Ngiyazi ukuthi angikaze ngenze ukwelashwa kwengqondo futhi angihleli ukukwenza, futhi yilokhu okuphakamisa imibuzo eminingi kulabo abajwayele isipiliyoni sami se-quarter-century. "Ingabe lokho ongakwenzi akuyona i-psychotherapy? Phela usiza abantu abalimele nababi emiphefumulweni yabo! - Yiqiniso, bengilokhu ngisiza kakhulu futhi isikhathi eside, kodwa ukwelashwa kwengqondo akuhlangene nakho. Ngingathanda ukukuqonda lokhu, kodwa ngizoqala - kude.
Ngaphambili, ebuntwaneni bami, amazwi amaningi ezingane ayehlale ezwakala egcekeni ngaphansi kwefasitela, ukuphila kwakugcwele egcekeni. Namuhla, imidlalo egcekeni ibonakala ishintsha ngokuqhubekayo imidlalo yekhompiyutha, amagceke athulile, kodwa ngifuna ukhumbule noma ucabange isimo sokuphila esivamile: izingane eziningi ezineminyaka ehlukene zidlala egcekeni lakho, futhi phakathi kwezingane kukhona. umfana oyi-hooligan uVasya. U-Vasya ushaya futhi acasule izingane. I-Vasya iyinkinga yegceke.
Okufanele ngikwenze?
- "Ususa i-hooligan Vasya, futhi izingane zizodlala ngendlela evamile!" bamemeze abesifazane abathukuthele. Isikhalazo sinomusa, uVasya kuphela obhalisiwe lapha, leli gceke lingelakhe, futhi uzohamba lapha, kodwa akusizi ukuxhumana nabazali bakhe. Abazali balesi Vasya abahluke kakhulu kuye futhi abakwazi ukubhekana naye bebodwa. Vasya — awukwazi ukuvele uyisuse.
- "Shayela iphoyisa!" — Yebo. U-Vasya usemncane, akangeni ngaphansi kwe-Criminal Code, awukwazi ukumfaka ejele noma izinsuku ezingu-15, izandla zephoyisa ziboshwe. Okwedlule.
- “Asibize uthisha, uzokhuluma noVasya!” - Shayela ... Futhi ungakala kanjani ukuphumelela kwezingxoxo zokufundisa noVasya ojabule?
UBilly Novick. Lona i-Vasya ephelele!
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Wonke lawa ngamasu angalungile. Ukuqeda i-Vasya, ukubhekana nama-Vasyas angenangqondo, ukuqeda ithonya lamaVasya anjalo kwezinye izingane ezivamile amasu amabi ngakho-ke awasebenzi. Ungakwazi ukubhekana nale ndawo isikhathi eside: ukudala bonke abasebenzi bezenhlalakahle kanye nabahloli bezingane ukuze baxazulule izinkinga ezinjalo, bachithe iminyaka eminingi kanye nemali eningi kulokhu, kodwa ngeke ukwazi ukubhekana noVasya. ngale ndlela. U-Vasya uzokhula, mhlawumbe uzozola kancane ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kodwa ama-Vasyas amasha azovela endaweni yakhe, futhi lokhu kuzohlala kunjalo nawe.
Kungani njalo? Futhi ingabe kungenzeka ukushintsha okuthile lapha?
Kuyohlala kunje, ngoba wenza okungalungile, ngendlela engafanele. Kungenzeka yini ukuguqula isimo? - kungaba. Isimo sizoqala ukushintsha lapho izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo nothisha beqala ukusebenza hhayi kuphela "ngama-apula abolile", hhayi nje nge-Vasya, kodwa ngezinga elikhulu baqala ukudala umnyombo onempilo yokuphila kwasekhaya nezenhlalakahle. Ukuze kungabi bikho abantu abagulayo, kuyadingeka ukuthi ubhekane nabantu abanempilo ngaphambi kokugula. Kuyadingeka ukuqinisa impilo yomphakathi - lesi siqondiso kuphela esithembisa ngempela.
Manje ake sisuke endaweni yegceke siye endaweni yomphefumulo womuntu. Indawo yomphefumulo womuntu nayo inezinhlamvu zayo kanye namandla ayo, ahluke kakhulu. Amandla anempilo futhi ayagula, amandla alula futhi amnyama. Sinesithakazelo futhi siyakhathalela, kukhona ukumomotheka okunomusa nothando, kodwa sinamaVasyas ethu - ukucasuka, ukwesaba, ukucasuka. Futhi wenzeni ngabo?
Isikhundla sami: “Engikwenzayo akukhona ukwelashwa kwengqondo, ngisho nalapho ngisebenza neziguli. Umuntu ogulayo akaguli ngokuphelele, njengoba nje ngokuvamile umuntu onempilo engaphilile ngokuphelele. Kulowo nalowo kithi kunesiqalo esinempilo nesigulayo, ingxenye enempilo negulayo. Ngihlala ngisebenza ngengxenye enempilo, ngisho noma kuyingxenye enempilo yomuntu ogulayo. Ngiyayiqinisa, futhi ngokushesha impilo iba okuqukethwe okuyinhloko ekuphileni komuntu.
Uma kukhona i-hooligan Vasya egcekeni futhi kukhona abafana abalungile, ungakwazi ukubhekana ne-hooligan, uphinde umfundise. Noma ungenza iqembu eliqinile nelisebenzayo kubafana abalungile, elizoshintsha isimo egcekeni ukuze maduzane i-hooligan Vasya ayeke ukuzibonakalisa nganoma iyiphi indlela. Futhi ngemva kwesikhathi esithile, mhlawumbe, uzojoyina leli qembu elinempilo. "I-Timur nethimba lakhe" akuyona inganekwane, yilokho othisha abangcono kakhulu kanye nezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo abakwenza ngempela futhi benza. Yilokhu okuyixazulula ngempela inkinga. Isixazululo asishibhile, asisheshi - kodwa yisona kuphela esisebenzayo.
I-psychology enempilo, i-psychology yokuphila nentuthuko, yilapho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sisebenza ngesiqalo esinempilo kumuntu, nengxenye enempilo yomphefumulo wakhe, noma ngabe umuntu (ezicabangela yena) kunalokho ogulayo. I-Psychotherapy yilapho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sisebenza nengxenye egulayo yomphefumulo, ngisho noma umuntu ngokuvamile wayenempilo.
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