Okuqukethwe
Kunezizathu ezintathu eziyinhloko ezenza umuntu athukuthelele abanye.
Isizathu sokuqala sokucasuka ukukhwabanisa, futhi ngamabomu. Umuntu “uyapout” ngamabomu ukuze enze omunye azizwe enecala. Ngokuvamile, amantombazane enza lokhu lapho efuna ukuthola lokho akufunayo endodeni.
Isizathu sesibili ukungakwazi ukuthethelela. Ngeshwa, yilokhu okudala ukona okuningi. Uma ubheka lesi sizathu ngakolunye uhlangothi, kungase futhi kubizwe ngokuthi ukukhohlisa, kuphela equlekile. Kulokhu, umuntu ngokuvamile akaqondi ukuthi kungani ecasulwe. Ucasulwe nje — yilokho kuphela. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, wazi kahle ukuthi umenzi wobubi angalungisa kanjani.
Futhi isizathu sesithathu sokucasuka amathemba akhohlisiwe. Isibonelo, owesifazane uthemba ukuthi othandekayo wakhe uzomnika ijazi loboya, kodwa kunalokho uveza ithoyizi elikhulu elithambile. Noma umuntu ulindele ukuthi esimweni esinzima, abangane, ngaphandle kwezicelo ezivela kuye, bazonikeza usizo, kodwa abanikezeli. Yilapho amagqubu avela khona.
Ngokuyisisekelo, abantu bathinteka esimweni sokucindezeleka, ukucindezeleka, ukuxabana nomuntu othandekayo. Labo abasesimweni sokugula okungathi sína bavame ukuthintana kakhulu: bavame ukucasuka hhayi kuphela kwabathandekayo babo, kodwa emhlabeni wonke. Lo muzwa ungokwemvelo ikakhulukazi kubantu asebekhulile kanye nabantu abakhubazekile kakhulu. Ngokuvamile ukucasulwa yikho konke nalabo bantu abazidabukelayo futhi abathanda kakhulu. Ngisho namahlaya angenabungozi noma izinkulumo ezikhulunywa ngabo zingabacasula.
Kuyini ukucasuka futhi kwenzeka kanjani
Ukungacasuki nhlobo kunzima, kodwa singawulawula lomzwelo. Kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi ku-psychology kukhona into efana nokuthinta, okungukuthi, ukuthambekela kokucasula njalo wonke umuntu nakho konke. Lapha ungakwazi futhi kufanele ususe ukucasuka. Phela, lokhu akuwona umuzwa kangako njengesici somlingiswa omubi, isimo sengqondo esingathandeki.
Umuntu omdala, ngisho noma amazwi omkhulumeli amthinta, angakwazi ukuqhubeka nengxoxo ngokuthula nangobuhlakani. Umuntu omdala nohlakaniphile, uma kunesidingo, angatshela ngomoya ophansi umkhulumeli wakhe ngemizwa yakhe. Ngokwesibonelo: “Uxolo, kodwa amazwi akho manje abezwakala engicasula kakhulu. Mhlawumbe ubungafuni lokho?" Khona-ke izimo eziningi ezingemnandi ziyosulwa ngokuphazima kweso, futhi ngeke kusale ukucasuka emphefumulweni wakho futhi uyokwazi ukulondoloza ubuhlobo obuhle nobungane nomuntu okucasule ungahlosile.
Imiphumela yokukhononda njalo
Uma umuntu engazibandakanyi ekuzithuthukiseni futhi eqhubeka ecasulwa yikho konke, lokhu angeke kubangele kuphela ukuthuthukiswa kwazo zonke izinhlobo zezifo (okuthiwa yi-psychosomatic factor), kodwa futhi kuholele ekulahlekelweni kwabangane kanye nezingxabano eziqhubekayo. emndenini, kuze kufike kwisehlukaniso. Akumangalisi ukuthi iBhayibheli libiza ukuqhosha ngezono ezingathi sína kakhulu, ngoba ngokuvamile umuntu ucasuka ngenxa yokuqhosha.
Ngenxa yokucasuka okungathethelelwe okucekela phansi umphefumulo, umuntu angachitha isikhathi eside ikakhulukazi ezama ukuziphindiselela kumoni wakhe, eqhamuka nezinhlelo ezihlukahlukene zokuziphindiselela. Lokhu kuzothatha yonke imicabango yakhe, futhi okwamanje impilo yakhe izodlula, futhi lapho ekugcineni ekubona lokhu, kungase kube sekwephuzile.
Lowo ohamba enokucasuka emphefumulweni wakhe kancane kancane uba nokunganeliseki ngokuphila, akaziboni zonke izintelezi nemibala yayo, futhi imizwa engemihle imosha ubuntu bakhe kakhulu. Khona-ke ukucasuka, ukuthukuthela kwabanye, ukwethuka kanye nesimo sokucindezeleka okuqhubekayo kungase kubonakale.
Indlela yokubhekana nokucasuka futhi uyeke ukucasuka?
Qonda ukuthi kungani ucasulwe
Qala ukugcina idayari yemizwa yakho, uphawule njalo ngesigamu sehora ukuthi uzizwa kanjani. Leli ithuluzi elilula ngokumangazayo nelisebenza kahle kakhulu: ubonakala ungenzi lutho, kodwa nakanjani ngeke ucasuke (futhi, empeleni, ube mubi). Isinyathelo esilandelayo siwukuthi uma usacasukile noma ucasukile, bhala phansi ukuthi kungani. Ngokuqondile, ngani? Uma izibalo zivela, uzoba nohlu lwendabuko yakho yokwehlisa imizwa. Bese ucabanga bese ubhala uhlu lwezinto ezikhuthaza umoya wakho: yini ongayenza ukuze uthuthukise isimo sakho sengqondo? Ungabhala kanjani amaphuzu angama-50, ngakho-ke uzoqala ukubheka impilo ngokuzethemba nangokwenama.
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Sazise isikhathi sakho
Ukucasuka kukuthatha isikhathi esiningi nomzamo, kukwenza uhlanganyele embudane. Uyayidinga? Funda ukwazisa isikhathi sakho, bhala phansi lonke usuku lwakho njalo ngomzuzu, okuhlanganisa yonke into: umsebenzi, ukuphumula, ukulala - futhi wehlele ebhizinisini. Uzoba matasa ngebhizinisi — ngeke ucasuke.
Ukuzivocavoca njalo
Abantu bezemidlalo bacasulwa kaningi - bahlolwe! I-"anti-offensive" kakhulu yimidlalo eyingozi, uma usasaba le midlalo, qala ngokuzivocavoca okulula ekuseni. Noma mhlawumbe unquma ukuzithena ngamanzi abandayo? Ngokumangalisayo kushintsha ikhanda libe yinjabulo nokwenama!
funda izincwadi
Abantu abahlakaniphile nabafundile abacasuki kangako — kuyiqiniso! Funda izincwadi ezinhle amahora angu-1-2 ngosuku, xoxani ngezincwadi - lokhu kuzoba mnandi kakhulu kuwe kunokucasulwa. Yini okufanele uyifunde? Qala okungenani ngezincwadi zami: “Indlela Ongaziphatha Ngayo Nabantu”, “Izinganekwane Zefilosofi”, “Impilo Elula Elungile” — ngeke uzisole.
Inhlangano Elungile
Bhala phansi uhlu lwabantu obabonayo noxoxa nabo kakhulu. Gcizelela labo abanesimilo esihle futhi ongathanda ukufana nabo. Hlukanisa labo abavame ukucasuka, abanomona, abakhuluma kabi ngabanye futhi abaneminye imikhuba emibi. Nokho, nazi ezinye izincomo ngawe, okufanele uxhumane naye kaningi, futhi nobani kancane. Cabanga ngendawo lapho ungazithola khona indawo enhle, elungile.
Izingane zami zathathwa yi-ShVK (Isikole Sezincwadi Ezinkulu), ngingakuncoma futhi kuwe: abantu abathakazelisayo nabahlakaniphile babuthana lapho.
Ngamafuphi: uma uzihlanganisa nabantu abanenkinga, nawe uba yinkinga. Uma uzihlanganisa nabantu abaphumelelayo nabanombono omuhle, wena ngokwakho uzophumelela kakhulu futhi ube nombono omuhle. Ngakho kwenze!