Okuqukethwe
Izincwadi zesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelika uDale Carnegie zaba umthombo wolwazi lokuqala kumaRussia amaningi emkhakheni wezengqondo. Futhi umqondo wokuthi umuntu angaphumelela kunoma yiliphi ibhizinisi ngenxa yokumomotheka kuphela wabonakala engakholeki kubahlali abadangele bendawo yangemva kweSoviet. Nokho, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izinkolelo-mbono zikaCarnegie ziye zalahlekelwa ukubaluleka. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka?
Izwe lezeluleko
Silambele "izincwadi ezingavunyelwe," sifunda izincwadi zikaCarnegie ngesikhathi ukuthandwa kwakhe e-United States kwase kudlule isikhathi eside. Imisebenzi yakhe ebaluleke kakhulu, Indlela Yokunqoba Abangane Nokuthonya Abantu kanye nokuthi Ungayeka Kanjani Ukukhathazeka Futhi Uqale Ukuphila, yavela eMelika engxenyeni yokuqala yekhulu le-1936: ngo-1948 no-XNUMX, ngokulandelana.
Kafushane, amathiphu ayishumi avela kokuthi Ungakuyeka Kanjani Ukukhathazeka Futhi Uqale Ukuphila ami kanje:
- Funda ukudweba umugqa ocacile phakathi kwesikhathi esidlule nekusasa, ushiye umnyango wesikhathi esedlule uvaliwe.
- Ukucabanga kusengaphambili nokwenza kabusha isimo lapho okubi kakhulu kungase kwenzeke futhi ucabange indlela yokuphuma kuso.
- Funda ukucabanga okuhle nokwenza okuhle.
- Hlala ukhumbula ukuthi lapho sinovalo, silimaza impilo yethu.
- Uma kwenzeka ukukhathazeka nokukhathazeka, zibandakanye ebhizinisini elizokuvumela ukuba uphumule futhi ukhohlwe imbangela yokukhathazeka.
- Khumbula: amathuba okuthi inkinga ikwehlele mancane kakhulu.
- Musa "i-sawdust", okungukuthi, ungaphinde ukhumbule izinkinga zesikhathi esidlule, kodwa wamukele futhi uziyeke.
- Ungathukutheli ngenxa yezinkinga ezincane, ungaziboni nje.
- Setha "umkhawulo" wokukhathazeka kwakho nokukhathazeka.
- Ungagxili kuwena: cabanga kakhulu ngabanye, usize abantu, wenze izenzo ezinhle.
UChristina oneminyaka engu-49 uthi: “Kuye kwadingeka ngibhekisele emsebenzini kaDale Carnegie izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa, kodwa kusukela ngaleso sikhathi ngifunde izincwadi eziningi ezikhuluma ngokukhula kobuntu ngaze ngakhohlwa okuningi. - Nokho, ezinye izeluleko zakhe - ngokwesibonelo, encwadini ethi «Indlela Yokuyeka Ukukhathazeka Futhi Qala Ukuphila», ngisasebenzisa. Bangisiza ukuba nginqobe ukungabaza, ukukhathazeka, ngibhekane nezinkumbulo ezingemnandi nezimo ezinzima zokuphila.”
Ngokuvamile, akukho lutho olubi kakhulu eselulekweni esinjalo. Kodwa-ke, uma unokucindezeleka noma esinye isimo sangaphakathi esinzima, akunakwenzeka ukuthi noma yimuphi wezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo uzoncoma ukuthi ubhekane nakho ngosizo lokucabanga okuhle kanye nezenzo ezinhle.
Imaski ikhombisa
UCarnegie wagomela ngokuthi ukuze ujabule, udinga ukuphumelela emsebenzini, okusho ukuthi ukwazi ukukhuluma nomphakathi, abalingani bebhizinisi abakhangayo kanye nokuphoqa noma yimuphi umuntu ukuthi enze lokho okudingayo.
“Eqinisweni, uCarnegie ufundisa izinto ezingcolile—ukuxhaphaza abantu ukuze kuzuze wena,” kusho uDaria oneminyaka engu-35 ubudala. “Ukukhuluma abafuna ukukuzwa kuwukuzenzisa. Ngakho-ke, uma lezi zincwadi zenza umuntu abe mnandi futhi athandwe, khona-ke umuntu ngokwakhe akazange ashintshe, kodwa wafihla izinhloso zakhe ngaphansi kwesifihla-buso ukuze enze inzuzo.
Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zanamuhla zihambisana kakhulu nombono ofanayo.
"Umqondo oyinhloko kaCarnegie "ukumomotheka, uzothandwa abanye, futhi impumelelo ikulindile," kodwa uma ukhuluma kuphela njengoba eluleka, udinga ukufihla njalo ngemuva kwe-facade, kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, i-gestalt Therapist Sofya Pushkareva. - Uma unobungane kusukela ekuqaleni, ungakwazi ukuxhumana nomunye umuntu, unciphise ukungezwani futhi udale izimo zokuxhumana okwengeziwe. Kodwa uma uqhubeka emoyeni ofanayo nangaphezulu, khona-ke lokhu kuyindlela eqondile ye-neurosis.
Into esemqoka ukuzibona njengoba sinjalo, futhi sivumele imizwa ehlukene ibe njalo. Phela akwenzeki ukujabulisa wonke umuntu.
Umlayezo oyinhloko kaCarnegie ukwenqatshwa komuntu siqu "I" ukuze enze ukuxhumana nabanye abantu kuphumelele. Empilweni, le ndlela iyasebenza impela: kufanelekile ukuyeka umbono wakho engxoxweni futhi uzibambe njalo, njengoba u-interlocutor ezokwenza konke okudingayo. Nokho, ingabe kufanelekile ukusho ukuthi kuyithinta kanjani ingqondo? Phela, imizwa engemihle engayitholi indlela yokuphuma iyanqwabelana futhi ibe imbangela yokucindezeleka.
“Kuvela ukuthi asiziphileli eyethu impilo, kodwa eyomunye umuntu: eyamukelwa ngokuvamile, evamile,” kuqhubeka isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Ngakho-ke, ngenxa yokuxhumana okunjalo, kuba nomuzwa wokunganeliseki, ukulahlekelwa wumuntu siqu.
"Momotheka!" iseluleko sika-Dale Carnegie esiphindaphindwa kakhulu. Indoda emomothekayo evela "esithombeni" sikaCarnegie inakho konke: umndeni, umsebenzi, impumelelo. Kodwa-ke, kubonakala sengathi akukho injabulo nenjabulo: esikhundleni sabo - isizungu nokucindezeleka.
“Kubalulekile ukumamatheka, njengokuthukuthela noma ukukhala, lapho uzizwa kanjalo. Into esemqoka ukuzibona njengoba sinjalo, futhi sivumele imizwa ehlukene ibe njalo. Phela, kusenzima ukujabulisa wonke umuntu, "kuphetha uSofya Pushkareva.