Okuqukethwe
Lapho siphikelela ngokwengeziwe injabulo, mancane amathuba okuba siyithole. Lesi siphetho, esisekelwe ocwaningweni lwakhe, senziwe uchwepheshe waseMelika wenjabulo uRaj Raghunathan. Futhi nakhu akunikezayo ngokubuyisela.
Ucwaningo oluningi lukhombisa ukuthi isihluthulelo senjabulo wukucacisa ngezinhloso zakho. Kusukela ebuntwaneni, sifundiswa ukuthi kufanele sizibekele izindinganiso eziphakeme futhi sithole ukwaneliseka emsebenzini ophumelelayo, impumelelo kanye nokunqoba. Eqinisweni, lokhu kukhathazeka ngemiphumela kukuvimbela ukuthi ungajabuli, kusho uRaj Raghunathan, umbhali wencwadi ethi If You're So Smart, Why Are You Ujappy?
Waqala wacabanga ngakho emhlanganweni ayefunda nawo ekilasini. Waphawula ukuthi impumelelo esobala kakhudlwana yabanye babo - ukuthuthuka kwezemisebenzi, iholo eliphezulu, izindlu ezinkulu, uhambo olujabulisayo - kwakubonakala benganelisekile futhi bedidekile.
Lokhu kuqaphela kwenze u-Raghunathan wenza ucwaningo ukuze aqonde ukusebenza kwengqondo yenjabulo futhi avivinye umbono wakhe: isifiso sokuhola, ukubaluleka, okudingekayo nokufiswayo siphazamisa kuphela inhlalakahle engokwengqondo. Ngenxa yalokho, wathola izingxenye ezinhlanu ezibalulekile zenjabulo.
1. Ungajahi injabulo
Ekuphishekeleni kwethu injabulo yesikhathi esizayo, sivame ukukhohlwa ukubeka phambili ngokufanele okwamanje. Nakuba abaningi bethu bevuma ukuthi kubaluleke ngaphezu komsebenzi noma imali, empeleni sivame ukuyidela ngenxa yezinye izinto. Gcina ibhalansi enengqondo. Asikho isidingo sokukhathazeka ngokuthi ujabule kangakanani — yenza okukusizayo ukuthi uzizwe ujabule lapha futhi manje.
Uzoqala kuphi. Cabanga ngalokho okukunikeza umuzwa wenjabulo - ukwanga obathandayo, ukuzijabulisa kwangaphandle, ukulala okujabulisayo ebusuku, noma enye into. Yenza uhlu lwalezo zikhathi. Qiniseka ukuthi bahlala bekhona empilweni yakho.
2. Thatha umthwalo wemfanelo
Ungalokothi usole abanye ngokungathokozi. Phela kuncike kuwena ngempela. Sonke siyakwazi ukulawula imicabango nemizwa yethu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izimo zangaphandle zikhula kanjani. Lo muzwa wokulawula usenza sikhululeke futhi sijabule kakhudlwana.
Uzoqala kuphi. Indlela yokuphila enempilo isiza ekutholeni ukuzithiba. Qala ukuzinakekela: ukwandisa umsebenzi wakho womzimba kancane, udle okungenani isithelo esisodwa ngaphezulu ngosuku. Khetha izinhlobo zokuzivocavoca ezikusebenzela kangcono futhi zikusize uzizwe ungcono, futhi uzifake ohlelweni lwakho lwansuku zonke.
3. Gwema ukuqhathanisa
Uma kuwe injabulo ihlotshaniswa nomuzwa wokuthi uphakeme kunomunye umuntu, uzobhekana nokudumala njalo nje. Ngisho noma ukwazi ukudlula izimbangi zakho manje, ngokushesha noma kamuva othile uzokwedlula. Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, iminyaka izoqala ukukudumaza.
Ukuqhathanisa nabanye kungase kubonakale kuyindlela enhle yokuzikhuthaza: “Ngizoba umhlabeleli ekilasini lami/enkampanini/emhlabeni!” Kodwa le bar izohlala ishintsha, futhi awusoze wakwazi ukuba ngumnqobi waphakade.
Uzoqala kuphi. Uma uzilinganisa ngabanye, khona-ke ngokuzenzakalelayo uzohamba ngemijikelezo ekushiyekeni kwakho. Ngakho-ke yiba nomusa kuwe - uma uqhathanisa kancane, uzojabula kakhulu.
4. Iya ngokugeleza
Iningi lethu liye lahlangabezana nokugeleza okungenani ngezikhathi ezithile, okuhlangenwe nakho okukhuthazayo lapho sibambeke kakhulu kokuthile size silahlekelwe umkhondo wesikhathi. Asicabangi ngendima yethu yomphakathi, asihloli ukuthi sibhekana kanjani kahle noma kabi nomsebenzi esicwiliswe kuwo.
Uzoqala kuphi. Yini ongayenza? Iyiphi into ekuhlaba umxhwele ngempela, ekukhuthazayo? Ukugijima, ukupheka, ukubhala, ukudweba? Yenza uhlu lwale misebenzi futhi unike isikhathi kuyo njalo.
5. Themba abantu ongabazi
Inkomba yenjabulo iphakeme kulawo mazwe noma emiphakathini lapho izakhamuzi ezikanye nazo ziphathana ngokuthembana. Uma ungabaza ukuthi umdayisi uzolubala kahle yini ushintsho, noma wesaba ukuthi omunye ohamba naye esitimeleni uzontshontsha okuthile kuwe, ulahlekelwa ukuthula kwengqondo.
Kungokwemvelo ukwethemba umndeni nabangane. Ukwethemba abantu ongabazi kungenye indaba ngokuphelele. Lokhu kuyinkomba yokuthi siyethemba kangakanani impilo kanjalo.
Uzoqala kuphi. Funda ukuvuleka kakhudlwana. Njengomkhuba, zama ukukhuluma okungenani noyedwa ongamazi nsuku zonke - emgwaqweni, esitolo ... Gxila ezikhathini ezinhle zokuxhumana, hhayi ekwesabeni ukuthi ungalindela izinkinga kubantu ongabazi.