Ingabe ucansi luvunyelwe ngosuku lokuqala?

ucansi ngosuku lokuqala: amadoda nabesifazane

Lokhu akuwona umbono ongajwayelekile njengencwadi kadokotela, futhi eqondiswe ikakhulukazi kwabesifazane. Cabanga ngomuntu ozovikela umthetho onjalo wokuziphatha - angase acabange ukuthi unezinkinga nge-potency. Kodwa owesifazane kumelwe alawule imizwa yakhe yangaphakathi. Kungani?

“Lesi simo sengqondo sisekelwe enganekwaneni yomehluko phakathi kobulili besilisa nabesifazane,” kuchaza u-Inga Green. - Kulula ukumthola egqoke imaski efana nokuthi: "amadoda adinga lokhu", "amadoda adinga ucansi, futhi abesifazane badinga ukushada". Ngokwale nganekwane, indoda i-omnivorous futhi ijaha inombolo yoxhumana nabo, futhi usuku luwubuncane obungenakugwemeka, ngemva kwalokho izothola "ukufinyelela emzimbeni." Hhayi-ke, ubulili besifazane - isifiso, isithakazelo, ubumnandi - abubonakali bukhona. Ukubonakaliswa kokukhanga ngaphandle komongo wobudlelwano kubonakala njengokucasulayo kanye nesimemo esenzweni.

ukusuka kokunye ukudlulela kokunye

Kodwa-ke, ngokuqondene nalesi simiso esiqinile, esiyisidala. Ngempela, namuhla inkambiso ingenye eyeqisayo - ukukhombisa inkululeko yocansi kanye nokuzenzela. "Ukulala ukufakazela okuthile - le ndlela ayihlangene nokubonakaliswa kobulili," kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. “Angaba umfanekiso wento ethize: umbhikisho, isifiso sokuhlaba umxhwele, ukuthola amandla, ithonya noma okuhlangenwe nakho okusha.” Futhi kulokhu, owesifazane uwela kwenye ukuncika - ekuvukeni kwakhe kanye / noma ngesifiso somuntu.

Kuvela ukuthi akukho mehluko phakathi kwezilungiselelo "ukwenza uthando ngosuku lokuqala akulungile" futhi "bonisa ukuthi ukhululekile kangakanani"! Ngamunye wabo uveza umbono womphakathi obeka kithi uhlobo oluthile lwesenzo esizenzakalelayo futhi engacabangeli izidingo zomuntu siqu.

Thola ibhalansi

“Uma owesifazane elalela izifiso zakhe, uvuma ukusondelana lapho yena ngokwakhe efuna, futhi kwenzeka ngendlela ehlukile kuwo wonke umuntu,” kukhumbula u-Inga Green. - Ukusabela kwethu kungahluka kakhulu kuye ngokuthi yimuphi uzakwethu oseduze. Ngothile, kwanele ngathi ukuhogela noma ukubamba i-timbre yezwi ukuze sikhange sigxumele uphawu “khona lapha futhi ngokushesha,” futhi nomuntu sidinga ukuzilalela isikhathi eside ukuze sithole isithakazelo.

Kodwa uma sidonseleka kumuntu ophambene naye, futhi edonsekela kithi, uma sobabili sinesifiso sokwamukela nokunikeza injabulo, kungani-ke othile noma okuthile kufanele kusenqabele ukuba sikuqaphele lokhu?

Yebo, kufanelekile ukukhumbula ngokuphepha. Ungase uncamele ukuhlangana nezithandani izikhathi eziningi futhi wazi kangcono umlingani wakho omusha ukuze kungadingeki ukuba ubalekele efulethini lomunye umuntu ngobudedengu ukuze ubalekele ikhamera yevidiyo noma imikhuba yocansi engafanele. Uma unquma ukulandela umfutho wenkanuko ngobusuku bokuqala, ungabi nobuvila kakhulu ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuphepha: ungaphuzi kakhulu utshwala, gcina ifoni yakho ephathekayo ishajiwe futhi uxwayise umngane noma intombi mayelana nokuthi uhambe kuphi futhi nobani.