Okuqukethwe
“Awuyena umama wami! Akukho ongangitshela khona! “ Injalo imvamisa ukusabela okunonya kumyalelo onikezwa ingane yomngane wayo, lapho ubudlelwano buba nzima.
Ngaphambi kokuphazamisa ekukhuliseni kwakhe (ingubo yetafula, ukugunda izinwele, ukusebenzisa ucingo, isikhathi sokulala, njll.), yazi futhi uyithande ingane. Ungahlali ungakhulumi nawe. “Uma nje nihlala ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa, mchazele ngomoya ophansi ukuthi ithini imithetho yomuzi wenu. Uma kungenjalo, ukungezwani kungakhula futhi kugcine kuqhume kungazelelwe ”, kuchaza udokotela wengqondo yezingane u-Edwige Antier.
Wonke umuntu unendima yakhe. Iseluleko esivela ku-Marie-Dominique Linder, isazi se-psychoanalyst *
Umthwalo wemfanelo wabazali uwukubeka izimiso eziyisisekelo: kwezemfundo (isiqondiso, ukuxhumana nothisha, njll.), izimiso zokuziphatha (izindinganiso zokuziphatha, njll.) noma impilo (ukukhetha ukwelashwa, njll.).
Abasemzini, bangakwazi ukudlulisa ukusetshenziswa kwansuku zonke kwemithetho yokuziphatha okuhle, bewela ngaphansi "Uhulumeni wendawo" : impilo enempilo (ukudla, isikhathi sokulala …), umsebenzi wesikole wesikole (iseluleko, amasheke …), ukuziphatha emphakathini (inhlonipho, ukuziphatha etafuleni …) Qaphela ukuthi ungangabazi lokho omunye umzali akugxilise kuye.
Uma kunokungqubuzana okukhulu, vumela umzali onelungelo lokukhulisa ingane athathe izintambo nengane yakhe. Lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuba uphume.
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* Umbhali Wemindeni Ehlanganisiwe - Umhlahlandlela Osebenzayo, oshicilelwe ngu-Hachette Pratique