Okuqukethwe
- Ingabe ukuba khona kukababa lapho ebeletha kuwumsebenzi?
- Kungani umama enqaba ukuba khona kukayise lapho ebeletha?
- Iyini indima kababa ngesikhathi sokubeletha?
- Ukuba khona kukababa lapho ebeletha: yimiphi imiphumela kubaba?
- Ukuba khona kukababa lapho ebeletha: yiziphi izingozi zocansi lombhangqwana?
- Ukuba khona kukababa ngesikhathi sokubeletha: indlela yokwenza isinqumo?
- Kuvidiyo: Ungameseka kanjani owesifazane obelethayo?
Ingabe ukuba khona kukababa lapho ebeletha kuwumsebenzi?
Kwamanye amadoda, ukuya ekubelethweni kuwumsebenzi, ngoba abalingani babo bathembele ngokuphelele ebukhoneni babo. Futhi uma cishe u-80% wamadoda eba khona lapho ebeletha, ngiyamangala ukuthi mangaki kuwo abenokukhetha, ”kuchaza umbelethisi u-Benoît Le Goëdec. Kuyenzeka ubaba angabi nazwi futhi kube nzima kuye ukuthi ayeke, ngenxa yokwesaba ukuvela - kakade - kubaba omubi noma umuntu oyigwala. Futhi qaphela ukuba ungamenzi azizwe enecala: iqiniso lokungabi khona akusho neze ukuthi uzoba ubaba omubi, kodwa izizathu ezithile zingamcindezela ukuba enqabe ukuhlanganyela.
Kungani umama enqaba ukuba khona kukayise lapho ebeletha?
Ngesikhathi sokubeletha, ubumfihlo bowesifazane buvezwa ngokuphelele. Ukuveza umzimba wakhe, ukuhlupheka kwakhe, ukungasabambeki kungakhuthaza umama ozozala ukuba angakwamukeli ukuba khona komngane wakhe womshado. U-Benoît Le Goëdec uyaqinisekisa mayelana nalokhu ukuthi “angafuna ukuzizwa ekhululekile ngokwendlela akhuluma ngayo nangendlela akhuluma ngayo, angafuni ukuthi umngane wakhe ambheke lapho engeyena futhi enqabe ukumbuyisela isithombe somzimba wesilwane ”. Kule ndaba, okunye ukwesaba kuvame ukuqhubekela phambili: ukuthi indoda ibona kuye kuphela umama futhi ifihla ubufazi bakhe. Ekugcineni, abanye omama bakusasa bakhetha ukuba bodwa ngoba bafuna ukujabulela ngokugcwele lesi sikhathi - ngobugovu kancane - ngaphandle kokuthi babelane ngakho nobaba.
Iyini indima kababa ngesikhathi sokubeletha?
Umsebenzi womngane uwukuqinisekisa umkakhe, amvikele. Uma owesilisa ekwazi ukumgcina ezolile, ukuze anqobe ukucindezeleka kwakhe, uba nomuzwa wokusekelwa, osekelwe ngempela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, "ngesikhathi sokubeletha, owesifazane uphonsa ezweni elingaziwa futhi yena, ngokuba khona kwakhe, umnika ukuzethemba nokuqiniseka ukuthi kuzoba nokubuyela empilweni yakhe evamile", ngokusho kukaBenoît Le Goëdec. Lesi sakamuva siphinde sichaze inkinga ekhona: ukuthi akusekho umbelethisi oyedwa kowesifazane kuholela ekushintsheni endimeni kababa. Uba matasa kakhulu ngendlela yokuthi, isibonelo, ucelwa ukuba abheke izikhundla zomkakhe, okuyinto okungafanele ayenze.
Ukuba khona kukababa lapho ebeletha: yimiphi imiphumela kubaba?
Akunjalo neze ngoba isipiliyoni, umuzwa womuntu ngamunye uhlukile. Indoda ngayinye iziveza ngendlela yayo. Futhi, ukungabi khona lapho kuzalwa akuvimbeli iqiniso lokuba ubaba omuhle noma omubi. Kancane kancane, izibopho phakathi kukababa nengane zizokhula futhi ziqinise. Akufanele sikhohlwe ukuthi akukhona konke mayelana nokuzalwa kwengane: kukhona ngaphambi, ngesikhathi nangemva kokubeletha.
Ukuba khona kukababa lapho ebeletha: yiziphi izingozi zocansi lombhangqwana?
Ukuba khona kukababa lapho ebeletha kungaba nemiphumela empilweni yocansi yombhangqwana. Ngezinye izikhathi indoda izwa ukuncipha kwesifiso ngemva kokubona ukuzalwa kwengane yakhe. Kodwa lokhu kuncipha kwe-libido kungase kwenzeke nakubaba ongekho, ngoba nje umkakhe ushintsha isimo sakhe ngandlela-thile, uba ngumama. Ngakho-ke awukho umthetho odabeni.
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Ukuba khona kukababa ngesikhathi sokubeletha: indlela yokwenza isinqumo?
Uma isinqumo sithathwa ngababili, kuyadingeka ngokuphelele ukuhlonipha ukukhetha komunye nomunye. Ubaba akufanele azizwe enesibopho nomama ekhungathekile. Ngakho-ke ukuxhumana kubalulekile phakathi kwalokhu okubili. Kodwa-ke, ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi lapho kushisa umcimbi ubaba wesikhathi esizayo ushintsha ingqondo yakhe, ngakho ungangabazi ukushiya indawo yokuziphendulela. Futhi-ke, kungenzeka impela ngaye ukuba aphume ekamelweni lokusebenza ngezikhathi ezithile uma ezwa isidingo sokwenza kanjalo.