I-Psychology

Ukuqwasha kulimaza izinga lempilo. Futhi enye yezimbangela zayo ezivame kakhulu ukungakwazi ukuphumula, ukunqamula ukuhamba kolwazi kanye nezinkinga ezingapheli. Kodwa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esinengqondo uJessamy Hibberd siyaqiniseka ukuthi ungaziphoqa ukuba ulale. Futhi inikeza amathuluzi amaningana asebenzayo.

Emini, asinaso njalo isikhathi sokucabanga ngezinto ezincane, empeleni, ukuphila okuhlanganisa: izikweletu, ukuthenga, ukulungisa okuncane, amaholide noma ukuvakashela udokotela. Yonke le misebenzi ihlehliswa ngemuva, futhi lapho nje siyolala, ikhanda lethu liyahlaselwa. Kodwa kusadingeka sihlaziye okwenzekile namuhla futhi sicabange ngokuzokwenzeka kusasa. Le micabango iyajabulisa, ibangele umuzwa wokunganeliseki nokukhathazeka. Sizama ukuxazulula zonke izinkinga ngokushesha, futhi okwamanje, ukulala kusishiya ngokuphelele.

Ungakuvimba kanjani ukucindezeleka ekamelweni lakho Jessami Hibberd kanye nentatheli uJo Asmar encwadini yabo1 nikeza amasu amaningana okusiza ukukhulula ukucindezeleka futhi ungene kumodi "yokulala".

Nqamula ezinkundleni zokuxhumana

Naka ukuthi singakanani isikhathi osichitha ku-inthanethi. Cishe kuzokumangaza ukuthi sifika kangaki kumafoni ethu ngaphandle kokucabanga ngakho. Lapho sicabanga ngalokho esifuna ukukusho nokuthi kufanele kubonakale kanjani kubantu, kuba nethonya elijabulisayo engqondweni nasemizimbeni yethu. Ihora ngaphandle kokuxhumana ekuseni namahora ambalwa kusihlwa kuzokunika ukuphumula okudingekayo. Fihla ifoni yakho endaweni lapho ongeke ukwazi ukuyifinyelela khona ngesandla sakho, isibonelo, yibeke kwelinye igumbi bese ukhohlwa yikho okungenani isikhashana.

Zinike isikhathi sokuzindla

Ukwazi kwethu, njengomzimba, kujwayela uhlobo oluthile. Uma uhlale ucabanga ngosuku lwakho futhi ukwazisa ngenkathi ulele embhedeni, khona-ke ngokuzenzakalelayo waqala ukwenza lokhu ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho ukwazi ukulala phansi. Ukuze ushintshe lesi sitayela, beka eceleni isikhathi sokuzindla kusihlwa ngaphambi kokulala. Ngokucabanga ngalokho okwenzekile, indlela ozizwa ngayo nendlela ozizwa ngayo, empeleni ususa ikhanda lakho, uzinike ithuba lokulungisa izinto futhi uqhubeke.

Hlela imizuzu eyi-15 kudayari yakho noma ocingweni lwakho njenge "isikhathi se-alamu" ukuze ukwenze kube "okusemthethweni"

Hlala imizuzu engu-15 endaweni ethile lapho uwedwa, gxilisa ingqondo, ucabange ngalokho obuvame ukucabanga ngakho ebusuku. Yenza uhlu lwemisebenzi ephuthumayo, uyihlele ngendlela ezoza kuqala ngayo. Hlukana nezinto ngazinye ngemva kokuziqeda ukuze ukhuphule ugqozi. Hlela isikhawu semizuzu eyishumi nanhlanu kudayari yakho noma ocingweni lwakho ukuze ulenze "elisemthethweni"; ngakho-ke ukujwayela ngokushesha. Ngokubheka lawa manothi, ungahlehla futhi uzivumele ukuthi ubhekane nawo ngokuhlaziya kunokuba ubhekane nawo ngokomzwelo.

Zinike isikhathi sezinkathazo

“Kuthiwani uma” imibuzo ehlobene nomsebenzi, imali, abangani, umndeni, nempilo ingaququda ubusuku bonke futhi ngokuvamile ihlobene nenkinga ethile noma isimo. Ukuze ubhekane nalokhu, zibekele eceleni imizuzu engu-15 “njengesikhathi sokukhathazeka”—ngesinye isikhathi phakathi nosuku lapho ungahlela khona imicabango yakho (njengoba nje ubeka eceleni “isikhathi sokucabanga”). Uma izwi elingaphakathi elinokungabaza liqala ukuhleba: "Imizuzu eyishumi nanhlanu ngaphezulu ngosuku - ingabe uyahlanya?" - ungamnaki. Buyela emuva esimweni umzuzwana futhi ucabange ukuthi kuwubuwula kangakanani ukuyeka okuthile okuthinta kahle impilo yakho ngoba nje awukwazi ukuzinika isikhathi. Ngemva kokuqonda ukuthi kuyimbudane kangakanani, qhubeka nomsebenzi.

  1. Thola indawo ethule lapho kungekho muntu ozokuhlupha, futhi wenze uhlu lwezinkathazo zakho ezinkulu, njengokuthi «Kuthiwani uma ngingakwazi ukukhokha izikweletu zami kule nyanga?" noma “Kuthiwani uma ngidilizwa?”
  2. Zibuze, "Ingabe lokhu kukhathazeka kuyafaneleka?" Uma impendulo ingucha, yeqa leyo nto ohlwini. Kungani uchitha isikhathi esiyigugu entweni engeke yenzeke? Nokho, uma impendulo inguyebo, dlulela esinyathelweni esilandelayo.
  3. Yini ongayenza? Isibonelo, uma ukhathazekile ngokuthi ngeke ukwazi ukukhokha izikweletu zakho zanyanga zonke, kungani ungatholi ukuthi ungayihlehlisa yini inkokhelo? Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo hlela isabelomali sakho ngendlela yokuthi wazi kahle ukuthi uthola malini nokuthi uchitha malini? Ubungeke yini ucele iseluleko kanye/noma uboleke ezihlotsheni?
  4. Khetha inketho ebonakala ingethembeke kakhulu, futhi uyihlukanise ibe yizinyathelo ngazinye, ezincane, njengokuthi: “Shayela inkampani ngo-9 am. Buza ukuthi yiziphi izinketho zokukhokha ezihlehlisiwe ezinikezwayo. Bese ubhekana nezezimali, ngemali engenayo kanye nezindleko. Thola ukuthi yimalini engisasele ku-akhawunti yami kuze kuphele inyanga. Uma unamarekhodi anjalo phambi kwakho, ngeke kusabe kangako ukubhekana nenkinga yakho. Ngokubeka isikhathi esiqondile salokhu, uziphoqa ukuba uthathe isinyathelo, kunokuhlehlisa ukuxazulula inkinga kuze kube ngakusasa.
  5. Chaza izimo okungavimbela lo mbono ukuthi ufezeke, isibonelo: “Kuthiwani uma inkampani inganginiki inkokhelo ehlehlisiwe?” - thola ukuthi ungayixazulula kanjani inkinga. Ingabe kukhona ongakwenza ngaphandle kwale nyanga ukuze ukhokhe isikweletu sakho? Ungakwazi yini ukuhlanganisa le nketho nezinye futhi uthole isandiso ngosuku lwakho lokukhokha noma ucele othile ukuthi akuboleke?
  6. Emaminithini we-15 buyela ebhizinisini lakho futhi ungabe usacabanga ngokukhathazeka. Manje usunohlelo futhi usukulungele ukuthatha isinyathelo. Futhi ungabuyeli emuva naphambili uye ku-"what if?" - ngeke kuholele entweni. Uma uqala ukucabanga ngento ekukhathazayo njengoba ungena embhedeni, zikhumbuze ukuthi ungacabanga ngakho maduze «ngokukhathazeka.»
  7. Uma phakathi nosuku ufika nemicabango ebalulekile ngesihloko esijabulisayo, ungazisusi: kubhale phansi ebhukwini lokubhalela ukuze ukwazi ukukubheka ngesikhathi sekhefu lakho elilandelayo lemizuzu eyishumi nanhlanu. Ngemva kokubhala phansi, buyisela ukunaka kwakho kulokho obekufanele ngabe ukwenzile. Inqubo yokubhala phansi imicabango yakho mayelana nokuxazulula inkinga izothoba ubukhali bayo futhi ikusize uzizwe sengathi isimo siyalawuleka.

Namathela esimisweni esimisiwe

Zibekele umthetho oqinile: Ngokuzayo lapho uba nemicabango ephambene ekhanda lakho ngesikhathi sokulala, zitshele: “Manje akusona isikhathi.” Umbhede owokulala, awuwona owemicabango ehlukumezayo. Noma nini lapho uzithola uzizwa ucindezelekile noma ukhathazekile, zitshele ukuthi uzobuyela ekukhathazekeni kwakho ngesikhathi esimisiwe futhi ugxile ngokushesha emisebenzini osuyenzile. Yiba nesibindi kuwe, uhlehlise imicabango ephazamisayo kamuva; ungavumeli ukwazi ukuthi ubheke kulezi zindawo ezinomkhawulo wesikhathi. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lokhu kuzoba umkhuba.

1 U-J. Hibberd no-J. Asmar «Le ncwadi izokusiza ulale» (I-Eksmo, ihlelelwe ukukhululwa ngo-September 2016).

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