Izimfanelo ezizoqinisekisa impumelelo yengane ekuphileni zingakhuliswa futhi kufanele zikhuliswe kusukela ebuntwaneni. Futhi lapha kubalulekile ukuthi unganikeli iphutha: hhayi ukucindezela, kodwa futhi hhayi ukuncelisa.
Ukuzethemba nokuzethemba kungesinye sezipho eziyinhloko abazali abangazinikeza ingane yabo. Lokhu akusikho esikucabangayo, kodwa uKarl Pickhardt, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nomlobi wezincwadi ezingu-15 zabazali.
“Ingane engazethembi izoba manqikanqika ukuzama izinto ezintsha noma ezinzima ngoba yesaba ukwehluleka noma ukudumaza abanye,” kusho uKarl Pickhardt. “Lokhu kwesaba kungababuyisela emuva impilo yabo yonke futhi kubavimbele ekwenzeni umsebenzi ophumelelayo.”
Ngokusho kukangoti wezengqondo, abazali kufanele bakhuthaze ingane ukuthi ixazulule izinkinga ezinzima zeminyaka yayo futhi bayisekele kulokhu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, u-Pickhardt unikeza amanye amathiphu okukhulisa umuntu ophumelelayo.
1. Kwazise umzamo wengane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umphumela uyini.
Lapho umntwana esakhula, indlela ibaluleke kakhulu kuye kunalapho eya khona. Ukuthi ingane ikwazile ukushaya igoli eliwinile, noma igeje igoli - ishayele ihlombe imizamo yayo. Izingane akufanele zingabaze ukuzama kaningi.
“Esikhathini eside, ukulwela njalo kunikeza ukuzethemba okwengeziwe kunempumelelo yesikhashana,” kusho uPickhardt.
2. Khuthaza ukuzijwayeza
Vumela ingane yenze okuthakazelisayo kuyo. Mncome ngokukhuthala kwakhe, ngisho noma ezilolongela ukudlala upiyano lwamathoyizi izinsuku eziningi. Kodwa ungamsunduzi kakhulu, ungamphoqi ukuthi enze okuthile. Ukuzijwayeza njalo, lapho ingane ibeka umzamo emsebenzini othakazelisayo, imnika ukuzethemba ukuthi umsebenzi uzolandelwa umphumela ozoba ngcono futhi ube ngcono. Akukho buhlungu, akukho nzuzo - isisho mayelana nalokhu, kuphela enguqulweni yabantu abadala.
3. Ukuzivumela Ukuxazulula Izinkinga
Uma uhlala ubopha izintambo zezicathulo zakhe, wenze isangweji, uqiniseke ukuthi uthathe konke esikoleni, wena-ke, uzisindise isikhathi nezinzwa. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, uyamvimbela ekuthuthukiseni ikhono lokufuna izindlela zokuxazulula izinkinga futhi umenze angazethembi ukuthi uyakwazi ukubhekana nazo eyedwa, ngaphandle kosizo lwangaphandle.
4. Makabe ingane
Ungalindeli ingane yakho ukuthi iziphathe njengomuntu omdala omncane, ngokuya ngomqondo wethu “omkhulu”.
“Uma ingane inomuzwa wokuthi ayikwazi ukwenza okuthile njengabazali bayo, iyolahlekelwa ugqozi lokuzama ukuba ngcono,” kusho uPickhardt.
Izindinganiso ezingenangqondo, okulindeleke kakhulu - futhi ingane ilahlekelwa ngokushesha ukuzethemba.
5. Khuthaza ilukuluku
Omunye umama wake wazithengela umshini wokuchofoza bese ecindezela inkinobho njalo lapho ingane imbuza umbuzo. Ntambama, inani lokuchofoza lidlule ikhulu. Kunzima, kodwa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sithi ukukhuthaza ilukuluku lezingane. Izingane ezinomkhuba wokuthola izimpendulo kubazali bazo azinqikazi ukubuza imibuzo kamuva, enkulisa noma esikoleni. Bayazi ukuthi kunezinto eziningi ezingaziwa nezingaqondakali, futhi abanamahloni ngazo.
6. Kwenze kube nzima
Bonisa ingane yakho ukuthi iyakwazi ukufeza izinhloso zayo, ngisho nezincane. Isibonelo, ukugibela ibhayisikili ngaphandle kwamasondo okuphepha nokugcina ibhalansi akuyona impumelelo? Kuyasiza futhi ukwandisa inani lemithwalo yemfanelo, kodwa kancane kancane, ngokuhambisana neminyaka yengane. Asikho isidingo sokuzama ukuvikela, ukonga kanye nomshuwalense kumntwana wonke. Ngakho uzomncisha ukungavikeleki ebunzimeni bempilo.
7. Ungagxili emntwaneni wakho umuzwa wokukhethekile.
Zonke izingane zihlukile kubazali bazo. Kodwa uma bengena emphakathini, baba abantu abajwayelekile. Ingane kufanele iqonde ukuthi ayingcono, kodwa futhi ayibi kakhulu kunabanye abantu, ngakho-ke ukuzethemba okwanele kuzokwakhiwa. Phela, labo abamzungezile cishe ngeke bamphathe njengomuntu ohlukile ngaphandle kwezizathu eziqondile.
8. Ungagxeki
Ayikho into edumaza ukwedlula ukugxekwa kwabazali. Impendulo eyakhayo, iziphakamiso eziwusizo zinhle. Kodwa ungasho ukuthi ingane yenza umsebenzi wayo kabi kakhulu. Okokuqala, kwehlisa amandla, futhi okwesibili, izingane ziyesaba ukwehluleka ngokuzayo. Phela uzophinde umthethise.
9. Phatha amaphutha njengokufunda
Sonke siyafunda emaphutheni ethu, nakuba isisho sithi abantu abahlakaniphile bafunda emaphutheni abanye abantu. Uma abazali bephatha amaphutha ezingane njengethuba lokufunda nokukhula, ngeke alahlekelwe ukuzethemba kwakhe, uzofunda ukungesabi ukwehluleka.
10. Dala ulwazi olusha
Izingane zingabantu abadla ngoludala ngokwemvelo. Ngakho-ke, kuzodingeka ube ngumhlahlandlela wakhe kukho konke okusha: okuthandayo, imisebenzi, izindawo. Ingane akufanele yesabe izwe elikhulu, kufanele iqiniseke ukuthi izobhekana nakho konke. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukumjwayela ngezinto ezintsha kanye nokuvelayo, ukwandisa ama-horizons akhe.
11. Mfundise lokho ongakwenza.
Kuze kube yiminyaka ethile, abazali bengane bangamakhosi nonkulunkulu. Ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nama-superheroes. Sebenzisa amandla akho amakhulu ukufundisa ingane yakho lokho okwaziyo nokwaziyo ukukwenza. Ungakhohlwa: uyisibonelo esihle enganeni yakho. Ngakho-ke, zama ukuphila ngendlela ongathanda ngayo enganeni yakho oyithandayo. Ukuphumelela kwakho emsebenzini othile kuzonika ingane ukuzethemba ukuthi izokwazi ukwenza okufanayo.
12. Ungasakazi ukukhathazeka kwakho
Lapho ingane enesikhumba sayo sonke izwa ukuthi ukhathazeke ngayo ngangokunokwenzeka, lokhu kwehlisa ukuzethemba kwayo. Phela, ngisho noma ungakholelwa ukuthi uyobhekana nakho, ubani-ke oyokwazi? Wazi kangcono, okusho ukuthi ngempela ngeke akwazi ukubhekana nesimo.
13. Mncome ngisho ingane ihluleka.
Umhlaba awunabo ubulungiswa. Futhi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kudabukisa kangakanani, umntwana kuyodingeka amukele lokho. Indlela yakhe eya empumelelweni izobe igcwele ukwehluleka, kodwa lokhu akufanele kube isithiyo kuye. Ukwehluleka ngakunye okulandelayo kwenza ingane izinze futhi ibe namandla - isimiso esifanayo sokungabi nabuhlungu, akukho nzuzo.
14. Nikeza usizo, kodwa ungagcizeleli
Ingane kufanele yazi futhi ibe nomuzwa wokuthi uhlala ukhona futhi uzosiza uma kwenzeka okuthile. Okusho ukuthi, uthembele ekwesekeni kwakho, hhayi ekutheni uzomenzela yonke into. Hhayi-ke, noma okuningi kwakho. Uma ingane yakho incike kuwe, ayisoze yahlakulela amakhono okuzisiza.
15. Khuthaza ukuzama izinto ezintsha.
Kungaba umusho olula kakhulu: “O, unqume namuhla ukwakha hhayi umshini wokubhala, kodwa isikebhe.” Umsebenzi omusha uphuma endaweni yakho yokunethezeka. Kuhlale kungathandeki, kodwa ngaphandle kwayo akukho ukuthuthukiswa noma ukufeza imigomo. Ukungesabi ukwephula induduzo yakho - lena yikhwalithi edinga ukuthuthukiswa.
16. Ungavumeli ingane yakho ingene emhlabeni obonakalayo
Mkhuthaze ukuthi axhumane nabantu bangempela emhlabeni wangempela. Ukuzethemba okuza nokuxhumana akufani nokuzethemba okuza nokuxhumana okubukhoma. Kodwa uyakwazi lokhu, futhi ingane isengakwazi ukufaka imiqondo esikhundleni sayo.
17 Yiba negunya, kodwa ungabi nokhahlo ngokweqile.
Abazali abanenkani ngokweqile bangase balulaze ukuzimela kwengane.
“Lapho etshelwa ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi kufanele aye kuphi, yini okufanele ayenze, ukuthi yini okufanele azizwe nendlela okufanele sisabele ngayo, umntwana uyalutheka futhi cishe ngeke enze ngesibindi esikhathini esizayo,” kuphetha uDkt. Pikhardt.