Amehlo abheka #angingesabi ukusho, ahlwitha "shaya esiswini, ukungena, iminyaka engu-14 ubudala, ngibambe ikhanda lami, ukwesaba..." izibuko ezimnyama, amaphoyisa ...". Angiboni. Amagama, ama-avatar abantu obajwayele hhayi abesifazane. Ngiyaziphoqa ukuthi ngifunde. Intukuthelo. Ubuhlungu. Ukudumala. Amahloni.
Ekhanda lami, uhlelo lwamaklayenti amaningi eminyakeni eminingi. Inkumbulo ifana nesibane esidakiwe, sihlwitha amazwi aklinyiweyo ogwini olubili lwesihogo: labo ababengaphansi kobudlova nalabo abakwenzayo.
I-Facebook (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia) - idokodo lokuvuma izono? Ihhovisi le-Psychotherapist? Igumbi lemoto? U-Carl Jung uzonikeza isandla sakhe sobunxele ukuze athole ithuba lokusebenza ne-FB - indawo ekahle yokuhlola ukuhlola ukuquleka okuhlangene. Amagagasi okuqonda okukhulu, njenge-tsunami, amboza izindawo ezinkulu ngomzuzwana, ashayisane, abonisa futhi ayaqina, egcwala ingqondo yezigidi.
I-Flash mob #Angesabi ukusho ukuthi ithinte izinkulungwane zabantu:
abesifazane abayizisulu zodlame locansi;
amadoda abambe igciwane lecala;
abantu babo bobabili ubulili abezwa inhlamba nobuzenzisi besenzo somphakathi;
bethukile, futhi ngenxa yalokho abadlwenguli abanolaka (abangempela nabacashile).
Kuvela otolika nabahleki: “indlu yezifebe”, “banecala, bacunule”, omama bemizi abathukuthele — “luhlobo luni lwezihlubuki lolu? - hamba kuma-psychotherapist, izingane zikufunda "; ama-psychotherapists — «woza kimi, ngizosiza wonke umuntu», njll. Futhi ngokokuqala ngqa (enkumbulweni yami) umlando we-inthanethi uphume ngenkuthalo kumakhompyutha namagajethi. Xoxani ekhaya, emgwaqeni, emakhefi nasemapaki.
Isimangaliso esikhulu, esiqala ngokumsulwa nangobuqotho, siyawohloka, sithatha ubuzenzisi, ukwesaba kanye nolaka lomphakathi.
Ibhola leqhwa leqhwa elihlanzekile, elethulwa ukusuka entabeni phansi, kancane kancane lithola izendlalelo ezintsha. Kuqale kuhlanzeke, bese kuba udaka oluxutshwe nezinduku nezinqamu zikagwayi, kwehle ngesivinini, kushanele konke okusendleleni yakho. Ngakho-ke isimangaliso esikhulu, esiqala ngokumsulwa nangobuqotho, siyawohloka, sithatha ubuzenzisi, ukwesaba nolaka lomphakathi.
Ngizozama ukugwema izilinganiso. Lesi senzo sagqama kalula, njengomlilo wehlathi esomiso, okusho ukuthi akunandaba ukuthi ubani ophonse isinqamu sikagwayi esivelele. Kwakuzokwenzeka ngokushesha noma kamuva. Kwaba buhlungu futhi kwaphuka.
Umngane wami wangitshela ukuthi wake washaywa unogada endaweni yokuzijabulisa ngaphandle kwesizathu, futhi umphenyi osemusha waphakamisa amahlombe ngokungakwazi ukuzibamba: “Amakhamera abhalwe phansi, abekho ofakazi, akukho engingakwenza…” Wabuza ukuthi yini kwenzeke uma ebulewe. Umfana waphakamisa izandla zakhe. Lapho izikhungo zezenhlalakahle zingakwazi ukuvikela ababuthakathaka, lapho uhulumeni enikeza "ukubambelela", konke okusele ukuthulula ubuhlungu nokucasuka ku-Facebook (inhlangano eqinile evinjelwe eRussia).
Futhi kungani wonke umuntu wayecabanga ukuthi kwakuphathelene nobulili? Noma ngabe uqine kangakanani, ozankosi, iziswebhu nemihuzuko, kuhlale kuwumsebenzi wokuzithandela. Ukuthi nje olimini lwethu amagama afanayo asho kokubili ukuhlanganisa nokululaza. Lokho i-Facebook (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia) ekhuluma ngakho ngokudlwengulwa, ukushaywa, ukuphoqelelwa, akuhlangene naleli gama ... Lona uhlangothi olusha lomphakathi onobuzenzisi. I-Glossy Orthodox-ithanda izwe futhi ingcwele kusukela ngaphandle, ngaphakathi - namaphoyisa adlwengulayo, amashumi eminyaka ecindezelo, izimpimpi nonogada.
Olimini lwethu, kokubili ukuhlanganisa nokululaza kuchazwa ngamagama afanayo.
Emhlambini wezilwane, ukuphoqeleka ukuya ocansini kudala isigaba sabaphathi. Owesilisa onamandla umboza izihlobo ezibuthakathaka, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubulili buni, ukuze aqinise amandla akhe.
Yebo, bekulokhu kunobudlova. Mhlawumbe, futhi kuyohlale kunjalo, kungokwemvelo emvelweni yomuntu. Akusho lutho ukuthi ungowesilisa noma ungowesifazane. Badlwengula wonke umuntu. Ngokuziphatha nangokwenyama. Kodwa kuphela ezweni lethu "njengokungathi" kujwayelekile. Kuyinto evamile "ukujezisa", "ukwehlisa", "ukwehlisa". Futhi ngisho nesixuku esilwa nobudlova sizala ubudlova obusha. Manje sekuwukuziphatha.
Ekuboneni kokuqala, ukuvela okungazelelwe kwezinkumbulo ezibuhlungu ezicindezelwe kufanele kube i-psychotherapeutic. Ikuvumela ukuthi uthuntuthe imbiza yezicabucabu, uzikhulule, uzihlanze. Kodwa kuphela ekuqaleni.
Ngibuze imibuzo emantombazaneni engiwaziyo ashicilele ukuvuma izono kuwebhu - athi akubanga lula. Ngendlela efanayo. Abazali abavumi, abajwayelene nabo bavumela amahlaya angacacile, abantu abasha bathule. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abaxhumanisi bami abaphawule ukuthi ngamunye wayegcwele izambulela zezambulo emilayezweni yomuntu siqu. Abesifazane abaningi bafuna ukwabelana, kodwa abawatholi amandla noma bayesaba. Mhlawumbe bazoba ngcono kancane. Esikubona ku-inthanethi kumane kuyiphuzu leqhwa.
Isenzo esikhulu sidala inkohliso yokuvikeleka, okufana nokuthi "emhlabeni nokufa kubomvu." Eqinisweni, kumsebenzisi ngamunye, ukuvuma izono esidlangalaleni kuba impahla yabaqashi abathile, ozakwabo, abashade nabo, izingane ... I-flashmob izophela. Impi izoqhubeka.
Inkundla yezokuxhumana yazama ukuphakamisa umsebenzi ongokomoya womphakathi olele othulini futhi uphonswe ngaphandle njengokungadingeki. Akuwona umbuso, noma izinhlangano zomphakathi, noma uNkulunkulu angakwenqabeli, isonto seliyithwele isikhathi eside. Umzamo wehlulekile. Isisindo asithathwanga.