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Uma umuntu ohloniphekile eseduze kwakho, khona-ke ukona kwakhe kungase kuqondwe njengokubonakaliswa kothando ngawe.
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Ubudlelwano obuhle kakhulu kwesinye isikhathi buphenduka into eyinkinga kakhulu, futhi kwesinye isikhathi awufuni nje ukuxoxa ngokwenzeka ebuhlotsheni bakho, kodwa kuvele kudingekile ngqo.
Lapho ubhekana nokwenzekile, ungajahi ukuthukuthela: ukucasuka kwakho (noma kwakho ngothile) kungase kubonakale kuwukungaqondi. Mhlawumbe wena (noma wena) aniqondanga kahle, futhi asikho isizathu secala eliye lavela. Lokhu kusho ukuthi bobabili badinga ukukhipha umoya futhi bajabule ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, baguqule inhlamba ibe into enhle kakhulu.
Uma izinto ezinhle zingahambi ngokushesha, ungakwazi ukuthola ukuthi uziphathe kanjani esikhathini esizayo ukuze ukungezwani kwenzeke kancane. Kwezinye izimo, umhumushi omuhle uzosiza ukuqonda ukuthi kwenzeke ukungaqondi kahle - ikhono lokuzwa inhloso engcono (enhle) ngemuva kwamagama, isimo sengqondo esihle nezinye izinto ezinhle.
Yebo, intombazane yacasuka lapho insizwa iphuza ukufika. Yebo, manje uthule noma ukhuluma amazwi ahlabayo, kodwa lokhu kusho ukuthi ubemlindile, ukuthi akanandaba naye? Uma bobabili bekuqonda lokhu, icala lizosuka.
Ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala kubalulekile ukukhuluma hhayi ngecala elithile, kodwa mayelana nokuthambekela komuntu ukucasulwa nguwe kaningi futhi ngaphandle kwesizathu esifanele. Yisiphi isikhathi esingcono kakhulu sokuqala lezi zingxoxo? Lokhu kungenzeka kunoma yisiphi isigaba sobudlelwano, kodwa kungcono ukulinda futhi uqale ingxoxo lapho uhlanzekile futhi umlingani wakho ngokusobala unephutha. Kunoma yikuphi, kufanele kucatshangelwe ukuthi ingxoxo eqotho neqondile yalokho okwenzekile ngeke yenzeke kuwo wonke umuntu, kodwa kuphela nalabo abaqondayo ukuthi ubuhlobo obuphucukile buyini. Phakathi kwabantu bekhwalithi, lokhu kuzoba ingxoxo enobungane, ezimweni ezinzima kakhulu, umbukiso olungiselelwe.
Omunye wemibandela ebaluleke kakhulu yengxoxo eyimpumelelo ukubambelela kufomethi. Kunefomethi - kunengxoxo evamile. Ayikho ifomethi - cishe, uzoqala ukuxoxa nokuxabana. Umongo wengxoxo ukulalela olunye uhlangothi futhi unikeze ukuxazulula izinkinga hhayi ngezikhalo, kodwa ngendlela eyakhayo. Lokhu kungase kubonakale kanjani eqinisweni? Ngokwesibonelo, yebo.
"Ngicela ungitshele, ubona kanjani manje okwenzeka kithi emini?" Ucabangani ngalokhu?
“Ngicabanga ukuthi besinephutha ndawonye.
— Mhlawumbe. Ungasitshela ngakho konke ngokuningiliziwe, ukubone futhi ukuqonde kanjani?
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- Ngiyabonga. nginesicelo. Ngicabanga ukuthi ukungezwani okunjalo kungase kwenzeke ngelinye ilanga esikhathini esizayo, ngesinye isikhathi ngiyobe nginephutha, ngesinye isikhathi nawe. Ngokuphathelene nalokhu, nginesiphakamiso kuwe: emva kwakho konke, ngeke sikhubeke ngaso leso sikhathi, kodwa okokuqala sizothi lokhu akujabulisi kithi futhi sicele ukuthi singasho noma sikwenze lokhu. Amagqubu wukuthula, akulungile. Ngiphakamisa ukuthi kuze kube siyakucacisa, abekho abantu ababi, akekho ocabanga kabi ngomunye umuntu kusenesikhathi. Ngingathatha isibopho esinjalo - ukungakhubeki nguwe kuze kube yilapho sesikutholile. Futhi wena, esikhathini esizayo, ungakwazi yini ukuzibophezela okufanayo futhi ungacasulwa yimi kuze kube yilapho sikhuluma?
Indlela yokuxoxisana ngezikhalazo zabo nezingane kuwumbuzo okhethekile. Izingane ezikhuliswe kahle zijwayele ifomethi edingekayo kusukela ebuntwaneni, kuzo zonke ezinye izimo ifomethi kufanele yethulwe kancane kancane, ngengxoxo yalokho okwenzekile. Ngokwemvelo, kubalulekile ukucabangela izici zeminyaka yobudala - nokuqonda ukuthi omama bavame ukucabanga ukuthi ingane isencane kakhulu ezingxoxweni ezinzima kangaka, futhi obaba bavame ukuba nezandla ezilumayo futhi bayaqiniseka ukuthi ingxoxo ibidingeka isikhathi eside. .
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