Kuyaziwa kusukela ezikhathini zasendulo ukuthi izifo zomzimba wethu zinezingxenye ezimbili - ngokomzimba kanye ne-psychosomatic, yokugcina iyimbangela yezifo. Kuye kwenziwa izifundo ezihlukahlukene kulesi sihloko, izazi eziningi zokusebenza kwengqondo kanye ne-psychotherapists ziye zavikela ama-dissertations ku-psychosomatics, kodwa sisazama ukwelapha izifo kuphela ngosizo lwemithi esemthethweni, sisebenzisa imali eningi emithini. Kodwa kuthiwani uma uzibheka ngokujulile?
Uke wacabanga ukuthi kufanelekile ukuma umzuzu bese ucabanga ngawe, ngabathandekayo bakho, ukuqonda zonke izenzo nezenzo? Uma manje uthi asikho isikhathi salokhu, ngizovumelana nawe, kodwa, nge
lokhu, ngiyaqaphela ukuthi asikho isikhathi sani - sokuphila? Phela, zonke izinyathelo zethu, isenzo, umuzwa, umcabango kuwukuphila kwethu, ngaphandle kwalokho, siphilela ukugula, futhi ukugula kusho ukuhlupheka! Umuntu ngamunye angaqeda ukuhlupheka kwakhe ngokuphendukela emphefumulweni nasengqondweni, okuguqula “isihogo sibe izulu nezulu libe isihogo.” Ingqondo yethu kuphela engasenza singajabule, thina kuphela, hhayi omunye umuntu. Futhi ngokuphambene nalokho, isimo sethu sengqondo esihle kuphela ngenqubo yokuphila singasenza sijabule, naphezu kwezenzakalo ezenzeka eduze kwethu.
Kunombono wokuthi abantu abangenandaba nanoma yiziphi izenzakalo ekuphileni kwabo kanye nabanye abantu abafundi lutho, futhi labo abathatha konke enhliziyweni, ngokuphambene nalokho, bafunde ukuphila, ngeshwa, ngamaphutha nokuhlupheka kwabo. Noma kunjalo, kungcono ukwamukela futhi ufinyelele isiphetho kunokungafundi lutho.
Ngeshwa, kunzima ukwahlulela isimo sengqondo somuntu ongekho, ngaphandle kokwazi izimo zokuphila nezimo zokuphila. Ngamunye wenu ofunda lesi sihloko kumele acabange ngaphambili: "Kungani lesi sifo senzeke kimi?". Futhi umbuzo onjalo udinga ukuphindwa usuka kumagama athi "kungani" noma "ngoba" uye egameni elithi "kungani". Ukuqonda izimbangela zethu zezifo ezingokomzimba nezingokwengqondo, kholwa yimi, akulula, kodwa akekho umlaphi ongcono kithina ukwedlula thina. Akekho owazi kangcono isimo somqondo wesiguli kunaye. Ngokuthola imbangela yokuhlupheka kwakho, ngokuqinisekile uzozisiza ngo-50%. Uyaqonda ukuthi ngisho nodokotela onobuntu kakhulu akakwazi ukuzwa ubuhlungu bakho - kokubili ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
“Umphefumulo womuntu uyisimangaliso esikhulu kunazo zonke emhlabeni”, – UDante wakubeka, futhi ngicabanga ukuthi akekho ozophikisana nalokho. Umsebenzi uwukuqonda kahle futhi uhlole isimo somqondo wakho. Yiqiniso, lokhu kuwumsebenzi omkhulu kumuntu - ukucacisa ukuba khona kokucindezeleka kwangaphakathi, ngoba "sonke siyizigqila zokuhle kakhulu okungaphakathi kwethu, nokubi kakhulu okungaphandle."
Ukubhekana nakho konke ukungqubuzana, ukucindezeleka, amaphutha ethu, sibambelela kuwo, siqhubeka sibhekana nakho konke kaningi, ngezinye izikhathi singaqapheli ukuthi lezi zingcindezi zangaphakathi zingena ngokujulile futhi zijula kithi futhi kunzima ukuziqeda kamuva. Ukushayela ingcindezi ngaphakathi kwethu, siqongelela intukuthelo, intukuthelo, ukuphelelwa ithemba, inzondo, ukungabi nathemba kanye neminye imizwa engemihle. Sonke singabantu ngabanye, ngakho-ke othile uzama ukuthululela intukuthelo kwabanye, kwabathandekayo babo, futhi othile ucindezela ukucindezeleka emiphefumulweni yabo ukuze angabhebhetheki izenzakalo zamanje. Kodwa, ngikholwe, akukho okukodwa noma okunye okuyikhambi. Ngemva kokukhulula ukucindezeleka kwakhe ngaphandle ngokufutheka ngokomzwelo, kuba ngcono okwesikhashana, ngoba umuntu wayengaqondi into eyinhloko - kungani enikezwe yena ngokudalelwa kanye neNkosi. Phela, njengoba uBelinsky asho: “Ukuthola imbangela yobubi kucishe kufane nokuthola ikhambi labo.” Futhi lapho usuthole lo "muthi", ngeke "ugule", futhi lapho uhlangana futhi nalesi sifo, uzokwazi kahle ukuthi kufanele uziphathe kanjani. Ngeke usaba nengcindezi, kodwa kuzoba nokuqonda ngempilo nezimo zayo ezithile. Kuphambi kwethu kuphela lapho singakwazi ukwethembeka ngempela futhi sibe nobulungisa.
Ngemuva kwesibindi sangaphandle, abantu ngokuvamile ababonisi lokho okusezinhliziyweni nasemphefumulweni wabo, ngoba emphakathini wethu wanamuhla akuwona umkhuba ukukhuluma ngokuhlangenwe nakho okungokomzwelo, ukukhombisa ukuthi ubuthakathaka kunabanye, ngoba, njengasehlathini, abanamandla basinda. Wonke umuntu ujwayele ukufihla ubumnene bakhe, ubuqotho, ubuntu, infantilism ngemuva kwezifihla-buso ezihlukene, futhi ikakhulukazi, ngemuva kwezifihla-buso zokungabi nandaba nentukuthelo. Abaningi abayiphazamisi imiphefumulo yabo nganoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuhlangenwe nakho, njengoba kudala bavumela izinhliziyo zabo ukuba ziqine. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, yilabo kuphela abaseduze kwakhe abazobona ukuqina okunjalo, kodwa hhayi yena.
Abaningi sebekhohliwe ukuthi i-charity iyini noma banamahloni ukuyibonisa esidlangalaleni. Ukucindezeleka kuvame ukuvela ngenxa yomehluko phakathi kwesikushoyo nesikufisayo ngokuqaphela noma ngokungazi. Ukuze uziqonde, awudingi isikhathi kuphela, kodwa futhi nethuba lokuzihlola, futhi ukuze uqede ukucindezeleka - kuwufanele ukuzama.
USukhomlinsky Vasily Alexandrovich, uthisha ohlonishwayo wolimi lwesiRashiya kanye nezincwadi, wagomela ngokuthi. “Umuntu uyilokho abeyikho, ezihlalela yedwa, futhi ingqikithi yomuntu yeqiniso ibonakala kuye lapho izenzo zakhe zingaqhutshwa othile, kodwa unembeza wakhe siqu.”
Lapho ukudalelwa kunikeza izithiyo, njengezifo ezihlangene, khona-ke kuba nesikhathi sokucabanga nokuzindla ngalokho okwenziwe nokuthi yini okufanele yenziwe kahle. Noma yisiphi isifo samalunga esavela okokuqala siyisibonakaliso sokuqala sokuthi wenza ngokungqubuzana nezifiso zakho, unembeza nomphefumulo. Izifo eziye zaba ezingapheli sezivele "zimemeza" ukuthi umzuzu weqiniso uphuthelwe, futhi uhamba ngokuqhubekayo kude nesinqumo esifanele ekucindezelekeni, ukwesaba, intukuthelo kanye nomuzwa wecala.
Umuzwa wecala nawo uhlukile kuwo wonke umuntu: phambi kwezihlobo, phambi kwabanye noma phambi kwakho ngenxa yokungakwazi ukwenza, ukufeza lokho ababekufuna. Ngenxa yokuthi izimo ezingokomzimba nezingokwengqondo zihlale zixhumene, umzimba wethu usithumela ngokushesha izimpawu zokuthi kukhona okungalungile. Khumbula isibonelo esilula, ngemva kokucindezeleka okukhulu ngenxa yokungqubuzana, ikakhulukazi nabathandekayo ababaluleke kakhulu kithi kunendawo yangaphandle, ikhanda lethu livame ukulimaza, abanye baze babe ne-migraine embi kakhulu. Isikhathi esiningi lokhu kuvela ekutheni abantu abakwazanga ukuthola iqiniso abebephikisana ngalo, behluleka nokucacisa imbangela yengcindezi, noma umuntu bese ecabanga ukuthi kunezingxabano, okusho ukuthi alukho uthando.
Uthando lungomunye wemizwa ebaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwethu. Kunezinhlobo eziningi zothando: uthando lwabantu abasondelene, uthando phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, uthando lwabazali nezingane, uthando ngezwe elizungezile nothando lokuphila. Wonke umuntu ufuna ukuzizwa ethandwa futhi edingeka. Kubalulekile ukuthi ungathandi okuthile, kodwa ngoba lo muntu usempilweni yakho. Ukuthanda ukujabulisa kubaluleke kakhulu kunokuceba. Yiqiniso, uhlangothi lwezinto ezibonakalayo okwamanje luyingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila kwethu, udinga nje ukufunda ukujabula ngalokho esinakho, lokho esikwazile ukukufeza, futhi ungahlupheki ngalokho esingakabi nakho. Vuma, akunandaba ukuthi umuntu umpofu noma ucebile, uzacile noma ukhuluphele, mfushane noma mude, into eyinhloko ukuthi uyajabula. Ngokuvamile, senza lokho okudingekayo, hhayi lokho okungasijabulisa.
Ukukhuluma ngezifo ezivame kakhulu, singathola kuphela ingxenye ekha phezulu yenkinga, futhi ngamunye wethu uhlola ukujula kwayo ngokwethu, sihlaziye futhi sifinyelele iziphetho.
Ngifuna ukukukhumbuza ukuthi umfutho wegazi ukhuphuka ngesikhathi sokuzikhandla okuqinile ngokomzimba, ngesikhathi sokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo, ngesikhathi sokucindezeleka, futhi ubuyela esimweni esijwayelekile ngemva kwesikhathi esithile ngemva kokuphela kokucindezeleka, okuthiwa ukucindezeleka enhliziyweni. Futhi umfutho wegazi ophezulu ubizwa ngokuthi ukwanda okuqhubekayo kokucindezela, okuqhubekayo ngisho nalapho kungabikho le mithwalo. Imbangela yomfutho wegazi ophezulu ihlale iwukucindezeleka okukhulu. Umthelela wokucindezeleka emzimbeni nasesimisweni sawo sezinzwa kungenye yezinto eziyinhloko ezibangela ukwanda okuqhubekayo komfutho wegazi kanye nezinkinga zomfutho wegazi ophezulu. Futhi umuntu ngamunye unezingcindezi zakhe ekuphileni: othile unezinkinga ekuphileni kwakhe siqu, emndenini wakhe kanye / noma emsebenzini. Iziguli eziningi ziwubukela phansi umthelela wemizwa engemihle emizimbeni yazo. Ngakho-ke, wonke umuntu obhekene nesifo esinjalo kufanele ahlole futhi ahlaziye ingxenye ethile yokuphila kwakhe ehlotshaniswa nomfutho wegazi ophakeme, futhi "anqamule" empilweni ukuthi yini eyaholela isiguli kulokhu kuxilongwa. Kuyadingeka ukuzama ukuqeda ukucindezeleka nokwesaba.
Ngokuvamile, ukucindezela kokucindezela kubangela ukwesaba, futhi, futhi, lokhu kwesaba kuhlukile kuwo wonke umuntu: othile wesaba ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi futhi ashiywe engenandlela yokuziphilisa, othile wesaba ukushiywa yedwa - ngaphandle kokunaka nothando. Amagama mayelana nokukhathala, ukuqwasha, ukungafuni ukuphila - aqinisekisa ukucindezeleka okujulile. Lokhu kucindezeleka akusikho izolo, kodwa kwakhiwe izinkinga eziningi okungenzeka ukuthi awuzange ube nesikhathi sokuzixazulula, noma ukhethe izixazululo ezingalungile, futhi umzabalazo empilweni awuzange uholele emiphumeleni oyifunayo, okungukuthi, akukho lutho kuwe. babezama. Futhi zanqwabelana njengebhola leqhwa, okwamanje okunzima ukulibhubhisa.
Kodwa kukhona isifiso sokuhamba, isifiso sokufakazela ukuthi umuntu ufanelekile okuthile, isifiso sokubonisa ukubaluleka komuntu hhayi kwabanye kuphela, kodwa, okubaluleke kakhulu, kuye ngokwakhe. Nokho, ayikho indlela yokwenza lokhu. Kunzima ukuyeka ukusabela ngokomzwelo ezenzakalweni eziqhubekayo empilweni, ngeke silungise abalingiswa abasizungezile abangalungile kithi, kudingeka sizame ukuguqula indlela esisabela ngayo emhlabeni. Ngizovumelana nawe uma uphendula ngokuthi kunzima, kodwa ungazama, hhayi omunye umuntu, kodwa uzenzele wena nempilo yakho.
UVoltaire uthi: "Cabanga ukuthi kunzima kangakanani ukuzishintsha, futhi uzoqonda ukuthi ikhono lakho lokushintsha abanye lincane kangakanani." Ngikholwe, kunjalo. Lokhu kufakazelwa amazwi ombhali waseRussia, umkhulumeli wezindaba kanye nesazi sefilosofi uRozanov Vasily Vasilyevich, owagomela ngokuthi "kunobubi ekhaya kakade ngenxa yokunganaki." Ungabuziba ububi obukukhathazayo, futhi uthathe njengesimangaliso isimo sengqondo esihle ngawe ngasohlangothini lwabanye abantu.
Yiqiniso, isinqumo ezimweni ezithile ngesakho, kodwa sishintsha ubudlelwano emhlabeni osizungezile, siqale ngokwethu. Isiphetho sisinika izifundo okufanele sizifunde, sifunde ukuzenza ngendlela efanele, ngakho-ke into engcono kakhulu ukuguqula isimo sethu sengqondo ezenzakalweni zamanje, ukusondelana nezinqumo hhayi ohlangothini olungokomzwelo, kodwa kusuka kokunengqondo. Ngikholwe, imizwa ezimweni ezinzima ifihla iqiniso lalokho okwenzekayo futhi umuntu owenza yonke into ngemizwelo akakwazi ukwenza isinqumo esifanele, esinokulinganisela, akakwazi ukubona imizwa yangempela yomuntu axhumana naye noma aphikisana naye.
Umphumela wokucindezeleka emzimbeni uyingozi kakhulu kangangokuthi angeke ubangele ubuhlungu bekhanda kuphela, umfutho wegazi ophakeme, isifo senhliziyo, i-arrhythmia, kodwa futhi nesifo esingelapheki kakhulu - umdlavuza. Kungani manje imithi esemthethweni ithi umdlavuza awusona isifo esibulalayo? Akukhona nje ngemithi, yonke imithi ephumelela kakhulu iye yasungulwa, yacwaningwa futhi yasetshenziswa ngempumelelo. Ukubuyela embuzweni wokwelapha kwanoma yisiphi isifo, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi isiguli uqobo siyakufuna. Ingxenye yomphumela omuhle isifiso sokuphila nokuzibophezela ngokwelashwa.
Wonke umuntu obhekene nomdlavuza kufanele aqonde ukuthi lesi sifo sinikezwe ngokudalelwa ukuthi acabange kabusha izimpilo zabo ukuze aqonde ukuthi yini engalungile eyenziwe nokuthi yini engashintshwa esikhathini esizayo. Akekho ongashintsha okwedlule, kodwa ngokuqaphela amaphutha nokudweba iziphetho, ungashintsha ukucabanga kwakho ngempilo yesikhathi esizayo, futhi mhlawumbe ucele intethelelo ngenkathi kunesikhathi sakho.
Umuntu onomdlavuza kufanele azenzele isinqumo: amukele ukufa noma aguqule impilo yakhe. Futhi ukuze ushintshe ncamashi ngokuhambisana nezifiso namaphupho akho, awudingi ukwenza lokho ongakwamukeli. Impilo yakho yonke wenza obengakwenza, abanye babekezelela, bahlupheka, bagcina imizwa kuwe, bacindezela umphefumulo wakho. Manje ukuphila kukunikeze ithuba lokuphila futhi ujabulele ukuphila ngendlela ofisa ngayo.
Lalela futhi ubhekisise umhlaba okuzungezile: kuhle kangakanani ukuphila nsuku zonke, ukujabulela ilanga nesibhakabhaka esicwathile ngaphezu kwekhanda lakho. Uma uthi nhlá, lokhu kungase kubonakale kuwubuwula bomntwana, kodwa akukho ongakulahlekela uma ulahlekelwa ukuphila kwakho! Ngakho-ke, ukukhetha kungokwakho: thola injabulo futhi ufunde ukujabula, naphezu kwezimo, impilo yothando, ukuthanda abantu ngaphandle kokufuna lutho ngokubuyisela, noma ukulahlekelwa yikho konke. Umdlavuza uvela lapho umuntu egcwele intukuthelo nenzondo emphefumulweni wakhe, futhi le ntukuthelo ngokuvamile ayikhali. Ukuthukuthela kungase kungabi kumuntu othile, nakuba lokhu kuvamile, kodwa ekuphileni, ezimweni, kuye ngokuthile okungazange kuphumelele, akuzange kuphumelele njengoba wayefisa. Abantu abaningi bazama ukushintsha izimo zokuphila, bengaqapheli ukuthi kudingeka bacatshangelwe futhi bazame ukuzamukela.
Kungenzeka ukuthi ulahlekelwe injongo yempilo, uma wazi ukuthi uphilela bani, kodwa okwamanje akunjalo. Bambalwa kithi abangaphendula ngokushesha umbuzo othi: “Iyini injongo yokuphila?” noma “Iyini injongo yokuphila kwakho?”. Mhlawumbe emndenini, ezinganeni, kubazali ... Noma mhlawumbe injongo yokuphila isempilweni ngokwayo?! Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani, udinga ukuphila.
Zama ukuzibonakalisa ukuthi unamandla kunokwehluleka, izinkinga kanye nezifo. Ukuze ubhekane nokucindezeleka, udinga ukuzixaka nganoma yimuphi umsebenzi owuthandayo. Umlobi oyiNgisi uBernard Shaw wathi: “Ngiyajabula ngoba anginaso isikhathi sokucabanga ukuthi angijabulile.” Nikeza isikhathi sakho esiningi samahhala emsebenzini wakho wokuzilibazisa, futhi ngeke ube nesikhathi sokucindezeleka!