Iyacindezela, kwesinye isikhathi iyalimaza futhi ayineliseki ... Abanye bethu kungenzeka bahlangane “nowesifazane othena” endleleni yethu. Kunobuthi kubo kepha nakwabathandekayo babo, kuyabusa.

Ngokwezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, ukudangala kowesifazane othenwayo kungase kuvele ngenxa yokukhungatheka okuhlobene nobuntwana. Ku-Freud, inkimbi yokuthena iveza isethi yemiphumela yokuzithoba, ikakhulukazi ukuquleka, enqunywa usongo lokuthenwa emadodeni kanye nokungabikho kwepipi kwabesifazane. Idizayini ethathwe nguJacques Lacan.

Umthondo ungowomfana "isitho socansi sokuqala se-autoerotic", futhi lo angeke acabange ukuthi umuntu ofana naye akanalo. Kodwa i-castration complex kaFreud ithinta owesifazane njengendoda. Emantombazaneni, ukubona isitho sobulili obuhlukile ngokushesha kubangela inkimbinkimbi. Lapho nje ebona isitho sowesilisa, uzibona eyisisulu sokuthenwa. Uma esemdala, ubulili bakhe bubonakala buncishwe amathuba. Akazalwanga engumfanyana, ukukhungatheka okubangela umona emadodeni. Ezinye izimbangela zingase zibhebhethekise ubudoda kwabesifazane: ubaba odelela ngokwedlulele, ehlala ehlazisa indodakazi yakhe, eyikhungathekisa futhi eyilulaza kangangokuthi kubonakala inzondo endodakazini. Ube esedlulisela le nzondo kuwo wonke amadoda.

Ukuze uthole i-psychoanalysis, owesifazane olahlayo yilowo ofuna "phallus" (amandla) yena yedwa. Ufuna ukuphatha konke, ukulawula yonke into. Lona wesifazane ulwa namadoda afuna ukuwabusa. Igunya, ubenza bahambe ngenduku.

Ebudlelwaneni, owesifazane othena uyabusa. Kumngane wakhe womshado, unikeza umuzwa wokuthi akawufanelekeli lowo msebenzi, ukuthi akasoze wamanelisa uwonke. Akanqeni ukuyehlisa, aziphendulele phambi kwabantu. Ukugoba umuntu embonweni wakhe wezinto, izidingo zakhe futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho namaphupho akhe asondelene kakhulu futhi angcolile, kuyindlela yokuba abe namandla. Noma kunjalo, uhlala ehlakaniphile, engcono kunaye. Ubeka phambili izifiso zakhe, izidingo zakhe ngaphandle kokucabangela izidingo zakhe nhlobo. Owesifazane othenwayo akazi ukuthi unjalo. Kuyimvelo yakhe, kuyena, izwe linjalo. Uhlale ekhungathekile. Isimo sengqondo esiholela ekuthenelweni ngokomqondo kwesinye isikhathi okungadala ukungabi namandla emadodeni. Kodwa-ke, lapho umbhangqwana uzinza ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, indoda izifaka engozini yokuzama ukuzikhulula kulesi sibopho esicindezelayo ngokungathembeki, ngaphandle kokuphumelela nokho ukuzikhulula kukho. Owesifazane othena angaphinde abethelwe omunye wesifazane. Okubalulekile wukuholela umhlaba endodeni.

Lo mama ongaphezu kwamandla uzoba nokuziphatha okufanayo ezinganeni zakhe njengakwabesilisa: uzohlala ezikhumbuza ukuthi nguye oqondisayo, onqumayo. Kunzima kuze kube seqophelweni lobushiqela, kuvaliwe ekuxoxisaneni. Naye, akukho ngxoxo, emelene nanoma yiziphi izinguquko, angafinyelela ekusongeleni ingane uma ingalaleli, ngamazwi noma ngokomzimba, noma ngisho nokumhlukumeza ngokomzwelo. Kodwa ehlale ecabanga ukumenzela okuhle futhi noma ngabe yikuphi, uyaqiniseka ukuthi ingane yakhe ayikwazi ukuzinakekela.

Imiphumela enganeni ingaba yinhlekelele Umama othena uzoqhubeka nokufuna ukulawula impilo yomuntu omdala yengane yakhe, uzonikeza umbono wakhe ngabantu ababonayo. Unamandla, uyangenelela, uhlasela indawo yangasese yezingane zakhe. Ebhekene nokumelana okungenzeka, uzothukuthela. Umfana ongeke akwazi ukubhekana nomama wakhe uzoba yinkimbinkimbi yecala, ukuntula ukuzethemba futhi kamuva angase abe indoda engeke ikhululeke nabesifazane. Uzifaka engcupheni yokufuna umngane wakhe osesithombeni sikanina engazi ukuze alingise ubudlelwano obubuswa kakhulu, obuzoba ubudlelwano obunobuthi. Ngokuqondene nendodakazi, izifaka engozini yokukhiqiza isibonelo sikanina othena. Kungase kudingeke ukuthi esikhathini esithile ekuphileni kwabo abantu abadala, izingane zibeke ibanga elithile phakathi kwazo nomama wazo onobuthi.

Ebhekene nomuntu ohlaselayo ofuna ukulawula yonke into, onganaki isifiso somunye, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umngane, ingane, umngane, ukungakhululeki kungena ngokushesha okukhulu. Ukunganaki kowesifazane othena, isifiso sakhe sokulawula abantu ngabanye ngokushesha kucisha i-joie de vivre yalabo abamzungezile ukuze adedele isimo sobumnyama nokucasuka kanye namandla abalulekile afakwe i-vampirized. Uma ihlangana nayo, akukho lutho oluhambayo, izikhungo zethu zamandla zikhiyiwe, ukukhathala, isimo sengqondo sokucasuka, ukuthukuthela kanye nemicabango engemihle ... , ukuqonda nokuzimela kwengqondo. Ngempela, ukubopha ukuncika nobuntu obuthenayo yinto embi kakhulu ongayenza lapho umuntu ekwazisa impilo, impilo yakhe, nenkululeko yakhe.