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Okhulelwe noma onezingane: hlela umshado wakho
Ukwenza isimo somndeni wabo sibe semthethweni, ukujabulisa izingane, ngoba eminyakeni eyishumi edlule babengakufuni kodwa namuhla yebo ... eminye imibhangqwana ihlehlela emuva ingoma ethi “Babe nezingane eziningi futhi bashada”. Ukuba nezingane zakho njengofakazi bomshado wakho, ukuba nezinyanga ezimbalwa ukhulelwe futhi ugqoke ingubo emhlophe, noma yini engenzeka!
Abashadile nabazali
UMarina Marcourt, umbhali wencwadi ethi “Organiser son mariage” kwa-Eyrolles, unikeza izeluleko ezibalulekile kwabasanda kushada asebevele bengabazali noma uma umama ekhulelwe: uma umakoti nomkhwenyana sebengabazali bengane engaphansi kweminyaka engu-5 ubudala, kungcono ukuphathisa izihlobo, ukuze basebenzise ngokugcwele lolu suku oluhle. kanye nokwengamela inhlangano. Ngaphandle kokukhohlwa ukuwaletha esithombeni.
Ngemva kweminyaka emi-5 noma engu-6, izingane zingabamba iqhaza elibaluleke kakhulu. Ngokuvamile bekhona odwendweni, bazothanda ukuhlotshaniswa nalolu suku olukhulu lokuhlonipha ukuhlangana kwabazali babo. Abadala bangamiswa njengofakazi.
Ubufakazi obuvela komama
U-Cécile nomyeni wakhe banquma ukukhulelwa ingane ngo-2007. Ngemva kokuhlolwa kwezifo zabesifazane, odokotela babatshela ukuthi uhambo luzoba lude. Bagxile emalungiselelweni omshado wabo. Ezinsukwini eziyishumi ngaphambi komkhosi, ngokweseluleko sikadokotela wezifo zabesifazane, uCécile wenza ukuhlolwa kwegazi. Avele abe yinqaba. I-gynecologist yenza i-aphoyintimenti ye-ultrasound yokulandelela okuphuthumayo. Inkinga, uLwesihlanu usuku lwamalungiselelo amakhulu kanye nomhlobiso wekamelo. Akunankinga, u-Cécile uthatha i-ultrasound ngo-9am. Ukuqinisekisa: kunemfanzi encane enamasonto ama-3 esithombeni. Ngo-D-Day, umshado wenziwa ngenjabulo, wonke umuntu ufisela umakoti nomkhwenyana izingane ezinhle. Kusihlwa, phakathi nenkulumo, uCécile nomyeni wakhe babonga izivakashi zabo. Futhi tshela izethameli ngokufika komntwana ... ezinyangeni eziyisi-9. Ngomhla zingama-22 kuSeptemba 2007, umgubho wawungafi ezithombeni nakumafilimu. Kodwa kwabasanda kushada, umuzwa omuhle kakhulu ukuthi usuvele "ku-3" ngalolo suku.
“Sashadela esontweni nasehholo ledolobha. Sakhetha uLwesihlanu, ngo-16 ntambama, ukuze sinikeze izingane isikhathi sokuthatha isihlwathi. Sasisekamelweni “elinengadi” ebiyelwe, kude nomgwaqo ukuze bakwazi ukudlala ngaphandle ngesikhathi se-aperitif nayo eyenzeka ngaphandle. Owethu omkhulu waletha izivumelwano ebandleni, wayeziqhenya kakhulu. Izingane zakujabulela ngempela ukuhlanganyela kulo mcimbi, zisaxoxa nathi njalo ngawo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kulesi simemezelo, yibona ababememe abantu emshadweni kamama nobaba. »Marina.
“Ngomshado wethu, nganginezinyanga eziyisi-6 ngikhulelwe. Sanquma ukushada ngemva kokuthola ukuthi ngikhulelwe ngoba ngangingafuni ukuba negama elihlukile kunelendodana yami. Sakhetha usuku lomshado ngoMay 2008, sashada ngo-August 2008 ngase ngibeletha ngoDisemba 2. Umkhaya wethu wasisiza ukuba sihlele yonke into. Ngeke ngikushintshe lokhu kukhetha. Kusihlwa njengoba sesinabashana nabashana abangu-6, siwumndeni omkhulu obumbene, besinakekela izingane zethu sonke ndawonye. »uNadia