Ingabe ufuna izingane zakho zikhule ziphumelele futhi zijabule? Bese ubanikeza ithuba lokuzimela! Nsuku zonke inikeza amathuba amaningi alokhu. Kuhlala kuphela ukuqaphela izimo ezinjalo futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuqapha isisusa sakho, kusho u-Ekaterina Klochkova, uchwepheshe womndeni ohlelekile.
“Gogo, hlala phansi” — ekupheleni kohambo lwesikole, umfundi webanga lesithathu uqale ngokudilika esihlalweni esingenalutho esisemotweni engaphansi komhlaba, wabe esegxuma phambi kukagogo owasondela. Kodwa lona wesifazane wayemelene nakho ngokuphelele. Wacishe waphoqa umzukulu wakhe ukuba ahlale phansi, naye ngokwakhe, naye ekhathele ngemva kohambo lokuhamba ngezinyawo, wama maqondana naye.
Ngibuka lesi sigameko, ngabona ukuthi isinqumo somfana sasingelula kuye: wayefuna ukunakekela ugogo wakhe, kodwa kwakunzima ukuphikisana naye. Futhi owesifazane, ngakolunye uhlangothi, wayenakekela umzukulu wakhe ... ngesikhathi esifanayo emtshela phakathi kwemigqa ukuthi wayemncane.
Isimo sijwayelekile, nami ngike ngahlangana naso izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa ebudlelwaneni nezingane zami. Inkumbulo yobusana babo nobuncane bukhanga kakhulu kangangokuthi kwenza kube nzima ukuqaphela ukuthi ngamunye wabo ukhula kanjani nokuthi kancane kancane, usuku nosuku, amathuba abo akhula futhi izidingo zabo zishintsha. Futhi azivezwanga kuphela ekutholeni i-iPhone yosuku lwakho lokuzalwa esikhundleni sesethi evamile ye-Lego.
Umgomo awukona nje ukukhulisa umntwana onamandla ngokomzimba futhi ojabulayo, kodwa futhi ukumfundisa ukwakha ubuhlobo obunempilo.
Ngokunokwenzeka, isidingo sokuqashelwa sesivele sivele, futhi, ngokwezinga elithile, isifiso esinengqondo sokwenza umnikelo onokwenzeka enhlalakahleni yomndeni. Kodwa umntwana akakabi namandla, ukuqonda kanye nesipiliyoni sokuphila komuntu omdala ukuze aqonde ngokushesha okwenzekayo kuye futhi athole lokho akufunayo. Ngakho-ke, indima yomzali kule nqubo ibaluleke kakhulu. Ingakwazi kokubili ukusekela inqubo enempilo yokukhula, futhi iyihlanekezele, ibambezele noma iyenze ingenzeki okwesikhashana.
Abazali abaningi bathi umgomo wabo awukona nje ukukhulisa umntwana onamandla ngokomzimba, omuhle futhi ojabulayo, kodwa futhi ukumfundisa ukwakha ubuhlobo obuhle nabantu abaseduze naye. Futhi lokhu kusho ukukwazi ukukhetha abangani abahle futhi kulobu bungane ungazinakekeli wena kuphela, kodwa nalabo abaseduze. Kulapho kuphela lapho ubudlelwano nabanye buyothuthukisa ingane futhi bumvulele amathuba amasha (nendawo ahlala kuyo).
Kubukeka sengathi ugogo ovela endabeni esekuqaleni kombhalo uhlangene ngani nayo? Cabanga ngokuthuthuka okuhlukile kwesimo. Ebona umzukulu webanga lesithathu esukuma emvulela indlela. Ugogo uthi kuye: “Ngiyabonga, sithandwa. Ngiyajabula ukubona ukuthi nami ngikhathele. Ngizothatha ngenjabulo isihlalo ofuna ukusiyeka, ngoba ngiyabona ukuthi usumdala ngokwanele ukuthi unganginakekela.
Abangane bazobona ukuthi lo mfana ungumzukulu olalelayo futhi okhathalelayo, ukuthi ugogo wakhe uyamhlonipha njengomuntu omdala.
Ngiyavuma ukuthi ukuphinyiselwa kombhalo onjalo akunangqondo. Ukukhuluma isikhathi eside kangaka, ukuklelisa ngokucophelela konke okubonayo, kufundiswa ochwepheshe bezengqondo ekuqeqesheni, ukuze kamuva bakhulume namakhasimende abo ngamagama alula, kodwa ngekhwalithi entsha. Ngakho-ke ugogo wethu emcabangweni wethu ake athole ithuba lokumane amukele isipho somzukulu wakhe ahlale phansi abonge ngobuqotho.
Ngaleso sikhathi, izingane ezifunda nomfana nazo zazizobona ukuthi umfana unake ugogo wakhe, futhi ugogo uyakwamukela ukunakekelwa kwakhe ngenjabulo. Futhi mhlawumbe bayokhumbula isibonelo esiphumelelayo sokuziphatha okwamukelekayo emphakathini. Futhi, cishe kungathinta ubuhlobo babo nofunda nabo ekilasini. Phela abangani bebebona ukuthi lo mfana ungumzukulu onaka futhi onakekelayo, ugogo wakhe uyamhlonipha njengomuntu omdala.
Kusukela ku-mosaic yansuku zonke enjalo, ubudlelwano bomzali nengane, kanye nanoma yibuphi obunye ubudlelwano, bakheka. Kulezi zikhathi, singabaphoqa ukuthi bahlale bengavuthiwe, beyizinsana futhi, ekugcineni, bangakwazi ukujwayela ukuphila emphakathini, noma sibasize bakhule futhi bazihloniphe bona kanye nabanye.