu. Ngaphambilini, abacwaningi base bevele bathole ukuthi amazinga aphezulu okucindezeleka ahlotshaniswa nengozi enkulu yokucindezeleka. “Intsha ecindezelekile ayicindezeleki ngaso leso sikhathi; zenzeka kancane kancane,” kusho uSonia Lupien. Labo ababenabangane be-Facebook abangaphezu kuka-300 babe namazinga aphezulu okucindezeleka ngokwesilinganiso kunabanye. Ungacabanga ukuthi izinga lokucindezeleka liyoba phezulu kangakanani kulabo abanohlu lwabangane lwabantu abangu-1000 noma ngaphezulu.
Funda kabanzi:
- Ingabe ukucindezeleka kuyisifo sokuvuvukala?
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, abanye bakholelwa ukuthi asikho isizathu sokukhathazeka okungathi sína. “Amazinga e-cortisol aphezulu awanayo ngempela ingozi entsheni,” kusho umelaphi womkhaya uDeborah Gilboa. “Konke kumayelana nokuhlukana kwabantu ngabanye. Umuntu uzwela kakhulu kukho, kuye ingozi yokucindezeleka izoba ngokoqobo ngempela. Futhi omunye ukucindezeleka, ngokuphambene nalokho, ukhuthaza. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokusho komelaphi, isizukulwane samanje sishintsha ngokushesha ukuxhumana sisebenzisa amanethiwekhi omphakathi. "Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi sizothuthukisa izindlela zokuba khona ngokunethezeka endaweni ebonakalayo," uqinisekile.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ababhali bocwaningo baphawule umkhuba omuhle. Ukuqashelwa kwentsha kubonise ukuthi ukucindezeleka kuyehla lapho bephatha abanye ngokubamba iqhaza: ithande okuthunyelwe kwayo noma izithombe, iphinde yathumela, noma amagama asekelayo ashicilelwe ekhasini labo. “Njengasezimpilweni zethu ngaphandle kwe-inthanethi, uzwela nozwela lusisiza ukuba sizizwe sixhumene nabanye,” kuchaza uDeborah Gilboa. - Kubalulekile ukuthi izinkundla zokuxhumana ziyindlela elula yokuxhumana yezingane, futhi zingabi umthombo wezinxushunxushu eziqhubekayo. Uma ingane ikufaka enhliziyweni kakhulu okwenzekayo ekudleni kwayo, lokhu kuwucingo lokuvusa abazali.
1 I-Psychoneuroendocrinology, 2016, vol. 63.