Cishe nsuku zonke ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, sibhekana nabantu abamamatheka njalo, njengokungathi abazazi izinkinga. Lo mhlaba ofanayo, ojabule kakhudlwana ululaza owethu ngobuqili. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Andrea Bonior sinikeza amasu alula ukuze uzivikele ekuhlangenwe nakho okungalungile.
Ngokumelene nesizinda sokuhamba, amaphathi, ama-premiere, ukumomotheka okungapheli nokwanga nabantu esibathandayo kanye nabantu abajabule nje, siqala ukuzizwa singenanhlanhla futhi sikufanelekele ukuphila kalula nangokugculisayo njengabangane bethu abahle. “Ungamvumeli umngane wakho alawule indlela ozizwa ngayo,” kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Andrea Bonior.
Ucwaningo lubonise ukuthi izinkundla zokuxhumana zivame ukuhlotshaniswa neziqephu zokucindezeleka uma lapho abantu beqala ukuqhathanisa izimpilo zabo nempilo yabanye abantu. Futhi ngisho noma ekujuleni kwezinhliziyo zethu siqagela ukuthi izithombe ezilinganisiwe ngokucophelela ze-«abangane» zikude neqiniso, izithombe zabo zisenza sicabange ngokuphila kwethu kwansuku zonke okungagqamile.
Londoloza isikhathi
"Okokuqala, yeka ukuphequlula i-Facebook ngokungacabangi (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia) nganoma yisiphi isikhathi samahhala," kusho u-Andrea Bonior. Uma ufake isicelo sakhe kumakhalekhukhwini wakho, lokhu kwenza kube lula ukufinyelela isayithi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Futhi ngenxa yalokho, konakalisa isimo sengqondo ngokuqhathanisa okungapheli komuntu othile, okubukiswa ngezici ezizuzisa kakhulu zokuphila nezakhe siqu.
Thola ukuthi yini ngempela ekwenza uzizwe kabi, futhi ungakwazi ukuqeda imbangela yale mizwa.
“Uyazihlukumeza futhi kuphenduka umkhuba wokubonauthi. - Dala isithiyo endleleni eya kunethiwekhi yokuxhumana nabantu. Makube yiphasiwedi eyinkimbinkimbi kanye nokungena okufanele kufakwe ngaso sonke isikhathi uma ufaka isayithi. Ngokulandela le ndlela, uvula ulwazi bese uqala ukubuka okuphakelayo ngendlela enenjongo futhi ebucayi. Kulesi simo, kuzoba lula kuwe ukuthi ungangeni ogibeni lwesifiso somunye umuntu sokuzibophezela nganoma yiziphi izindleko.
Khomba "okucasulayo"
Kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona abantu abathize ekuphakeleni komngani abenza uzizwe kabi kakhulu. Cabanga ukuthi yiziphi izindawo ezibuthakathaka abahlasela ngazo ngemiyalezo yabo? Mhlawumbe lo muzwa wokungazethembi mayelana nokubukeka kwabo, impilo, umsebenzi, ukuziphatha kwezingane?
Thola ukuthi yini ngempela eyenza uzizwe kabi, futhi ungakwazi ukuqeda imbangela yale mizwa. Lokhu kuzodinga umsebenzi wangaphakathi, ozothatha isikhathi. Kodwa njengamanje, ukuvimba imilayezo evela kubantu abavusa umuzwa wokungafaneleki kwabo kungaba isinyathelo sokuqala nesiphuthumayo sokuzisiza. Ukuze wenze lokhu, akudingekile ukubakhipha kokuphakelayo kwakho - vele uskrole kokuthunyelwe okunjalo.
Chaza imigomo
“Uma izindaba zokuthi omunye wabangane bakho ukhushulelwe esikhundleni zikwenza ucabange ngesikhundla esibucayi onaso emsebenzini, sekuyisikhathi sokuqala ukwenza okuthile,” kusho u-Andrea Bonior. Yenza uhlelo lwesikhathi esifushane nolwesikhathi eside lwalokho kanye ongakwenza njengamanje: qedela i-resume yakho, yazisa abangani abasensimini yakho ukuthi uqala ukufuna umsebenzi omusha, bheka izikhala. Kungase kube nengqondo ukukhuluma nabaphathi mayelana namathemba emisebenzi. Ngandlela thize, uma usuzizwa sengathi nguwe olawula isimo, futhi hhayi nje ukuhamba nokugeleza, uzokubona kalula ukunqoba kwabanye abantu.
Yenza i-aphoyintimenti!
Uma uwela ogibeni olungokoqobo lokuphila komuntu, olubonakala lucebile futhi luphumelela kakhulu, cishe kade ungamboni lomngani. Mmemele inkomishi yekhofi.
Umhlangano womuntu siqu uzokukholisa: umxhumanisi wakho ungumuntu wangempela, hhayi isithombe esicwebezelayo, akabukeki ephelele ngaso sonke isikhathi.
"Umhlangano womuntu siqu uzokukholisa: u-interlocutor wakho ungumuntu wangempela, hhayi isithombe esicwebezelayo, akabukeki ephelele futhi unezinkinga zakhe," kusho u-Andrea Bonior. Futhi uma ejabule ngempela, ungase ukuthole kuwusizo ukuzwa ukuthi yini emenza azizwe engcono.”
Umhlangano onjalo uzokubuyisela umuzwa weqiniso.
Siza abanye
Ngaphezu kokuthunyelwe okujabulisayo, nsuku zonke sibhekana neshwa lothile. Phendukela kulaba bantu futhi, uma kungenzeka, ubasize. Njengokuzindla kokubonga, ukuzizwa sidingeka futhi kusisiza ukuba sizizwe saneliseke kakhudlwana futhi sijabule kakhudlwana. Kusikhumbuza ukuthi kukhona abangase babhekane nobunzima obukhulu njengamanje futhi kufanele babonge ngalokho esinakho.