Abazali abakhulumi kakhulu kunakuqala. Isihloko sihlala kubo njalo sinamahloni okuxoxa ngaso. Ukuze basekelwe, abaphendukeli kuzazi zobulili noma izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo kodwa kunalokho kunethiwekhi yabo ukuze babe nemibono phakathi kwabazali noma udokotela okhona. Nokho inkhulumomphendvulwano ewusizo evumela ukuvimbela kanye nemfundo.

“Abazali abasakhulumi kakhulu kunakuqala. Isihloko sihlala sinamahloni ukusondela ngaso sonke isikhathi ”. Ukuze basekelwe, abaphendukeli kuzazi zobulili noma izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo kodwa kunalokho kunethiwekhi yabo ukuze babe nemibono phakathi kwabazali noma udokotela okhona. Nokho inkhulumomphendvulwano ewusizo evumela ukuvimbela kanye nemfundo.

UCaroline Belet Poupeney, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esisebenza ezinganeni nasebancane, sihlukanisa ulwazi oluzoba nelungelo ngamantombazane amancane nabafana abancane.

“Amantombazane asemancane athambekele ekufuneni ukujabulisa isoka lawo. Kumele bakhunjuzwe ukuthi umzimba wabo ungowabo nokuthi kumele azizwe ekulungele. Kukuye ukuthi afune bese ethatha isinqumo. Uma isithandwa sabo siphusha kakhulu, kuwukungahloniphi. Kubalulekile ukuveza indaba ngokushesha lapho abazali bebona ubuhlobo obuhlonziwe, obungathi sína. Futhi nangaphambi kwalokho ”.

Ngokuvamile amantombazane amancane asevele ethatha iphilisi ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene: izikhathi ezijwayelekile, izinduna, njll. Ngakho-ke ingxoxo yezingozi zokukhulelwa okungafunwa akuhambisani ngaso sonke isikhathi nokuthatha iphilisi.

“Kodwa akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi kubazali ukwazi ukuthi ingane yabo inobudlelwano obuqhubekayo yini njengoba intsha ibeka impilo yayo yangasese kanye neyomndeni endaweni yayo”. kuchaza uCaroline Belt Poupeney.

Kubafana, kubalulekile ukubabuza ukuthi bake babukela amafilimu ocansi. Uma kunjalo, abazali kufanele bakwenze kucace kubo ukuthi abakubona kuhluke kakhulu ebulilini “obuvamile”.

Emafilimini, imizwa, uthando, ukuhlonipha abesifazane akukho. Futhi nokho lokhu kuyingqikithi yanoma ibuphi ubuhlobo.

Ukusebenza, amandla, izimo ezicatshangwayo aziyona ingxenye yobudlelwano bocansi obanelisayo nobunempilo. Ukulalela umlingani wakho nokumhlonipha kuyizihluthulelo zobudlelwano obuvumelanayo.

Abafana bavame ukucabanga ngokusebenza: ukuthi bahlale beqondile isikhathi esingakanani, bazozama ziphi izikhundla ze-Kâma-Sutra, mangaki amantombazane abalale nawo. Zisuka nje, bacabangela ubulili nabanye noma eqenjini.

Le mikhuba edunyiswa kwabezindaba ayihlangene nothando. Kufanele ukhulume nabo ngenhliziyo eshayayo, imizwa, imfudumalo, ubumnene, ukunensa. Kufanele uthathe isikhathi sakho futhi ube sesimweni esihle.

Odokotela bezifo zabesifazane sebebona aya ngokwanda amantombazane asemancane angenayo indlela yokuvimbela inzalo esephendukela ekuhushuleni izisu. Ngakho-ke singazibuza mayelana nolwazi kanye nemfundo yocansi esiyithola kulaba basha. Kulamantombazane asemancane, lo mkhuba ubonakala uvamile.

Ngakho-ke abazali kanye neMfundo Kazwelonke banendima yangempela okufanele bayidlale ukuze bachaze kahle umehluko phakathi:

• ukuvimbela kanye nokusetshenziswa kwamakhondomu: ezivikela wena kanye nophathina ezifweni ezithathelwana ngocansi;
• ukuvimbela inzalo: ukuthatha indlela yokuvimbela inzalo efana nephilisi, isiqephu, i-IUD, i-hormonal implant;
• ukuvimbela inzalo okuphuthumayo: ngephilisi lasekuseni. Unyaka ngamunye eFrance, cishe owesifazane oyedwa kwabayishumi abaneminyaka engaphansi kuka-30 usebenzisa ukuvimbela inzalo okuphuthumayo ukuze agweme ingozi yokukhulelwa okungafunwa;
• abortion: ukukhipha isisu: ukukhipha isisu ngokuzithandela (ukukhipha isisu) izidakamizwa noma izinsimbi.

Ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi okuningi kwenziwa abantu ingane ebaziyo. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukukhuluma nengane yakho ukuze uhlale ubukele. Ngabazali ababeka imingcele futhi babonise imithetho. Ukuziphatha okuthile noma ukushukuma komzimba, ngisho noma kwenziwa amalungu omndeni aseduze, kufanele kukhuzwe ngokucacile noma kuvikelwe.

Ubhuti akadingi ukuthi ashaye indlwabu noma abonise izingane zakubo amafilimu ezithombe zocansi. Akudingeki ukuthi umkhulu acele umzukulu wakhe ukuthi ahlale emathangeni akhe amgone. Umzala akanalo ilungelo lokuthinta umzala wakhe, njll.

Ngaphandle kokuwafaka amadimoni wonke amalungu omndeni nokufaka ingane yakhe obishini, kusewusizo ukumtshela ukuthi uma ephoxeka ngomuntu omdala, unelungelo lokunqaba, ahambe ayokhuluma ngakho.

Kufanele banikezwe ulwazi olucacile nolufushane. Asikho isidingo sokukhuluma ngakho isikhathi esingaphezu kwehora. Ubusha akusona isikhathi sokulalela nokuba nesineke.

Uma osemusha enomuzwa wokuthi umzali wakhe udlala ngobuhlobo bobulili, uzifaka engozini yokuzivalela ethule futhi engamethembi. Ukuze igweme ukucasula umzali wayo noma ukulinganisela komkhaya, ingane ikhetha ukuthula.

Uma umzali ahlukunyezwa ngokocansi esemncane, bangase bangakhululeki ukukhuluma ngezingozi zokunukubezwa noma bethuke ukuthi kungase kuqale phansi ngengane yabo siqu. Kulesi simo, uchwepheshe (isazi sezocansi, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, isisebenzi senhlalakahle, udokotela, isikole sabazali) angaba usizo oluhle lokuhamba naye kule nkhulumomphendvulwano.