Amandla Entombazane: Ungayinika kanjani indodakazi yakho ukuzethemba?

"Into eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu mayelana nokukhulisa ingane ukuphatha ukungakuboni" ubulili ", kuchaza u-Bénédicte Fiquet, umxhumanisi wemfundo engakhethi ngokobulili. “Okusho ukuthi, uma umbheka, hhayi ukubona intombazanyana noma umfana omncane. Ingane noma ingane, ngaphambi kokuba ithathwe njengocansi - okungakukhawulela - kufanele ibonwe “njengengane”, okusho ukuthi, enekhono elifanayo kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubulili bayo buni. I-Neuroscience ibonise ukuthi ekuzalweni izingane zinamandla afanayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi angamantombazane noma abafana. Kodwa okuhlangenwe nakho abayoba nakho ekuphileni kwabo okuyobanikeza amakhono. Esinye sezihluthulelo zokunikeza ingane yakho ukuzethemba wukwandisa ububanzi bamathuba ngokuyinikeza ithuba lokusebenzisa ubuntu bayo kabanzi ngangokunokwenzeka.

Umqondo? Ungalokothi ukhawulele intombazane ukuthi inamathele emcabangweni wobulili bayo. Ngakho-ke, intombazane njengomfana, ingaba phezulu, inomsindo, ingakwazi ukugibela ezihlahleni, igqoke ngendlela ethanda ngayo.

Konke kuphumile!

Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi amantombazane awaphumi njalo nje aye esigcawini noma epaki njengabafana. Kodwa-ke, zonke izingane zidinga ukugijima nokuzivocavoca ukuze zibe nempilo!

Khetha ama-albhamu namafilimu akho

Isiko lendabuko likhombisa amamodeli ngezincwadi ezinikezwa amantombazane amancane. Kufanele siqaphele ukukhetha ama-albhamu lapho izibalo zabesifazane zingagcini nje kuphela endaweni yasekhaya futhi zinendima yokushayela (akuwona nje amakhosazana aphelelwa amandla ngesikhathi elinde uMntwana uCharming).

Umbono: funda izincwadi noma ubuke amafilimu ngaphambi kokuba uzibonise ingane yakho ukuze uhlole ukuthi aziwadluliseli amazwi akhuluma ngobulili (ubaba esihlalweni sakhe, umama ugeza izitsha!). Wenza indodakazi yakho ifunde noma ibonise izincwadi noma amafilimu lapho intombazane inendima ehamba phambili eqhubekayo (uPippi Longstocking, uMulan, Rebel noma amaqhawekazi aseMiazaki). Ayikho imibono? Sigqugquzelwa yizincwadi ezinjengokuthi “Kungani kungeyena umshayeli wendiza?” »Noma sithatha kuma-albhamu angu-130 angacwasi ngokobulili ahlonzwe inhlangano i-Adéquations.

Lapho umbhali ezisola...

Umbhali we-albhamu yentsha uRébecca d'Allremer uchaze ekupheleni kukaNovemba emakhasini e-Liberation ukuthi uthole ukuthi i-albhamu yakhe yentsha, ehunyushwe emhlabeni wonke, "Lovers", lapho umfana omncane eshaya intombazanyana ngoba yena othandweni naye futhi akazi ukuthi uzothini kuye, "iqukethe imibono yamadoda okuthi ngesikhathi se-#Metoo aphinde ayifunde ngokwesaba". Ukuzindla !

Khetha imidlalo enemiphumela ukuze uthole ukuzethemba

Amantombazane amancane avame ukuqhutshwa emidlalweni yokulingisa (onodoli, abanikazi bezitolo, imisebenzi yasendlini, njll.). Kodwa-ke, uma le midlalo ibaluleke kakhulu ezinganeni (amantombazane nabafana ngokufanayo) ngoba ithuthukisa ulimi nomcabango, ayiwona imidlalo “enemiphumela” ebhekana namaqiniso. Kunzima ukuthi “Ngithengise imifino eyi-16! ” ngokuziqhenya ! Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukushaya amagoli ekhejini lebhola noma ukugibela umbhoshongo onama-cubes noma i-Kapla kukuvumela ukuba uthi kumzali wakho: “Bheka engikwenzile! Nokuziqhenya ngakho. Ukuphakamisa ukuthi intombazanyana idlale le midlalo nakho kuyindlela yokuyisiza ukuthi iqinise ukuzethemba kwayo, ikakhulukazi njengoba ungayincoma ngobuqhawe bayo.

Thola "ama-role-model"

Umlando waseFrance ikakhulukazi ugcina amadoda adumile, nokho abesifazane abaningi bafeze izinto ezinhle ... kepha sizwa okuncane ngakho! Ungangabazi ukuxoxa nengane yakho ngokuphila kuka-Alexandra David-Néel, (owaseNtshonalanga wokuqala owangena eLhassa), kaJeanne Barret (umhloli wezitshalo nesazi sezitshalo esachaza izinkulungwane zezitshalo emhlabeni), noma nge-Olympus de Gouges (owesifazane waseFrance waseFrance). izincwadi kanye nosopolitiki). I-Ditto yabadlali bebhola, abadlali bebhola lezandla, abadubuli… Umbono: sigqugquzelwa izenzo zabesifazane zokunikeza amadodakazi ethu izithixo eziphula inhliziyo!

Lokho akulungile neze!

Uma okuthile kusiphula izinyawo ezindabeni (ukuntuleka kweholo elilinganayo phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane), ukusho ngokuzwakalayo phambi kwendodakazi yakhe kumenza aqonde ukuthi asikwamukeli lokho esikubheka njengokungabi nabulungisa.

Chic! Umagazini okhuluma ngokuqondile namantombazane

Nali iphephabhuku “elithenjiswe umshado” lamantombazane amancane asukela eminyakeni eyi-7 kuye kweyi-12… okuwanika ukuzethemba! I-Tchika iwumagazini wokuqala waseFrance wokunikeza amandla (onikeza amandla) emantombazaneni amancane futhi ikhuluma nawo ngesayensi, i-ecology, psychology ...

Gqoka ngokukhululeka

Izembatho, ikakhulukazi ezincane, kusukela ezinyangeni ezingu-8 kuya ku-3, 4 ubudala, zinquma ukukwazi ukunyakaza kalula futhi ngakho-ke zithole ukuzethemba kuwe, emzimbeni womuntu. Akulula ezinyangeni eziyi-13 ukukhuphuka isithiyo ngengubo ebanjwa emadolweni! Akulula ukugijima namaflethi e-ballet ashelelayo futhi. Emantombazaneni amancane, sikhetha izingubo ezifudumele, ezimelana nemvula, udaka, futhi kulula ukuziwasha. Isib: amasudi amelana nemvula avela e-Caretec, Lego, njll... ukuze uwathole lapha!

Nikeza izwi

Amathuluzi abonisa ukuthi esikoleni noma enkulisa, abafana abancane bavame ukumenywa ukuba bakhulume, futhi banqume amantombazane. Okuhlehlayo akulona iqiniso. Nokho, maningi amathuba okuthi into efanayo izobonwa ezinganeni zakwabo. Lokhu kunikeza amantombazane umbono wokuthi izwi lawo alibalulekile kunabafana futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, kuzoholela emkhubeni ovame kakhulu phakathi kwamadoda: "ukuphazamisa" (iqiniso lokunquma ngokuhlelekile owesifazane engxoxweni. , uhlelo lwe-TV, ngo umhlangano, ekhaya, njll.). Isibonelo somkhuba omuhle? Enkulisa yaseBourdarias eSaint-Ouen (93), ochwepheshe bezingane basebancane baqeqeshelwa ukunakekela ukuthi amantombazane amancane angaphazanyiswa, nokuthi akwazi ukukhuluma njalo.

Umqondo? Etafuleni, emotweni noma endleleni eya esikoleni, abazali kufanele baqinisekise ukuthi zonke izingane zabo zinezwi elilinganayo, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka.

Isitimela, lahlekelwa, qala phansi

« Amantombazane abuthakathaka kunabafana! "" Abafana badlala ibhola elingcono kunamantombazane! “. Lezi zinkolelo zifa kanzima. Ngokusho kukaBénédicte Fiquet, lokhu akufanele kubhekwe njengento engenakugwenywa, kodwa amantombazane kufanele akhuthazwe ukuba aziqeqeshe. Ibhola elidlulayo, i-skateboarding, ukushaya ubhasikidi kubhasikidi, ukuba namandla ekukhuphukeni noma ukulwa nengalo, kudinga ukuqeqeshwa ukuze uthuthukise indlela yakho nenqubekela phambili. Ngakho-ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi singumama noma ubaba, siqeqesha, sibonisa, sichaza futhi sisekela ukuze intombazanyana yethu iphumelele ekwenzeni izinto eziphezulu!

Amaworkshops ukuthuthukisa ukuzethemba

Kubazali baseParis, izehlakalo ezimbili okufanele zibonwe ngoJanuwari: ishabhu yabazali ethi “Raising super-heroine” kaGloria kanye neshabhu ekhethekile yamantombazane amancane eyakhiwe ngabakwaYoopies “Graines d'Entrepreneuses”, ukuze uthole imibono yokumisa ibhokisi lakho. !

Yiba nesiphithiphithi futhi udale

Amantombazane amancane ahlushwa izimfuno zabantu abadala ezihlobene nezinkolelo-ze ezithile ezinamathela esikhumbeni sawo, ikakhulukazi lokho okufanele "kusetshenziswe". Nokho, kubalulekile ekuphileni ukufunda ukuzifaka engozini, ukuzama, ngisho noma kusho ukwenza amaphutha. Kuyisipiliyoni sokuphila konke. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukulokotha wenze into embi ngisho nangaphezulu, kunokuba usetshenziswe ekupheleliseni into avele ayenze kahle. Ngempela, ukubeka engcupheni njengengane kuzokwenza kube lula lapho usumdala ukwamukela ukukhushulwa esikhundleni noma ukushintsha imisebenzi, isibonelo ...

Imidlalo ebuyekeziwe

I-"The Moon Project" ihlose ukukhombisa izingane - amantombazane nabafana - ukuthi noma yini ingenzeka. Ngalo moya, inkampani ye-Topla inikeza imidlalo yamakhadi engu-5 eklanywe kabusha ngendlela elinganayo futhi egqugquzelwe abantu besifazane abakhulu. Akukubi ukubona okukhulu!

Nikeza ukuzethemba enganeni

UBénédicte Fiquet uyachaza: amantombazane amancane akufanele adikibale ngisho nangaphambi kokuba azame ukwenza okuthile. Kunalokho, kufanele sibatshele ukuthi siyamethemba. “Uma intombazanyana ifuna ukuzama okuthile futhi ingalinge, singasho kuyo ukuthi:” Ngiyazi akulula kodwa ngiyakwethemba ukuthi ungakwenza. Uma ungalinge namuhla, mhlawumbe ufuna ukuzama futhi kusasa? »

Thatha umhlaba

Imvamisa, ibhalansi yobulili esikoleni imane nje ingaphambili. Ezinkundleni zokudlala, inkundla yebhola, edwetshwe phansi, ihloselwe abafana. Amantombazane ajikijelwa emaceleni enkundla (bheka okuphawulwe eBordeaux.

Yini okufanele uyenze ngalokhu? “Kulolu hlobo lwesimo, ungangabazi ukutshela amantombazane amancane ukuthi akuvamile,” kuchaza uBénédicte Fiquet. “Uma abafana bengafuni ukudedelwa yibo, abantu abadala kufanele batshele amantombazane ukuthi bangakhuluma ngokungafanele noma ngokucwasa ngokobulili. Kuzoqinisa ukuzethemba kwabo uma beqonda ukuthi bangakwazi ukwenza lolu hlobo lwesimo ”. Ngakho-ke, kwezinye izikole, amaqembu okufundisa afake "ukuzijabulisa ngaphandle kwebhola". Amantombazane amancane nabafana banikezwa zonke izinhlobo zemidlalo exubile (ama-hoops, ama-stilts, njll.) ebakhuthaza ukuthi bashintshe imisebenzi. Lokhu kwenza kube nokwenzeka ukuphula i-hegemony yabafana abancane endaweni yokudlala nokudala kabusha ukuhlukahluka.