Indlela yokubhekana nabantu ababandayo

Sonke sikhumbula inganekwane mayelana nomfana uKai, inhliziyo yakhe yaba "nzima neqhwa" ngenxa yezingcezu zesibuko sikaDeveli. Wakwazi ukubuyisela imizwa futhi waba ngokwakhe kuphela ngenxa yothando lukaGerda. Futhi kuthiwani ngoKai, esingahlangana naye empilweni yangempela? Ungamfundisa ukuzizwa?

Sazini ngoKai?

• Uzihlanganisa kalula nabantu. U-Kai akakholelwa enjabulweni yakhe nokungaguquguquki kwemizwa yomunye umuntu, ngakho uhlola njalo amandla akhe futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi ujabulela umphumela, kodwa akabonisi imizwelo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ubonakala ngenguquko ebukhali esuka ku- «Ngifuna ukuphatha» ekusekeleni ukuzimela nokuzimela. Mtshele imizwa elinganayo, ezolile, eqhubekayo, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi iphathe ezandleni zakho, ngoba “umdala kakhulu futhi mncane kakhulu.”
• Esaba imizwa yakhe. UKai uyaxwaya ukuvuma ukuthi "mubi" futhi wenqaba ukuthi kungenzeka inzondo. Futhi ngokuvamile, uphatha yonke imizwa enamandla ngokungafani: ufuna futhi uyesaba.
• Unovalo oluncane oluningi. Kukhona ukwesaba okukhulu - isibonelo, ukufa nokuhlanya. Lapha uKai ubaphatha ngomoya ophansi. Uyesaba ukwenqatshwa, ubuthakathaka, ukungafaneleki, ngakho-ke uhlala ezibuza lo mbuzo: "Nginamandla noma ngibuthakathaka."
• Uqaqa yonke imiqondo ibe izingxenye futhi ahlanganise kabusha enguqulweni yakhe. Yonke into uKai ayithintayo kufanele ibe "yakhe" - njengokungathi ubeka uphawu noma uphawu lwakhe.
• Isimo sakhe esibi - ukungabi nentando, ugqozi namandla. UKai akakwazi ukusebenza uma engenazo zonke izinto ezivame ukumgcina eqhubekela phambili. Kulesi simo, kuzobonakala ku-interlocutor ukuthi amagiya kaKai awajikelezi - phambi kwakhe kukhona ilogi ye-inert ebushelelezi.
• Ibonisa imizwa ehlukene kwabanye. Ayikho incazelo yegolide: kungaba ukuzwela okuphezulu kakhulu, noma - ukuqina nokubanda, ngenxa yokuthi akakwazi ukunaka okuyisisekelo kokuhlangenwe nakho komxhumanisi.
• Akuvamile ukuba uwedwa. Ngokuvamile, uKai angatholakala enkampanini enobungane nefudumele. Ubheka ngamabomu afanayo futhi azenzele yena, kodwa ngokushesha ulahlekelwa ukuxhumana nabahlanganyeli.

Ukuqeqesha noKai

Ekusebenzelaneni no-Kai, ukuhamba kancane nokungaguquguquki kubalulekile, ngaphandle kwalokho ukuhlehla okubukhali nokuhlehla kwenzeka. Okunye okubalulekile umuzwa wothando nokwethembana, iculo nephimbo, angenakho, kodwa awazisayo kwabanye.

• Hlanganyela umzimba wakhe njalo. Udinga ukuthola izaba ezihlukene zalokhu, kodwa ungaqala ngezinqubo zomzimba, nezimfushane. Zikhumbuza ukuminyana komzimba, okusho ukuthi zinikeza uKai umuzwa wokuba khona okuthile okuqinisekisiwe. “Esikhathini esizayo esiseduze, akekho ozongidla,” ejabula.
• Meluleke ngomsebenzi. Iba umthungi wezicathulo, thunga, bopha, ukubaza ... Amakhono amahle emoto avusa futhi enze uKai abe ngokwejwayelekile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lapho umsebenzi omningi, kulapho azithulela khona kancane.
• Xoxa ngemizwa noKai. Okokuqala, lokhu kufanele kwenziwe ngokusobala: yiziphi izimo, ngobani futhi bazibonakalisa kanjani, isibonelo, ezincwadini nakumafilimu. Futhi-ke kuphela ke ukuwagubha ekuphileni. Makafunde ukulungisa imizwa yakhe, bese kuthi eyabanye abantu: "Qagela ukuthi ngazizwa kanjani lapho ungitshela lokhu ngephimbo elinjalo."
• Ungamkhiphi ekulaleni kwakhe. Kumele akwenze ngokwakhe nangokuthanda kwakhe. Intando nemizwelo ayilokothi yome ize ifike phansi - kuhlala kukhona okusele, ngakho-ke akufanele ukukhiphe ngokusebenzisa udlame "woza, one, two."
• Kodwa ungamshiyi uKai esimweni sakhe esingokomfanekiso. Yinkulu, kulula kuye kuyo, kulula kakhulu kunaleyo yangempela. Unganikeli kuye "sizizwa simnandi kakhulu lapha, sifana nesisu sikamama wethu, kungani sidinga uhlobo oluthile lwezwe langaphandle lapho?". Ungakhohliswa izingxoxo ezivamile zethiyori, mdonsele empilweni - ngobumnene nangokuphikelela.