Okuqukethwe
“Kuthathe nje ukwenze!”, “Yehlisa yonke into engafanele!”, “Zidonseleni ndawonye!” - Ukufunda izindatshana ezimayelana nendlela yokukhiqiza ngokwengeziwe, sihlangana neziqubulo ezinjalo ezikhuthazayo njalo nje. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo emitholampilo u-Nick Wignal siyaqiniseka ukuthi iseluleko esinjalo silimaza kakhulu kunokuhle. Nakhu akunikezayo ngokubuyisela.
Njengabantu abaningi, ngiyawathanda ama-hacks okukhiqiza. Kodwa nakhu okungididayo: zonke izihloko engizifunde ngalesi sihloko zinikeza izeluleko ezinzima zempi: «ukukhiqiza njalo ekuseni, kufanele wenze lokhu nalokhuya», "abantu abaphumelela kakhulu emhlabeni nsuku zonke bakwenze", "ngoba konke okumele ukwenze, vele uyeke konke okungakuholeli empumelelweni.”
Kodwa awucabangi ukuthi yonke into ayilula kangako? Kuthiwani uma bonke laba bantu abaphumelelayo bephumelela naphezu kwezimfanelo zabo, ezihlonishwa kakhulu emphakathini, hhayi ngenxa yazo? Ingabe lezi zinkulumo eziqinile abazishumayelayo zibasiza ngempela ukuba bahlale bekhiqiza? Futhi noma kunjalo, ingabe lokhu kusho ukuthi bonke abanye bazokwenza ngale ndlela? Angiqiniseki ngokuphelele ngalokhu. Njengesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, ngihlala ngibheka imiphumela engemihle yale ndlela, eyinhloko ukuzigxeka njalo.
Ekuboneni kuqala, kungase kubonakale sengathi esikhathini esifushane, ukugxeka kwangaphakathi okunokhahlo kuyasiza, kodwa "ekugijimeni ibanga elide" kuyingozi: ngenxa yalokho, sibhekana nokukhathazeka okuqhubekayo futhi singacwila esimweni sokucindezeleka. . Ingasaphathwa eyokuzilahla ngesinye sezizathu ezinkulu zokuhlehlisa izinto.
Kodwa lapho sifunda ukuqaphela amagama omgxeki wangaphakathi ngesikhathi futhi sithambisa ithoni yama-monologues angaphakathi, isimo siyathuthuka, futhi umkhiqizo uyakhula. Odinga ukukwenza nje ukuba ube mnene kuwena.
Ngakho-ke uba kanjani (futhi uhlale) ukhiqiza ngaphandle kokuzikhandla ngokweqile? Nazi ezinye izimiso ezibalulekile.
1. Cacisa izinhloso zakho
Emphakathini wethu, kunenkolelo yokuthi kufanele siphuphe kakhulu. Mhlawumbe lokho kuyiqiniso, kodwa isizotha akulimazi futhi. Umgomo omkhulu uyajabulisa, kodwa uma ungafinyelelwanga, ukudumazeka akunakugwenywa. Ngokuvamile isu elingcono kakhulu ukuthatha izinyathelo ezincane eziya emgomweni womhlaba, ukubeka imigomo emaphakathi kanye nokuzifinyelela.
Futhi, yiqiniso, kubalulekile ukwethembeka kuwe ngokwakho. Ingabe imigomo ozibekela yona ingeyakho ngempela? Abaningi bethu bayehluleka ukuxazulula izinkinga ngokuqondile ngoba azibalulekile kithi. Ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ekufezeni izinhloso zomunye umuntu, siqala ukuzwa ukunganeliseki nokukhathazeka. Kodwa lapho imigomo ibonisa izindinganiso zethu zangempela, ekugcineni sibanjwa ngokuzola nangokuzethemba.
2. Namathela ohlelweni lomuntu ngamunye
Ochwepheshe bokukhiqiza bavame ukuseluleka ukuba sinamathele esimisweni esithile, kodwa kuthiwani uma singasisebenzeli? Ukuvuka ngehora lesihlanu ekuseni, ishawa ehlukile, ihora lomsebenzi kuphrojekthi yomuntu siqu ngaphambi kokuqala umsebenzi oyinhloko ... Futhi uma uyisikhova sasebusuku?
Esikhundleni sokuzama ukuzehlula, zama ukuzilalela futhi ubuyekeze isimiso sakho sansuku zonke. Mhlawumbe udinga ukuqala futhi uqedele usuku lwakho lomsebenzi kusenesikhathi kunabanye. Noma ukudla kwasemini okude, ngoba ngesikhathi sekhefu uqhamuka nemibono egqame kakhulu. Lokhu kungase kubonakale kuyizinto ezincane, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi zingenza umehluko omkhulu ekukhiqizeni kwakho.
3. Okulindelekile okusesilinganisweni
Ezikhathini eziningi, asicabangi ngabo, sihlanganyela izinto ezilindelwe ngabantu abasizungezile. Kodwa ingabe ziyahambisana nezidingo nemigomo yethu yomuntu siqu? Akulona neze iqiniso - kodwa umkhiqizo, futhi, uyahlupheka.
Ngakho zibuze: yini ngempela engiyilindele emsebenzini? Thatha isikhathi sakho, zinike isikhathi sokucabanga. Umuntu udinga ukuzindla ukuze aphendule lo mbuzo, othile udinga ukukhuluma nomngane oseduze, othile udinga ukubhala imicabango yakhe ephepheni. Uma usuqinisekise lokho okulindele manje, zibekele isikhumbuzi sokukubuyekeza futhi ngezikhathi ezithile.
4. Nciphisa iphimbo lengxoxo yangaphakathi
Cishe sonke sikhuluma sodwa ngalokho okwenzeka kithi, futhi ngokuvamile sizwa yena lowo mgxeki wangaphakathi esithethisa futhi esibeka icala: “Yeka ukuthi uyisiphukuphuku esingakanani ukuze uchithe yonke into!” noma "Ngingumuntu ovilaphayo - ngenxa yalokhu, zonke izinkinga zami ...".
Izingxoxo zangaphakathi kanye nephimbo esichaza ngalo okwenzekayo kuthinta indlela esizizwa ngayo, indlela esizizwa ngayo ngathi, imizwa esiba nayo, kanye nendlela esisebenza ngayo. Ukuzithethisa ngokungaziphathi kahle nokwehluleka, sizenza sibe babi kakhulu futhi sizivikele ekutholeni indlela yokuphuma kulesi simo. Ngakho-ke, kufanelekile ukufunda ukuziphathisa ngokucophelela nangobumnene.
Lapho umsebenzi umi, u-Ernest Hemingway wazikhumbuza, “Ungakhathazeki. Ungabhala ngaphambili futhi ungabhala manje." Ubalule nokuthi uhlezi esebenza kahle entwasahlobo. Lesi isibonelo esihle sokuthi ungazilalela kanjani, wazi izici zakho futhi uzisebenzise ukuze usebenze ngokunenzuzo.
Ngamunye wethu unezikhathi lapho singakhiqizi kangako noma sivele siwele esithubeni. Lokhu kuhle. Ukukhiqiza kungase kudlule "enkathini yokulala yasebusika" noma "inkathi yokuqhakaza kwasentwasahlobo". Ungalindeli ukuthi intwasahlobo izohlala unomphela. Funda ukwazisa ubusika futhi uzuze kubo.
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