Okuqukethwe
- Kungenzeka yini ukukhulelwa futhi uzonde?
- Kungani le ndaba ingamukelekile?
- Ingabe nje ubunzima bokubhekana nezimpawu zokukhulelwa okungenzeka kube umphumela walesi simo, noma kungaba ngokwengqondo?
- Ungaba yini umphumela wemizwa enjalo ngokukhulelwa kwakhe?
- Ungakuthanda kanjani ukuba nezingane kodwa ungathandi ukukhulelwa?
- Yikuphi ukwesaba okuphindaphindayo kanye nemibuzo phakathi kwalaba besifazane?
Kungenzeka yini ukukhulelwa futhi uzonde?
Ngokuphambene nalokho umuntu angase akuzwe, ukukhulelwa kuvusa imizwa engqubuzanayo. Kuyisivivinyo, uhlobo lwenkinga yobunikazi. Ngokuphazima kweso, umama ozozala kufanele akhohlwe ngomzimba wakhe wobusha futhi ubunzima boshintsho ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ukubekezelela. Abesifazane kumele bakwamukele ukuthi abasalawuleki. Abanye bayesaba ukubona imizimba yabo iguquka kanje.
Abesifazane abakhulelwe nabo balahlekelwa inkululeko ethile. Ku-trimester yesithathu, baba nobunzima bokunyakaza. Bangase bazizwe bengakhululekile emizimbeni yabo. Okubi kakhulu ukuthi abalokothi bakhulume ngakho, banamahloni.
Kungani le ndaba ingamukelekile?
Siphila emphakathini lapho inkolo yomzimba, ukuncika kanye nokulawula kugcwele yonke indawo. Ukusakazwa kwabezindaba ngobumama kubonisa izici ezinhle kuphela yokukhulelwa. Lokhu kumelwe kutholwe njengepharadesi. Sibeka imingcele nemingcele emikhulu kwabesifazane abakhulelwe: akufanele siphuze, singabhemi noma sidle esikufunayo. Abesifazane bayacelwa ukuthi babe omama abaphelele kakade. Le "modeli ephepheni" ikude kakhulu neqiniso. Ukukhulelwa kuyinto ephazamisayo futhi eyinqaba.
Ingabe nje ubunzima bokubhekana nezimpawu zokukhulelwa okungenzeka kube umphumela walesi simo, noma kungaba ngokwengqondo?
Bonke ubuthakathaka bengqondo abesifazane abanabo ngaphakathi kubo, okusho ukuthi babeyingane, imodeli kamama wabo ... sikuthatha ebusweni konke lokhu. Ngiyibiza ngokuthi a "I-Psychic tidal wave", yonke into elahlekile ekuqulekile ivuselelwa ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Yilokhu ngezinye izikhathi okuholela ku-baby blues edumile. Ngemva kokubeletha, abesifazane banikezwa ukwelashwa kwezimonyo, kodwa akukho ukuqokwa nodokotela wezengqondo. Akekho azikho izindawo ezanele zokukhuluma kuzo zonke lezi zinxushunxushu.
Ungaba yini umphumela wemizwa enjalo ngokukhulelwa kwakhe?
Nakhu ayikho imiphumela yangempela. Le mizwa ihlanganyelwa yibo bonke abantu besifazane, kuphela, kwabanye, inodlame ngokwedlulele. Kumele wenze umehluko phakathi kokungathandi ukukhulelwa, nothando umuntu wesifazane angaba nalo ngengane yakhe. Akekho akukho ukuxhumana phakathi kokukhulelwa nokuba ngumama oqotho. Owesifazane angase abe nemicabango esabekayo ngesikhathi ekhulelwe futhi abe ngumama onothando.
Ungakuthanda kanjani ukuba nezingane kodwa ungathandi ukukhulelwa?
Lona umbuzo othintayo isithombe somzimba. Nokho, ukukhulelwa kuyisenzakalo esenza siphunyuke kukho konke ukulawula umzimba. Emphakathini wethu, lobu buciko bubalulekile, bubonwa njengokunqoba. Yingakho abesifazane abakhulelwe behlala isilingo sokulahlekelwa.
Kukhona futhi umnyakazo okhulayo wokulingana phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane. Abanye bangathanda ukuthi kube njalo oshade naye ethwele ingane. Ngaphandle kwalokho, amanye amadoda azisola ngokuthi awakwazi ukukwenza.
Yikuphi ukwesaba okuphindaphindayo kanye nemibuzo phakathi kwalaba besifazane?
“Ngiyesaba ukukhulelwa” “Ngesaba ukuba nengane esibelethweni sami, njengomfokazi” “Ngesaba ukuthi umzimba wami ukhubazekile ngenxa yokukhulelwa”. Isikhathi esiningi banayo, ukwesaba ukungenwa ngaphakathi futhi engakwazi ukwenza lutho. Ukukhulelwa kubonakala njengokuhlasela kwangaphakathi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, laba besifazane bacindezelekile ngenxa yokuthi babhekene nezingqinamba ezinkulu egameni lokuphelela kokuba ngumama.