Imicabango yethu ithinta imizwelo yethu, lezi zokugcina zinethonya eliqondile empilweni yawo wonke umzimba. Uma yonke into engaphakathi ixhumene futhi incike emicabangweni nemizwa, kungani kunzima ngathi ukwamukela ukuthi umhlaba osizungezile, ohlanganisa ama-athomu afanayo, usabela ezweni elingaphakathi?
Akukona ngisho nombono ovusa amadlingozi wefilimu ethi "Imfihlo" nokuheha okufunayo. Imayelana nokuqwashisa nokwamukela ukukhetha ngokwenkululeko yokuzikhethela nokucabanga.
Ukuze ubudlelwano nomuntu othandekayo buvumelane futhi buphile, kubalulekile ukuqaphela izinto ezimbalwa:
Njengokuheha njengokuthi. Njengabantu, silapha ukuze sifunde. Siheha abantu ngezinga lokuqwashisa eliseduze nelethu ngesikhathi esithile. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, labo bantu abazosifundisa isifundo esibalulekile. Njengomthetho, bobabili badinga ukufunda into efanayo, mhlawumbe ngezindlela ezahlukene. Ngolimi olulula, lapho usebenza kakhulu ekukhuphuleni izinga lakho lokuqwashisa, ukuzithuthukisa, maningi amathuba okuba uhlangane nomuntu ophile kahle futhi ovuthiwe ngawe. Ukuphila indima yomunye umuntu, ungeyena wena, uheha umuntu obonisa le mask. Ukuqonda lo mqondo kanye nokuqaliswa kwawo ekuphileni kwansuku zonke kusiza ngempela ukuqonda ubudlelwano futhi, uma kunesidingo, "ukwehla ehhashini elifile" ngokuqaphela. Qonda ukuthi ungubani. Lapho siqaphela lokho esiyikho ngempela, silahla ukwesaba kwethu, izidakamizwa kanye ne-ego, siqala ukuqonda lokho esikufunayo ekuphileni kwethu. Njengoba “sembulile” “mina” wethu, sibhekene nezimo nabantu abahlobene kakhulu nezithakazelo zethu zangempela. Ngemva kokuyeka ukuchitha isikhathi namandla emiluthweni nasemiluthweni, esikhundleni salokho sasebenzisa okunempilo nokudala, siyaqaphela ukuthi abanye abantu basuka kanjani kithi futhi kufika abantu abasha, abaqaphela kakhulu. Nquma ukuthi yini oyifunayo ngempela. Uma umuntu omdala nozimele engazi ukuthi ufunani, angayithola kanjani into ayifunayo? Mhlawumbe ngamunye wethu waqaphela ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzama kangakanani ukufeza okuthile, uma kunokungaqiniseki ngesidingo, imiphumela ingase idumaze. Kubalulekile ukuba nenhloso yalokho okufunayo (). I-blogger uJeremy Scott Lambert uyabhala. Zibone ukuthi ufanelekile futhi uzithanda wena. Yenza konke ongakwenza ukuze ukhulule amandla, imizwa, nemicabango engemihle ekubambe ukuthi ungaqhubekeli phambili futhi uzithande ngaphandle kwemibandela. Ngaphambi kokuba sibe nobuhlobo obuhle, kumelwe sifunde ukuyeka izimo eziye zasiphatha ngokungafanele, zasilimaza, futhi zasenza singabaze ukufaneleka kwethu kwenjabulo nenhlonipho. Ziningi izindlela zokubhekana nalokhu: ukuzindla, ukususa amandla, ukwelapha, nokunye. Sesha, zama, khetha okufanelana nawe. Ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nokuqinisekiswa okulula kwansuku zonke "Ngifanele uthando, ngifanele ubuhlobo obunempilo" kwanele ukukhanyisa indlela yokuphulukiswa kwangaphakathi. Sonke siwuzwile lo musho futhi siyaqiniseka ngokunemba kwawo: