"Uma ingane ingasizi endlini, ayisoze yakhula"

Abazali bahlose izingane zabo emisebenzini yokufunda neyokuthuthukisa, ekwazini amakhono obuhlakani. Futhi ngenxa yalokhu, bakhululwa kuyo yonke imisebenzi yasendlini - "makafunde, enze umsebenzi, futhi abanye bazolandela." Kodwa ukuhlanganyela njalo ezindabeni zomkhaya okuvumela umntwana ukuba akhule.

Ingane eyenza imisebenzi yasendlini ingase iphumelele ekuphileni, kusho uDkt. Marilyn Rossman. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kubantu abaphumelele kakhulu, imisebenzi yasendlini ibonakala eminyakeni emithathu noma emine. Futhi labo abaqala ukwenza okuthile endlini kuphela lapho besanda kweva eshumini nambili abaphumeleli kangako.

Ngisho noma kungadingeki ukuba ingane ikorobhe phansi noma ipheke ukudla kwasekuseni, kusadingeka yenze okuthile endlini, yazi indlela yokwenza, futhi ithole imvume yabazali ngegalelo layo. Lokhu kwakha indlela efanele yokusebenza, ewusizo emsebenzini nasemphakathini.

Amakhono awusizo ayisisekelo

Nawa amakhono ayinhloko namakhono okuphila ashiwo u-Julia Lithcott-Hames ebhekise kuphothali yemfundo egunyaziwe Family Education Network.

Lapho eneminyaka emithathu, ingane kufanele:

— siza ekuhlanzeni amathoyizi

- gqoka futhi ukhumule ngokuzimela (ngosizo oluthile oluvela kumuntu omdala);

— usizo lokulungisa itafula;

— xubha amazinyo bese ugeza ubuso ngosizo lomuntu omdala.

Ngeminyaka emihlanu:

- enze imisebenzi yokuhlanza elula, njengokuthulula uthuli izindawo okufinyeleleka kuzo nokususa itafula;

- ukondla izilwane ezifuywayo;

- xubha amazinyo, ukame izinwele zakho futhi ugeze ubuso bakho ngaphandle kosizo;

— usizo ngokuwasha izingubo, isibonelo, uzilethe endaweni yokuwasha.

Ngeminyaka eyisikhombisa:

— ukusiza ukupheka (ukugoqa, ukunyakazisa nokusika ngommese obuthuntu);

— lungisa ukudla okulula, isibonelo, yenza amasemishi;

— Siza ekuhlanzeni ukudla

- geza izitsha;

- ukusetshenziswa okuphephile kwemikhiqizo yokuhlanza elula;

- lungisa indlu yangasese ngemva kokuyisebenzisa;

— wendlula umbhede ngaphandle kokusizwa.

Ngeminyaka eyisishiyagalolunye:

- Songa izingubo

— funda izindlela ezilula zokuthunga;

- nakekela ibhayisikili noma iziketi zokushibilika;

- sebenzisa umshanelo nesitsha sothuli ngendlela efanele;

— ukwazi ukufunda izindlela zokupheka nokupheka ukudla okulula;

- ukusiza ngemisebenzi elula yasengadini, njengokunisela nokuhlakula;

- ukukhipha udoti.

Ngeminyaka engu-13:

— hamba uye esitolo uzithengele wena;

- shintsha amaphepha

- sebenzisa umshini wokuwasha izitsha nokomisa;

- gazinga futhi ubhake kuhhavini;

- insimbi;

- gunda utshani futhi uhlanze igceke;

— Bheka abafowabo nodadewabo abancane.

Ngeminyaka engu-18:

- ukukwazi kahle konke okungenhla;

- yenza umsebenzi wokuhlanza nokunakekela oyinkimbinkimbi, njengokushintsha isikhwama ku-vacuum cleaner, ukuhlanza ihhavini nokuhlanza i-drain;

— lungisa ukudla futhi ulungise izitsha eziyinkimbinkimbi.

Mhlawumbe, ngemva kokufunda lolu hlu, uzokwethuka. Miningi imithwalo yemfanelo esiyenza thina ngokwethu, esikhundleni sokuyiphathisa izingane. Okokuqala, kulula kakhulu kithi: sizokwenza ngokushesha futhi kangcono, futhi okwesibili, sithanda ukubasiza futhi sizizwe sinolwazi, sinamandla onke.

Kodwa lapho siqala ukufundisa izingane ukusebenza, aba mancane amathuba okuba zizwe kubo ebusheni: “Kungani nifuna lokhu kimi? Uma lezi kuyizinto ezibalulekile, kungani ngingazange ngikwenze lokhu ngaphambili?”

Khumbula isu eselizanywe isikhathi eside nelifakazelwe ngokwesayensi lokuthuthukisa amakhono ezinganeni:

- okokuqala sikwenzela ingane;

- bese wenza naye;

- bese ubheka ukuthi ukwenza kanjani;

- ekugcineni, ingane ikwenza ngokuzimela ngokuphelele.

Imithetho eyisithupha yemfundo yezabasebenzi

Akukephuzi kakhulu ukwakha kabusha, futhi uma ungakajwayeli ingane yakho ukusebenza, qala manje ukuyenza. UJulia Lythcott-Hames unikeza imithetho eyisithupha yokuziphatha yabazali.

1. Beka isibonelo

Ungayithumeli ingane yakho emsebenzini lapho wena ulele kusofa. Wonke amalungu omndeni, kungakhathaliseki ubudala, ubulili kanye nesimo, kufanele abambe iqhaza emsebenzini kanye nosizo. Vumela izingane zibone ukuthi usebenza kanjani. Bacele ukuthi bajoyine. Uma uzokwenza okuthile ekhishini, egcekeni noma egaraji — shayela ingane: «Ngidinga usizo lwakho.»

2. Lindela usizo enganeni yakho

Umzali akayena umsizi womuntu siqu womfundi, kodwa uthisha wokuqala. Kwesinye isikhathi sikhathalela kakhulu ubumnandi bengane. Kodwa kufanele silungiselele izingane ukuba zibe abantu abadala, lapho wonke lamakhono ezoba usizo kakhulu kuzo. Ingane ingase ingajabuli ngomthwalo omusha—ngokungangabazeki ingathanda ukuzingcwaba ocingweni noma ihlale nabangane, kodwa ukwenza izabelo zakho kuyoyinikeza umuzwa wesidingo nokubaluleka kwayo.

3. Ungaxolisi noma ungene ezincazelweni ezingadingekile

Umzali unelungelo nomsebenzi wokucela usizo lwengane yakhe ngemisebenzi yasekhaya. Awudingi ukuchaza ngokungapheli ukuthi kungani ucela lokhu, futhi uqinisekise ukuthi uyazi ukuthi akakuthandi kanjani, kodwa kusadingeka ukwenze, ugcizelele ukuthi awukhululekile ukumbuza. Izincazelo ezeqile zizokwenza ubukeke sengathi ubeka izaba. Kwehlisa ukwethembeka kwakho kuphela. Vele unike ingane yakho umsebenzi angakwazi ukuwenza. Angase akhononde kancane, kodwa esikhathini esizayo uyobonga kuwe.

4. Nikeza iziqondiso ezicacile neziqondile

Uma umsebenzi umusha, wehlukanise ube izinyathelo ezilula. Yisho kahle okumele ukwenze, bese uya eceleni. Awudingi ukundiza phezu kwayo. Vele uqiniseke ukuthi uwuqedile umsebenzi. Akazame, ahluleke aphinde azame. Buza: "Ngitshele uma isilungile, futhi ngizoza ngizobona." Khona-ke, uma icala lingeyona ingozi futhi ukugadwa kungadingeki, hamba.

5. Bonga ngokuzibamba

Lapho izingane zenza izinto ezilula kakhulu - zikhipha udoti, zizihlanze etafuleni, ziphakele inja - sivame ukuzincoma kakhulu: "Kuhle! Yeka ukuthi uhlakaniphe kangakanani! Ulimi olulula, olunobungane, oluzethembayo oluthi “ngiyabonga” noma “wenze kahle” kwanele. Londoloza izindumiso ezinkulu ngezikhathi lapho ingane izuze okuthile okungajwayelekile, yazidlula yona.

Ngisho noma umsebenzi wenziwa kahle, ungatshela ingane ukuthi yini engathuthukiswa: ngakho ngolunye usuku kuyoba emsebenzini. Izeluleko ezithile zinganikezwa: "Uma ubamba ibhakede kanje, udoti ngeke uphume kuwo." Noma: “Uyawubona umugqa wehembe lakho elimpunga? Yingoba uyigeze ngamajini amasha. Kungcono ukugeza ama-jeans ngokwehlukana okokuqala, kungenjalo azongcolisa ezinye izinto.

Ngemuva kwalokho, mamatheka - awuthukuthele, kodwa fundisa - bese ubuyela ebhizinisini lakho. Uma ingane yakho ijwayele ukusiza endlini futhi izenzela izinto ngokwayo, mbonise lokho okubonayo futhi uyakwazisa ekwenzayo.

6. Yakha isimiso

Uma unquma ukuthi ezinye izinto zidinga ukwenziwa nsuku zonke, ezinye masonto onke, kanti ezinye njalo ngesizini, izingane zizojwayela iqiniso lokuthi ekuphileni kuhlale kukhona okwenziwayo.

Uma utshela ingane ukuthi, “Lalela, ngiyakuthanda ukuthi ungene ebhizinisini futhi usize,” futhi umsize enze okuthile okunzima, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzoqala ukusiza abanye.