Okuqukethwe
- 1. Isigaba sokuba khona: kusukela ekuzalweni kuya ezinyangeni eziyisi-6
- 2. Isigaba sokusebenza: izinyanga eziyisi-6 kuye kweziyi-18
- 3. Isigaba sokucabanga: izinyanga ezingu-18 kuya eminyakeni emi-3
- 4.Isigaba sobunikazi namandla: iminyaka emi-3 kuye kweyisi-6
- 5. Isiteji sesakhiwo: iminyaka engu-6 kuya kweyi-12
- 6. Isigaba sokuhlonza, ubulili kanye nokuhlukaniswa: kusukela eminyakeni eyi-12 kuya kweyi-19
Yini okufanele uyikhumbule lapho ingane yakho inezinyanga ezi-5 ubudala? Yini okufanele uyinake lapho eneminyaka engu-6 ubudala? Indlela yokwenza lapho eneminyaka engu-13? Kukhuluma ungoti.
1. Isigaba sokuba khona: kusukela ekuzalweni kuya ezinyangeni eziyisi-6
Kulesi sigaba, umzali kufanele ahlangabezane nezidingo zengane, ambambe ezingalweni zakhe, akhulume naye, aphinde imisindo ayenzayo. Awukwazi ukumphatha kabi noma ngokunganaki, umjezise, umgxeke futhi ungamnaki. Ingane ayikazi ukuthi icabange kanjani ngokuzimela, ngakho-ke kuyadingeka "ukuyenzela" yona. Uma ungaqiniseki ukuthi unakekela kahle ingane, kufanele uthintane nochwepheshe.
2. Isigaba sokusebenza: izinyanga eziyisi-6 kuye kweziyi-18
Kuyadingeka ukuthinta ingane kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze ikwazi ukuzwa izinzwa, isibonelo, ngokusebenzisa i-massage noma imidlalo ehlangene. Mvulele umculo, dlala imidlalo yokufundisa. Chitha isikhathi esiningi ngangokunokwenzeka ukhuluma: khuluma, phinda imisindo ayenzayo futhi uzame ukungaphazamisi. Ayikanconywa ukuthethisa noma ukujezisa ingane.
3. Isigaba sokucabanga: izinyanga ezingu-18 kuya eminyakeni emi-3
Kulesi sigaba, kuyadingeka ukukhuthaza ingane ezenzweni ezilula. Mtshele ngemithetho yokuziphatha, mayelana nokuthi izinto ezahlukene kanye nezigigaba zibizwa kanjani. Mfundise amagama ayisisekelo abalulekile ukuze aphephe — “cha”, “hlala phansi”, “woza”.
Ingane kufanele iqonde ukuthi ingakwazi (futhi kufanele) iveze imizwa ngaphandle kokushaya nokuklabalasa — ukuyikhuthaza ukuba isebenze ngokomzimba kuzosiza ikakhulukazi lapha. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, imizwa "engalungile" akufanele ivinjelwe - vumela ingane ukuba iveze kokubili imizwelo emihle nemibi. Ungathathi ukuqhuma kwentukuthelo yakhe enhliziyweni - futhi ungaphenduli kubo ngobudlova. Futhi ungayifaki ingcindezi enkulu enganeni yakho.
4.Isigaba sobunikazi namandla: iminyaka emi-3 kuye kweyisi-6
Siza ingane yakho ihlole iqiniso elimzungezile: phendula imibuzo ethakazelisayo futhi usho ukuthi umhlaba usebenza kanjani ukuze ingakhi imibono engamanga ngawo. Kodwa xoxani ngezihloko ezithile ngokuqapha, njengomehluko phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane. Lonke ulwazi kufanele lube ngokweminyaka yobudala. Noma ngabe imiphi imibuzo nemibono ingane ekhuluma ngayo, ungamgconi noma uhlekise ngaye.
5. Isiteji sesakhiwo: iminyaka engu-6 kuya kweyi-12
Ngalesi sikhathi, kubalulekile ukuthuthukisa enganeni ikhono lokuxazulula izimo zokungqubuzana nokwenza izinqumo ezizimele. Mnikeze ithuba lokuziphendulela ngokuziphatha kwakhe - uma, vele, imiphumela yakho ingabonakali ingozi. Xoxa ngezinkinga ezahlukene nengane yakho futhi uhlole izinketho zokuzixazulula. Khuluma ngamagugu empilo. Nakisisa isihloko sokuthomba.
Njengoba isikhulile, ingane isingakwazi kakade ukuhlanganyela emisebenzini yasekhaya. Kodwa lapha kubalulekile ukuthola "incazelo yegolide": ungamlayishi ngezifundo nezinye izinto, ngoba ngaleso sikhathi ngeke abe nesikhathi sokuzilibazisa nokuzilibazisa.
6. Isigaba sokuhlonza, ubulili kanye nokuhlukaniswa: kusukela eminyakeni eyi-12 kuya kweyi-19
Kule minyaka, abazali kufanele bakhulume nengane yabo mayelana nemizwa futhi baxoxe ngalokho okwenzeka kuyo (kuhlanganise nocansi) lapho ikhula. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukuziphatha okungalungile kwengane kufanele kudikibale ngokuveza ngokucacile umbono wakho mayelana nezidakamizwa, utshwala kanye nokuziphatha ocansini okungenakulinganiswa.
Khuthaza isifiso sakhe sokuhlukana nomndeni futhi azimele. Futhi khumbula ukuthi noma yimiphi imizamo yokuhlekisa ngezici zokubukeka kwengane nezinto azithandayo ayamukeleki. Ngisho noma ukwenza «loving».
Into eyinhloko okufanele uyikhumbule ukuthi ingane idinga uthando lwabazali, ukunakwa nokunakekelwa kunoma yisiphi isigaba sokukhula. Kumelwe abe nomuzwa wokuthi uvikelekile, ukuthi umkhaya useduze futhi uzomsekela ngesikhathi esifanele.
Nikeza ingane yakho iziqondiso ezifanele zokuphila, imsize ekukhuleni kwengqondo nomzimba. Ungamane umvikele ngokweqile ngokuzama ukumcabangela nokumenzela izinqumo. Noma kunjalo, umsebenzi wakho oyinhloko uwukusiza ingane ukuba ikhule futhi ibe umuntu owazi ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngezenzo zakhe futhi athole izindlela zokuphuma kunoma yiziphi izimo zokuphila.