Ungakuqonda kanjani ukuthi impilo yakho yengqondo iyawohloka: imibuzo emi-5

Akuthathi ngaphezu kwemizuzu eyishumi ukuhlonza ukucindezeleka ngokwakho. Thola ukuhlolwa okuku-inthanethi okufanelekile kusayithi elethembekile, phendula imibuzo, futhi usuqedile. Unayo impendulo, une «ukuxilongwa». Kungase kubonakale, yini engase ibe lula?

Lezi zivivinyo nezinhlu zemibandela zingaba usizo ngempela — zisisiza ukuthi sibone ukuthi asilungile futhi sicabange ngokushintsha noma ukufuna usizo. Kodwa iqiniso liyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, ngoba nathi bantu siyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Futhi futhi ngoba icala ngalinye lihlukile futhi impilo yengqondo yinto eguquguqukayo. Ngakho-ke izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ngeke zishiywe isikhathi eside zingasebenzi.

Nokho ikhona indlela esingayiboleka kongoti ukuze siqonde ukuthi isimo sethu sesisibi ngempela yini. Ngokusho kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sasemtholampilo uKaren Nimmo, basisebenzisa ukuze bathole ulwazi ngokwenzekayo ngesiguli. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi buyini ubungozi bakhe, ungabheka kuphi insiza, bese ukhetha uhlelo lokwelapha olufanelekile.

Le ndlela iqukethe imibuzo emihlanu okufanele uziphendulele yona. Ngakho-ke ungakwazi ukuhlola isimo sakho futhi uqonde ukuthi yisiphi isicelo okufanele uxhumane nodokotela wezengqondo. 

1. “Ingabe angisanyakazi kangako ngezimpelasonto zami?”

Indlela esiziphatha ngayo ngezimpelaviki iveza kakhulu ukwedlula esikwenzayo phakathi neviki. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umuntu angathini, ngezinsuku zokusebenza sinesimiso esimisiwe nezibopho, ngakho abantu abaningi abanohlobo oluthile lokuphazamiseka kwengqondo bakwazi "ukuhlangana", isibonelo, kusukela ngoMsombuluko kuya kuLwesihlanu - ngenxa nje yokuthi kufanele basebenze - kodwa NgoMgqibelo nangeSonto, njengoba besho, «ihlanganisa» kubo.

Ngakho-ke, umbuzo uwukuthi: ingabe wenza izinto ezifanayo ngezimpelasonto njengangaphambili? Ingabe ikunikeza injabulo efanayo? Ungakwazi yini ukuphumula futhi uphumule? Ingabe uchitha isikhathi esiningi ulele kunangaphambili?

Futhi okunye. Uma uqaphela ukuthi awusenandaba nokuthi ubukeka kanjani, ngisho noma uhlangana nabangane ngezimpelasonto, kufanele uqaphele ngokukhethekile: ushintsho olunjalo lucacile kakhulu.

2. “Ingabe sengiqalile ukugwema amaqhinga?”

Kungenzeka ukuthi uye waqaphela ukuthi waqala ukuthi “cha” kaningi kubantu owawuthanda ukuhlangana nabo futhi uchitha isikhathi, waqala ukwenqaba izimemo nokunikezwayo kaningi. Mhlawumbe usuqalile "ukuvala" emhlabeni. Noma mhlawumbe uzizwa sengathi "ubambekile" endaweni okungenani eyodwa yempilo yakho. Zonke lezi izimpawu eziyisixwayiso okufanele uziqaphele.

3. "Ingabe ngiyayijabulela nhlobo?"

Uyakwazi uku… ukuhleka? Ngobuqotho, akukhathazwa yini ukuhleka into ehlekisayo okungenani ngezinye izikhathi futhi ngokuvamile ujabule ngokuthile? Zibuze ukuthi ugcine nini ngempela ukuzijabulisa? Uma kamuva nje - kungenzeka kakhulu, ulungile. Uma ukuthola kunzima ukukhumbula isikhathi esinjalo, kufanele ucabange ngaso.

4. “Ingabe kukhona okungisizile ngaphambi kokuyeka ukusebenza?”

Uke wazama amaqhinga ajwayelekile okuphumula, ukuphumula nokuphakamisa umoya wakho futhi wabona ukuthi awasasebenzi? Uphawu okufanele likunake kakhulu ukuthi awusazizwa ugcwele amandla ngemva kweholide elide.

5. "Ingabe ubuntu bami bushintshile?"

Ingabe uke ube nomuzwa wokuthi akukho okusele kumdala wakho? Ukuthi uyekile ukuba yingxoxo ethokozisayo, ulahlekelwe "yinhlansi" yakho, ukuzethemba, ubuhlakani bakho? Zama ukukhuluma nabantu obathandayo obathembayo: kungenzeka ukuthi balubonile ushintsho kuwena — ngokwesibonelo, ukuthi usuthule kakhulu noma, ngokuphambene, ucasuka kakhulu.  

Okufanele ukwenze ngokulandelayo

Uma, ngemva kokuphendula imibuzo, isithombe sikude kakhulu, akufanele wethuke: akukho lutho oluyihlazo futhi olubi eqinisweni lokuthi isimo sakho kungenzeka sibe sibi kakhulu.

Kungenzeka ukuthi ukhombisa izimpawu ze-"covid ende"; mhlawumbe ukuwohloka akuhlangene nhlobo nobhubhane. Kunoma yikuphi, lesi yisizathu sokufuna usizo lochwepheshe: ngokushesha ukwenza lokhu, ngokushesha kuzoba lula kuwe, futhi impilo izophinde ithole imibala nokunambitha.

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