Okuqukethwe
Nanka amaholide kaNcibijane osekunesikhathi elindelwe. Isikhathi osilinde isikhathi eside kangaka sokuphumula, thatha uhambo, uchithe isikhathi nomndeni wakho, uhlangane nabangane. Kodwa esikhundleni salokho, lapho nje uvuka, ufinyelela ifoni yakho ukuze uhlole okuphakelayo kwe-Instagram (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia), i-Facebook (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia) nezinye izinkundla zokuxhumana. Kusihlwa, esikhundleni sencwadi esandleni sakho, unethebhulethi, futhi esikhundleni senjabulo nenjabulo, uzizwa ucasukile futhi ukhathele. Ingabe izinkundla zokuxhumana zimbi ngempela ukulwa? Futhi kanjani-ke ukuba nalolo usizo abalunikezayo?
Emsebenzini wami njenge-psychotherapist, ngisebenzisa izinkundla zokuxhumana njengendlela yokukhuluma nababhalisile ngalokho okubalulekile kimina, ukutshela ukuthi ukwelashwa kwengqondo kungasiza kanjani, kubani futhi nini, ukwabelana ngolwazi lwami siqu oluyimpumelelo lokufuna usizo lochwepheshe. Ngiyajabula lapho izihloko zami zithola impendulo.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, amaklayenti avame ukukhononda ngokuthi achitha isikhathi esiningi ephenya okuphakelayo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, ebuka ividiyo ngemva kwenye, ebuka impilo yomunye umuntu. Ngokuvamile lokhu akubalethi injabulo, kodwa kunalokho kwandisa ukunganeliseki nokucindezeleka.
Ingabe inkundla yezokuxhumana iyingozi noma iyasiza? Ngicabanga ukuthi lo mbuzo ungabuzwa ngakho konke. Ake sihambe emoyeni omusha. Ingabe zimbi noma zilungile?
Kubonakala sengathi impendulo isobala: ngisho nengane iyazi ngezinzuzo zomoya. Kodwa kuthiwani uma -30 ngaphandle futhi sikhuluma ngosana olusanda kuzalwa? Kwakungeke kucabange muntu ukuhamba naye amahora amabili.
Kuvela ukuthi iphuzu alikho ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ngokwazo, kodwa ukuthi sichitha isikhathi esingakanani lapho nokuthi lokhu kuzilibazisa kusithinta kanjani.
Indlela yokuqala esebenzayo ukunciphisa isikhathi osichitha ezingosini zokuxhumana.
Ngiphakamisa ukuphendula imibuzo embalwa ukuze uqonde ukuthi uncike kangakanani ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.
- Singakanani isikhathi osichitha ngosuku ezinkundleni zokuxhumana?
- Kwenzekani esimweni sakho ngenxa yalokho: ingabe siyathuthuka noma siba sibi?
- Ngenxa yamanethiwekhi omphakathi, ingabe uzizwa ukhuthazekile, qhubekela phambili?
- Ingabe uke uzizwe ungento yalutho futhi «ubanda» ngemva kokubuka itheyiphu?
- Amahloni, ukwesaba kanye necala kwanda?
Uma uqonda ukuthi imizwa yakho ayincikile ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi nganoma iyiphi indlela noma ithuthuke ngemva kokubuka okuphakelayo, ngokuvamile uphefumulelwe futhi uqale ukwenza okuthile - ukuhalalisela, ungakwazi ukuyeka ngokuphepha ukufunda lesi sihloko, ngeke kube usizo kuwe.
Kodwa uma ubona ukuthi ukunganeliseki, ukudangala kanye nezimo ezicindezelayo kuyanda futhi kuncike ngokuqondile kulokho okubonayo ekuphakeleni, sinokuthile esingakhuluma ngakho. Okokuqala, mayelana nendlela yokuthuthukisa ubudlelwano bakho nezinkundla zokuxhumana.
Impela ngewashi
Indlela yokuqala esebenzayo ukunciphisa isikhathi osichitha ezingosini zokuxhumana. Ukuze wenze lokhu, ungasebenzisa iwashi elijwayelekile noma izinhlelo zokusebenza ezikhethekile zama-smartphone. Ngaphezu kwalokho, i-Facebook efanayo (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia) kanye ne-Instagram (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia) isanda kwethula isici esibonisa ukuthi singakanani isikhathi umsebenzisi asichithe kuhlelo lokusebenza lweselula ngesonto eledlule. Esimweni sokuqala, isimiso sitholakala esigabeni esithi "Isikhathi Sakho ku-Facebook" (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia), okwesibili, "Izenzo Zakho".
Kukhona ngisho nethuluzi elisivumela ukuthi sicacise ukuthi singakanani isikhathi esingathanda ukusichitha ekufakeni isicelo. Uma umkhawulo oshiwo kuzilungiselelo ufinyelelwa, sizothola isexwayiso (ukufinyelela kuzinhlelo zokusebenza ngeke kuvinjwe).
Kungumqondo omuhle ukwenza i-detox yolwazi ngezikhathi ezithile. Isibonelo, usuku olulodwa ngesonto ukwenza ngaphandle kokubuka amanethiwekhi omphakathi.
Yihlaziye
Indlela yesibili iwukuhlaziya ukuthi uchitha kanjani isikhathi sakho kukho nokuthi yini. Zama ukuqonda:
- Yini oyibukayo noyifundayo?
- Ivusa miphi imizwa?
- Kungani ubhalisele abantu abanomona?
- Kungani wenza lokhu - ukuskrola ezindabeni, ufunda lawa ma-blogger athile?
- Yini ekuvimbayo ekwenzeni ukukhetha okuhlukile?
- Yini engasiza?
Ngemva kokuhlaziya ukuziphatha kwakho ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, ungathatha izinyathelo ezilandelayo:
- Buyekeza ukubhalisa kwakho nokuqukethwe.
- Yehlisa inani lamaphrofayili owalandelayo.
- Zikhiphe ohlwini lwabantu ongenantshisekelo kubo.
- Bhalisela okusha, okuthakazelisayo.
- Buyisela emuva ukukhetha kwakho nenkululeko.
Yebo, ukushintsha imikhuba, futhi ngisho nangokwengeziwe ukuyeka izidakamizwa, kuhlala kunzima. Yebo, kuzodinga ukuzimisela nokuzimisela. Kodwa lokho okuthola ekugcineni kuzofaneleka wonke umzamo futhi kuzokuvumela ukuba ujabulele nsuku zonke - hhayi kuphela ngamaholide, kodwa naphakathi nesonto.