Okuqukethwe
Iphuzu elilodwa licacile zisuka nje: ukuzijwayeza umsebenzi othile, wokusungula noma wezemidlalo, akuphoqelekile! Ezinye izingane zizozibona sezifezeke ngokwanele ngenxa yokuthi ezikwenzayo enkulisa noma esikoleni (ukucula, i-gymnastics, ubuciko bepulasitiki…) futhi, ngesikhathi sazo, ziyoba nesifiso esisodwa kuphela: ukudlala. Lokhu ngeke kubavimbele ekuthuthukeni ngokuvumelana futhi ngeke kubhuntshise ilukuluku labo lemvelo. Umsebenzi kumele uhlale uyintokozo, ngaphandle kokuthi ube yisithiyo, noma enganeni noma kubazali bayo.
Izinzuzo ezithile kuzo zonke izimo
Ukuzijwayeza kwangaphandle kwesikole, ezemidlalo, ezobuciko noma okunye kuyazuzisa futhi ngezinye izikhathi kungasiza omncane ukuthi achume kangcono nakakhulu.
Umsebenzi usekela ukuthuthukiswa kwe-psychomotor yengane. Kumelwe ahlale egxilisa ingqondo yakhe ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kuya ngenkundla, intshisekelo izogxila ekutholweni komzimba, ukuhlotshaniswa kokunyakaza nokuthinta komzimba, ukubamba isikhala, ukuvuswa kwezinzwa ...
Angakwazi ukulinganisa isici esithile esiphazamisayo sobuntu bakhe. Kanjalo umuntu onamahloni uyoba nokuzethemba ekuvezeni imizwa yakhe emkhakheni lapho amakhono akhe aziswa khona. Ngokufanayo, umkhuba wezemidlalo uzohambisa ukuchichima kwamandla wengane ethoniswe kakhulu.
Unikezwa indawo entsha yokukhuluma. Nakuba ubuhlakani bakhe bukhuthazwa ekhaya nasesikoleni, umsebenzi ovumelana nalokho akuthandayo ungamkhuthaza ukuthi aqhubekele phambili. Uba kancane engadini yakhe eyimfihlo, lapho ubuntu bakhe buchuma khona, ngaphandle komndeni wakhe kanye nabafunda nabo.
Uhlangothi lwe-Socialization futhi, inzuzo ingokoqobo. Umsebenzi ngamunye, iqembu ngalinye linemithetho yalo, ehlukile kuleyo yendlu kanye neyesikole. Kodwa-ke, kule minyaka, umntwana kufanele afunde, ngokusemandleni akhe, ukuyeka ukubeka intando yakhe ukuze avumelane nokuphila emphakathini.
Umkhathizwe omncane uyanda. Ngokwemvelo ubonisa ilukuluku elinganeliseki. Leli qophelo liyohlala liyithonya lokufunda, ukukhula kanye nokwenza ibhizinisi. Ukuthola izindawo ezintsha nezindlela ezintsha kusiza ukukubhebhezela.
Ingxoxo ukuze uthole isiqondiso esingcono
Ingane eneminyaka engu-3-4 ubudala ayivamisile ukuveza isifiso sokuhlanganyela emsebenzini iyodwa. Uma enikezwa futhi evuma, ngeke azi ukuthi ukukhetha kwakhe kukuphi. Abazali, isikhathi esiningi, ukwenza iziphakamiso.
Cabangela isimo sakhe sengqondo nokuthanda kwakhe. Sibonile ukuthi isenzo singamsiza ukuthi azipholise emaphutheni amancane… Kodwa hhayi kakhulu! Akuwona umbuzo wokuzenzela udlame noma azithole esesimeni sokuhluleka. Isibonelo, ikhono elincane ngezandla zakhe libeka engozini ukusebenza eshabhu yobuciko bepulasitiki, ngaphandle kokuthola ubuciko. Ukungena emabhodini kungase kube ukuhlukunyezwa kumuntu ongenayo i-introvert, ozobe evalekile nakakhulu kuye.
Akukhona okwakhe ukwenza amaphupho akho amadala afezeke. Ingabe uyazisola ngokungawujayezanga umdanso noma umculo? Kodwa ingane yakho ingase ingakhangi lezi ziqondiso. Kulokhu, ungagcizeleli.
Kusukela eminyakeni emi-4, angakwazi ukuveza isifiso sakhe. Ezinye izingane zifuna umsebenzi owenziwe abazali bazo, ezinye zizehlukanisa nawo ngamabomu. Kanti abanye bathonywa i-comrade noma imfashini. Noma yini? Abazibophezeli impilo yabo yonke.
Awukwazi ukuthola ukukhetha kwakhe okuhlakaniphile? Uma unezizathu eziqondile, khuluma naye ngokucacile: izinto ezingahambisani nempilo yakhe (ngeseluleko sikadokotela), zibiza kakhulu ngesabelomali sakho, akukho sakhiwo esiseduze ... Noma, kalula nje, mhlawumbe akakabi neminyaka edingekayo? Bese unikeza enye indlela.
Ungakhohliswa ukwazisa kwakho siqu “izipho” zakhe.. Isifiso sakhe singase simvumele ukuthi aphumelele endaweni ongakaze uyicabange. Futhi uma kwakukhona ukungahambisani kwangempela, wayekuqaphela; ngezindleko zokudumazeka mhlawumbe, kodwa hhayi kakhulu kule minyaka lapho ukuthatheka kudlula ngokushesha. Uma nje kuyindaba yokunambitha, okumele ukwenze ukukhothama. Futhi kubi kakhulu uma uzonda ibhola noma uma ungakwazi ukubekezelela umsindo we-violin!
Hambani ndawonye ngesisekelo esihle
Ngisho noma kuchazwe ngokucacile, umsebenzi uhlala ungaqondakali enganeni. Noma ethola umbono oqhelelene neqiniso. Iseshini yokuhlola kuphela (noma okungcono nokho, ezimbili noma ezintathu) ezomvumela ukuthi abone ngempela. Izinhlangano, amakilabhu, njll. ngokuvamile bayakunikeza, ngezinye izikhathi ngisho mahhala.
Qala kancane! Umsebenzi owodwa, oneseshini yamasonto onke, ungaphezu kokwanele. Kufanele agcine isikhathi sokudlala, sokuphupha … I-ajenda yongqongqoshe ingalimaza ibhalansi yakhe.
Uma kungenzeka, khetha uLwesithathu, ekuseni kakhulu noma ekuseni kakhulu. Ngemva kosuku lwesikole, ingane ibonisa ukukhathala okuthile, okungakuthandi ukugxilisa ingqondo kwayo. Yingoba sisebenza enkulisa! Okungenani, sifunda lapho futhi singaphansi kwemithetho. Lapho ephuma, omncane ukwazisa ngokukhethekile ukukwazi ukunyakaza, ukudlala noma ukuphumula. NgeMigqibelo, umsebenzi uphazamisa isikhathi somndeni futhi ngezinye izikhathi uqhudelana nokuphuma, okungase kuphazamise ukuya futhi kubangele ukungezwani.
Khetha isakhiwo esiseduze nekhaya lakho. Kuzokongela isikhathi eside sokuthutha. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ingane yakho izokwazi ukuhlangana nabangane besikole lapho, noma yenze abasha endaweni yangakubo.
Yenzani leli khefu libe ukuzijabulisa kwenu nobabili. Mayelana nohambo, zama ukugwema ama-cavalcade nobabili! Lapho efika enokuthula, uzozuza kangcono kulo msebenzi. Futhi kungani ungaziniki ithuba lokuzinika isikhashana sokuphumula? Kunokuba usisebenzise ngokugcwele isikhathi sakho sokulinda, ngokuthenga ngokwesibonelo, gxilisa inoveli enhle, shayela umngane noma ubhukude ubude obumbalwa bechibi. Lapho kufika isikhathi sokuhlangana kabusha, uyotholakala kakhudlwana ukuze ulalele ukuphawula kwakhe.
Ukulindela okunengqondo
Kuye ngesimo sakhe sengqondo, ingane yakho encane izokunikeza okuningi noma okuncane okuvelayo mayelana nohambo lwakhe olusha. “Ungawupheki” ngokuphikelela, uzofika!
Ukuthoba izinkathazo zakho, unomkhulumeli: isikhulumi. Uma ikutshela ukuthi ingane yakho ibonakala ikhululekile, ukuthi ibamba iqhaza futhi ixhumana nefunda nabo, konke kuhamba kahle. Kubalulekile ukubopha nokugcina ukuxhumana nalo muntu. Kodwa ungambuzi ngemibuzo! Isenkonzweni yeqembu lonke, hhayi ikherubi lakho elilodwa.
Umsebenzi awusona isikole! Kule minyaka, asikhulumi ngokufunda kodwa sikhuluma ngokuthwasa. Asiyifuni imiphumela, ingasaphathwa eyokusebenza. Sibheke injabulo, ukuvuleka, ukugcwaliseka. Abazali bakuthola kunzima ukulahla ithemba lokuthi ingane yabo izogqama futhi ibonise “izipho” ezithile. Kodwa-ke, umuntu angazibona ejabule ngokushesha nje lapho enza idili - okuyinto azokwenza kalula kakhulu ngoba akalindeli ngokweqile.
Ungaqhubeki nomsebenzi ekhaya, ngaphandle kwalapho ezwakalisa isifiso sakhe sokwenza kanjalo. Ngokumenza “asebenze” phakathi kwezikhathi ezimbili, uzifaka engozini yokumnengeka.
Kule minyaka, ukuthatheka akuhlali isikhathi eside. Uma ingane yakho ifuna ukushintsha imisebenzi njalo ngonyaka, uma kungenjalo kaningi, ungayisoli ngokungahambisani. Umbono wokuzibophezela uhlala ungaphandle kuye. Isidingo sakhe sokuhlukahluka sifakazela ilukuluku elihle kakhulu nesifiso sokuthola. Mhlawumbe, kusukela eminyakeni engu-8, uzothola uthando oluhlala njalo. Okwamanje, uyazijabulisa. Nokho, injabulo iyinjini enamandla yokuqhubekela phambili ekuphileni.