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Ososayensi baseMelika bathi: isizungu yigciwane elingabanjwa ngendlela efanayo, njengokuthi, umkhuhlane. Bahlola isimo sengqondo sabantu abangu-5100 iminyaka engu-10 futhi bathola ukuthi isizungu singathelelana ngempela! Kwanele ukuthi umuntu oyedwa azizwe elahliwe, njengoba lo muzwa usakazeka kubantu abavela embuthanweni wakhe.
- Uma ukhuluma njalo nomuntu onesizungu, amathuba akho okuba nesizungu nawo anda ngamaphesenti angama-50, kuqinisekisa Uprofesa waseYunivesithi yaseChicago uJohn Cascioppo.
Ingabe kuyiqiniso ngempela?
"Eqinisweni, ukuze "angenwe" yisizungu, umuntu kufanele anciphise ukuzivikela komzimba," kukholelwa. isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uNina Petrochenko. - Umuntu ocindezelekile futhi okhathele kuphela "angagula" ngakho.
Yini okufanele uyenze uma usuvele uzizwa ulahliwe?
1. Qonda ukuthi kungani kungekho amandla anele
Umsuka wenkinga ukucindezeleka. Kulesi simo, ufana nentambo elulekile. Awekho amandla, isikhathi, isifiso sokuxhumana. Lona umbuthano ononya: umuntu udinga ukuxhumana nabantu, ukondliwa kwabanye. Kufanele sizame ukuqonda ukuthi yini ekuhluphayo, futhi sisuse "umhlukumezi". Lesi isinyathelo sokuqala sokuqeda isizungu.
2. Vala ifoni yakho
“Sikhule ngokoqobo ndawonye nezingcingo,” kuqhubeka Nina Petrochenko. - Futhi uma uxhumeke ngokungaziwa nezwe ngaso sonke isikhathi, i-psyche ayiphumuli. Qiniseka ukuthi uvala omakhalekhukhwini bakho ebusuku. Kuphela ngale ndlela uzovumela i-psyche iphumule futhi iphumule. Kuyafana nangamaholidi: hamba endaweni ethile lapho ungeke ugqolozele isikrini ngaso sonke isikhathi. Khona-ke ngeke kube nesifiso esingachazeki sokuba wedwa.
3. Yeka ukuthumela izithombe
- Wake wazibuza ukuthi kungani uya ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ngaso sonke isikhathi, ushiye okuthunyelwe nezithombe lapho? Indlela ilula: ufuna ukuqashelwa futhi udunyiswe. Kufana nokumemeza: “Sengifikile, nginake!” Ngokusobala, umuntu akanakho ukuxhumana, ukusekelwa, mhlawumbe unokuzethemba okuphansi. Kodwa inkundla yezokuxhumana iyiqiniso elihlukile. Kukhona kuphela ukubukeka kokuxhumana nokubuya okuncane okungokomzwelo. Uma umuntu ehlala efaka izithombe ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, lokhu sekuvele kuwumlutha futhi kuyisizathu sokuphendukela kuchwepheshe.
4. Udinga ukwanga
Ngokusho kwezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, umuntu uzizwa ekhululekile uma ezungezwe abantu abangu-2 - 3 abasondelene ngempela. Ongabelana naye nganoma iyiphi inkinga futhi uthole ukwesekwa. Futhi kungaba kuhle ukwanga abantu abaseduze. Ngisho nenani elithile elinconyiwe lokugona libizwa - izikhathi eziyisishiyagalombili ngosuku. Kodwa-ke, ukwanga kufanele kube ngokuvumelana futhi kube nabasondelene kuphela.
5. Ezemidlalo nokusebenza ngokomzimba
“Ukuvivinya umzimba nakho kuyasiza ekulweni nomuzwa wesizungu,” kuqinisekisa uchwepheshe wethu. Hamba kakhulu, ngisho nasebusika. Ukubhukuda echibini nakho kuyasiza. Uzozwa ukukhathala okumnandi - futhi awukho umuzwa obuhlungu wesizungu.