Imiyalo kwabalahliwe: indlela yokuyeka ukukhala futhi uqale ukuphila

Ngokuvamile ubudlelwano buqala ngokulingisa indima yakudala: uyaphishekela, uyagwema. Uhalela ukunakwa, ukusondelana, ukuthandwa, futhi uyayiziba noma azenzise. Ube esevuma ukuya ndawana thize ukuze ayodla isidlo sasemini, isidlo sakusihlwa, futhi ngokushesha ugibe lwavaleka.

Akekho owabamba umuntu ngamabomu, akazange ahehe noma ubani enetheni, njengesicabucabu esilindele isisulu ukuba siyeke, ngokuphambene nalokho, konke kwenziwa ngesithakazelo esiqotho nangokuvumelana. Lokhu kukhonza okuqotho nokushisekela into efiswayo yikho konke. Kuthulisa ukuqapha: uyaqhubeka nokuzibona njengendlovukazi yebhola, kanti okwamanje isondo lezehlakalo liyaphenduka ngendlela engaqondakali, futhi manje: “... Izolo ngilele ezinyaweni zami, ngilingana namandla aseShayina. Ngokushesha wasula izandla zombili ... «.

Kungani kuhlale kumangalisa ngisho nakwabesifazane abahlakaniphile nabavuthiwe? Konke kwenzeka ngokwemvelo: kunzima ngowesifazane ukumelana nesithakazelo esiqotho, esinothando kuye ngokwakhe. Lowo owazisa ukufaneleka kwethu uvele abonakale emehlweni ethu, futhi ngokushesha nje lapho ebheka ngakuye ngomqondo othi “Ini? Akamubi kangako, akabukeka kabi futhi akayisicefe kakhulu, ”i-spiral iqala ukuhlehla ibheke kolunye uhlangothi.

Kunezimo ezehlukene zokuthuthukiswa kwemicimbi. Okokuqala ukuthi une-immunity eqinile kubalandeli, uvele wabajwayela. Njengoba iqhawekazi elibi lenye ifilimu laliphupha, amadoda awela ezinyaweni zakhe futhi anqwabelene ezinqwaba. Kodwa kwabaningi, umuntu usazoba nenhlanhla - enenkani eyengeziwe, ephanayo, ehlakaniphile, noma eseduze nje ngesikhathi esihle. Uzoziveza njengesipho sasebukhosini, elindele ukuthi ubudlelwano babo buzohlala phakade, noma bungokomthethosisekelo, kodwa bungobukhosi. Isiphetho sibuhlungu kakhulu. Ngokumangala.

Okwesibili okukhethwa kukho ukuthi inqaba ivikelwe ngamandla ekuweni ngokunye okunamathiselwe, okunamandla futhi okungenakwenzeka. Kungani kungenakwenzeka? Ngokwesibonelo, unrequited. Noma useshade isikhathi eside futhi ushade ngokuqinile - futhi umbhalo womdlalo. Lapho umuntu wesithathu ebonakala esiteji, obuyela kuye umuzwa wokubaluleka kwakhe, ukukhanga, ukufiseleka - ngezwi, uphakamisela phezulu - ngokushesha noma kamuva uzombheka ngokufudumele futhi athathe imithi ezandleni zakhe. ngokuziqhenya kwabesifazane abalimele, futhi yini-ke, funda ngenhla.

Ungamelana, kodwa nakanjani uzozisola. Manje uyavika, uyalandela. Ume emnyango ubukeka njengesiguli esihlalweni sikadokotela wamazinyo, ubambe izandla zakhe, amabhande ebhantshi lakhe, isikhwama sakhe sezinto. Futhi kakade akunakwenzeka ukushintsha okungenakugwemeka, ngaphandle kokukuhlehlisa.

Endaweni ethile phakathi kukhona umzuzu ojabulisayo wokulinganisa: bobabili basenentshisekelo, basakhumbula isiqalo. Nge-inertia, kubonakala kuye ukuthi nguyena onqumayo ukuthi ngabe usebudlelwaneni noma cha. Kodwa lolu daba seluvele lubheke e-denouement enamalitha ezinyembezi kanye nobulili bokugcina bokuvalelisa, okuyinto, yebo, engcono kunazo zonke ezedlule.

Akusho lutho uma eya komunye. Okubalulekile ukuthi akekho eduze. Futhi kwenzeka ngaleso sikhathi esikhohlisayo lapho ekugcineni eyeka ukungabaza umbuzo wokuthi ufanelwe uthando lwakhe, futhi wamamukela ngokuhona ebusuku, amasokisi angcolile, uthando lwemidlalo yekhompiyutha kanye nezifiso zokupheka. Ngiphuphe ngokuhlangana ukuguga. Ngaleso sikhathi, bobabili base bebazi kahle, lapho zonke izingxabano nezinhlungu ezikhulayo zinqotshwa ngokulahlekelwa okukhulu noma okuncane, lapho alahlekelwa khona ukuthanda kwakhe kwasekuqaleni.

Isifo esibi esibizwa ngokuthi isithukuthezi siyaqala. Elinye igama layo ukwesaba ukunamathela, umthwalo wemfanelo, ukuntuleka kwenkululeko. Njengoba iqhawe lenye ifilimu lathi, "... futhi ngokungazelelwe ngacabanga ukuthi lo wesifazane uzokhanya phambi kwamehlo ami nsuku zonke ..." - kanye nokuqhubeka okungakhulunywanga kweqhawe lesikhathi sethu: "... futhi ngeke ngibe nelungelo kwabanye besifazane ?».

Yiqiniso, uyaqonda ukuthi ngesifiso esikhulu angaqamba amanga, afihle, alungise, kodwa lokhu akuyona inkululeko yokuba nanoma ubani, nini futhi kuphi lapho ufuna, futhi nguwe owamncisha leli thuba. Lapha, ubutha obungenangqondo bunezelwa ekwesabeni.

Ngabesifazane abahlakaniphile, abahlakaniphile kunzima nakakhulu - kubo, i-superstructure embi yengezwa phezu kwesisekelo sokuqhuma: ngaphakathi ugijimela phakathi kokwesaba nothando futhi uqala ukuzwa ubutha kuye, namahloni ngakuwe. Uyaqonda ukuthi awenzanga lutho olubi kuye. Noma okuphambene nalokho: unamahloni kuwe, ukuzonda wena. Ngenxa yalokho, uyazitshela ukuthi uchitha impilo yakho. Uzama ukukukholisa ngalokhu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uthini owakho umbono ngale ndaba. Kusukela ekujikijeleni kwangaphakathi, angakwazi "ukubalekela" kwezinye ubudlelwano, obuzoba uphawu lwenkululeko.

Ngempumelelo elinganayo, angakwazi ukukhohlwa, aphuze phansi noma athole amaphuzu, lesi sakamuva sifaneleka kakhulu kubantu abanenhlangano yengqondo encane. Ukukhohlwa kuleli cala kuwukuhlukumeza nokugwema ubudlelwano, lapho "bekhohlwa" ukukushayela, ukukuxwayisa ngezinhlelo ezishintshile, ukufeza isithembiso.

Lapho umnumzane eqala ukukhononda ngenkumbulo yakhe, ubuhlobo sebuvele bungene phezulu. Ehlukaniswe ukuphikisana, wayengadatshukelwa uma imizwa yakhe, iphihlizwe ibe yizicucu, ingalimazi kangako.

umbuzo okhathazayo

Kungani lokhu kwenzeka, okwenkulungwane ezibuza umbuzo futhi okwenkulungwane uyaphendula: "Ngenxa yokuthi ngangingahlakaniphile ngokwanele, ngimuhle ngokwanele, ngi-sexy ngokwanele." Lapho ezinye izinguqulo zivela phakathi kwezimpendulo, isibonelo: “Akayena umuntu olungile,” inqubo iphendukela ekululameni. Ngisho nokuhlasela kokuzivikela kungcono kunokuzishaya indiva.

Nokho, zonke izimpendulo azilungile. Ukuzigxeka kusho ukuxhaphaza umuzwa wecala wazalwa nawo wesifazane; isivele ikulungele ukwenza kube kubi ukucindezeleka kwakho. Ukumsola akulungile futhi. Ukube bekuyisilwane esinezimpondo, esinenkani owametha ngaso, ubungeke umvumele ukuthi asondele kuwena.

Wayesaba, okusho ukuthi nawe ubuseduze, usondelene ngendlela esabekayo. Zincome ngakho futhi ushintshele kuwena. Izilonda ezivulekile ziyisipho! Njengokungathi ubulokhu umba imayini isikhathi eside ufuna amaminerali, futhi manje kusasele ukwenza umnyakazo wokugcina, futhi igolide elimnyama lifika phezulu njengomthombo. Zinakekele manje ngaphambi kokuba uqinise umphini wakho womzwelo ukuze ugweme ukuphindaphinda okubuhlungu ukuze kungabikho omunye ongakulimaza.

Miningi iminyaka yokuphila ejabulisayo noma engajabulisi kangako ezayo. Ukubenza bajabule kuwumthwalo wakho, futhi usanda kuqinisekisa ukuthi lo mthwalo wemfanelo awukwazi ukudluliselwa komunye. Awuqondi nje ukuthi ubani olungile nokuthi ubani onephutha. Umbuzo oyinhloko ukuthi kungani manje ulahlekelwe ibhalansi yakho kakhulu futhi uzizwa njengengane ekhala kabuhlungu impilo yayo inikeze ukuqhekeka okukhulu.

Kungani omunye umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wayemangalisa kangakanani, waba obalulekile kuwe, kangangokuthi waze wazishintsha wena - kusukela ekunganakeni kuya ekuthandweni, ekuthandweni, futhi manje - ekungenakwenzeka kokuphila ngaphandle komuntu ongenasithakazelo ngokuphelele kuwe. Futhi ekuphenduleni lo mbuzo, iqiniso lokuphila emhlabeni wonke: sonke asizange sithole uthando olwanele ebuntwaneni futhi silindele ozakwethu ukuthi babonise ukubaluleka kwethu, ngokungazi bacele ukuqashelwa, balindele ukuthi baxazulule izinkinga zethu, basithande futhi basitotose njengobaba wayengasithandi.

Lowo ongasinika wona ngokuzenzakalelayo uba ngofiselekayo futhi adingeke, njengomdayisi wezidakamizwa womlutha wezidakamizwa. Singabantu abadala ngokwe-passport kodwa singena ebudlelwaneni njengezingane, yilowo nalowo ephethe isikhwama sakhe sosizi, ngethemba eliyimfihlo ukuthi umlingani usekhulile, angakwazi. Futhi babengamthandi.

Isikhathi soguquko

Ungakhuluma ngalesi sihloko esidabukisayo isikhathi eside, kodwa amazwi awakwazi ukusiza usizi. Abekho abanye, futhi ngokuvamile, ungenza okuthile ngokwakho. "Uthando", khula, zinikeze konke ukunakekelwa, ukuze ungakulindeli kozakwethu, yakha le moduli ebuntwini bakho, yenza ngcono. Hhayi ukuze ungadingi muntu, kodwa ukuze ungabeki umthwalo ongabekezeleki kubalingani phakathi neminyaka yokungathandi okuqoqiwe futhi ungene ebuhlotsheni obusuka esikhundleni somuntu omdala nomunye umuntu omdala.

Kunombono owodwa ongase ungavumelani nawo, ngoba akujabulisi ukuvumelana nalokhu: iningi lethu alinakho ukuvuthwa kwangaphakathi. Amantombazane, “angathandwa” ngoyise, abafana abasontekile ngokukhuliswa kwabesifazane, bahamba emigwaqweni. Kubo, ngisho negama lakhiwe - intsha yaphakade, i-puer aeternus (lat.) - lowo ongafuni ukukhula futhi athathe umthwalo wemfanelo.

Mhlawumbe usanda kuthola eyodwa? Futhi uma lokhu kunjalo, kusho omunye umthetho wokuphila okufanele uzwakale: ukuthanda kukhangwa ukuthanda, okusho ukuthi awunakho ukuvuthwa. Ngenhlanhla, lo mthetho unohlangothi oluhle kakhulu: njengoba ukhula, izimo zokuphila ziba njalo, nabantu abakuzungezile. Indlela "ukuthanda" wena? Uzomangala ukuthi le ndlela yokuvuthwa komuntu siqu ingaba lula futhi ishesha kangakanani.

Zidlulisele ngokwakho ngomsebenzi wokuzizwa uqiniseka, uzolile, unamandla, ukubaluleka kwakho siqu, kungakhathaliseki izimo nokuqashelwa kwangaphandle, futhi kuzofika. Njengoba imayini yemizwa yakho eyesabekayo manje ingena ekujuleni kobuntu bakho, ngisho noshintsho oluncane lapho luzoletha uguquko olukhulu kakhulu ebusweni. Uzombonga futhi ngokukukhombisa indlela eya kubuntu bakho bangempela.